missjones4812 Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 It has been 2 months since my ex walked out on our son and I with no warning and moved in with some piece of trash he works with. Today is also our sons 1st birthday. I have been doing really well for the last few weeks, but today has been rough. I keep thinking back to a year ago, the promise he made to his son and our family, and it rips my heart out. I hate him so much for this, but today I am wishing my family was still together, that today could be so much better with him here. The pain is in the foreground and I am so angry that such a special day has to be tainted by something so terrible and hurtful...
Rainy1030 Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 It has been 2 months since my ex walked out on our son and I with no warning and moved in with some piece of trash he works with. Today is also our sons 1st birthday. I have been doing really well for the last few weeks, but today has been rough. I keep thinking back to a year ago, the promise he made to his son and our family, and it rips my heart out. I hate him so much for this, but today I am wishing my family was still together, that today could be so much better with him here. The pain is in the foreground and I am so angry that such a special day has to be tainted by something so terrible and hurtful... Does he not see him? Assuming you mean he left you for another girl that he works with (or even just got with her immediately after), either way he was probably already cheating on you with her. Even if he wasn't, jumping into living with another person that fast is almost always a bad idea. Couple that with going directly from one relationship to another. Yeah, they won't work out. Statistically only between 2% and 10% of affair turned relationships work out (depends on the source). Then around 5% of those relationships work long term. And that's JUST with the affair factor (mostly due to massive trust issues and the fantasy vs. reality and the problems that ensue). Add in the moving in immediately and they've caused more problems for themselves. He's probably in that new relationship blind stage right now, give it some time and he'll likely realize he was an idiot, try to get you back, etc. It could take weeks, it could take months (probably not years, but who knows?). What you do at that point is your choice. At the very least, hopefully he'll act like a father again. :/ 1
todreaminblue Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 It has been 2 months since my ex walked out on our son and I with no warning and moved in with some piece of trash he works with. Today is also our sons 1st birthday. I have been doing really well for the last few weeks, but today has been rough. I keep thinking back to a year ago, the promise he made to his son and our family, and it rips my heart out. I hate him so much for this, but today I am wishing my family was still together, that today could be so much better with him here. The pain is in the foreground and I am so angry that such a special day has to be tainted by something so terrible and hurtful... feel for you and your son , your son is lucky however to have a parent such as yourself, abandonment i shard to deal with ...i was too ....with five children one mentally impaired, its freaking tough,i was hospitalized medical intervention, where i got some therapy.......months of therapy....then i moved closer to my family.....my mum and my sister, can you organize a birthday party with your friends and family for your son......maybe some bubs of friends or family could come to the party , doesn't matter it isn't on the day of your son's birthday that day can be a private day for you and your son, but a celebration when you are ready for having someone so special in your life for a year....celebrate that.......you could do the place up with balloons and streamers and a home made birthday cake....there will still be sadness there on your part but you can chase some of those blues away....with your sons smiles....i wish you much love .....many hugs....and i am smilin at you.....i chucked a party for my youngest by selling the engagement ring....it was a wonderful day...many presents for her and many smiles loads fo balloons a room full which i nearly passed out blowing up....and i made a cake.....it was a wonderful day.......make a day for you and your son.....:bunny:...deb 2
Author missjones4812 Posted April 10, 2013 Author Posted April 10, 2013 Rainy- he sees him very little. I know that their relationship is superficisl, has no teal meaning and really just total bull****. Yesterday was just tough because not only was it his birthday, it was 2 months to the day that I caught him with the homewrecker... She is a ****ty person snd an even worse mother (she has a 4 yr old) I am glad my son isn't around them much. We did have a party for him on Sat. Which his father came to late and left early and without a gift... He is such a piece of ****. I am so angry at him. He has made our life so much harder thsn it ever had to be... And for what?? Some kind of vslidation that he needed from sone whore? PATHETIC!! Glad my sadness didn't last! 1
Author missjones4812 Posted April 10, 2013 Author Posted April 10, 2013 Sorry, on my phone and did not read through before I posted!!
destroyed4sho Posted April 10, 2013 Posted April 10, 2013 Rainy- he sees him very little. I know that their relationship is superficisl, has no teal meaning and really just total bull****. Yesterday was just tough because not only was it his birthday, it was 2 months to the day that I caught him with the homewrecker... She is a ****ty person snd an even worse mother (she has a 4 yr old) I am glad my son isn't around them much. We did have a party for him on Sat. Which his father came to late and left early and without a gift... He is such a piece of ****. I am so angry at him. He has made our life so much harder thsn it ever had to be... And for what?? Some kind of vslidation that he needed from sone whore? PATHETIC!! Glad my sadness didn't last! No Gift? He is truly a piece of crap. You dodged a bullet there. Feel lucky that something good came out of your past relationship - a beautiful child. Some people are not so blessed. :-( Keep on with NC, soon enough you will get stronger and get over him. 1
travelbug1996 Posted April 10, 2013 Posted April 10, 2013 He is a loser. just keep a smile on that lil boys face and you will be fine. hang tight.
blindhope Posted April 10, 2013 Posted April 10, 2013 Thats horrible to hear that someone would do that to their child. I hate to say it but your better off with that scumbag out. He could end up doing more harm than good and could have been toxic over the years. I really feel for you and what your going through but your son is very lucky to have such a strong mother. And it hopefully some day a father too. I hope you find someone better for the both of you. 3
Author missjones4812 Posted April 10, 2013 Author Posted April 10, 2013 He is a piece of ****! I am definately in the anger stage of the grief process. I just really hate knowing that when he does take our son, its to the homewreckers trailer that he moved into the day he walked out on us. Nit to mention he moved in after hanging out a few times outside of work... Its like they are using my son to play house. But then again, she doesn't even take care of her own child so who knows... What I do know is that if I get with soneone down the road that has a reputation like hers (which I never would), he would do everything in his power to keep some other guy away from his son, wven though he doesn't want to be there everyday. Just wish he was a little more empathetic and would see things from my perspective...but that may never happen! 1
blindhope Posted April 11, 2013 Posted April 11, 2013 That is painful to hear, breaks ups and divorce are almost impossible to handle keeping yourself together, but with a child you can't even let up and take the time you need. I think what your doing is great for your child and someone as low ans sleazy as he is will find his own way out of your life, and the trailer trash he's with for that matter. Stay strong an d keep doing best whats for you and your baby. Realize it's ok that it's not easy and ask for help. But just remember you will do better and you'll make a better life for your son too the more the poor role model and bad father is out of the picture.
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