TheFriend Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 (edited) Today would have been one year with my ex. It is a very very difficult day for me today. I had so much planned for her on this big day. Anyways I wanted everyone's opinion on contacting her today and thanking her for all of the great times we shared over the year. I am not sure what the value would be honestly.... But there is an itch that feels like it meds to be scratched I hate this. Thanks guys. Edited April 8, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
mtnbiker3000 Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 I wouldn't! It won't do anything but mess you up. What would expect to get from that? It will not accomplish that! It will mess you up. Don't do it!!! Write out what you want to say, but don't send it to her!!! Post here instead. I need a good read
iouaname Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 How long have you been broken up? And I don't think that you should, because I don't think you'll get what you want from it and it might just make the day even harder for you I know from experience now that breaking the contact means all of the emotions come flooding back, no matter what happens, even if the interaction is pleasant.
CompleteFailure Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 No. Stop. Don't do it. This sounds like a very bad idea.
Echo000 Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 dont say anything, it will only cause you more pain. What if she does not even respond? That would crush you- I know it would crush me. Stay strong brotha, you got support right here on this website.
AloneInParadise Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 No do not call her! Take all that money that you were going to use to show her a good time and do something for yourself. Trust me. Calling her will do no good and it will make you feel even worse once you talk to her. She may not even pick up, and then you will be devastated. Just sit back and "KNOW" that she is thinking of you too and are probably having the same feelings.
McGriff Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 In response to a breakup, everything you SHOULD do is counterintuitive to what you actually want to do. Don't contact her. It won't do anything but push her farther away.
iouaname Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 In response to a breakup, everything you SHOULD do is counterintuitive to what you actually want to do. Don't contact her. It won't do anything but push her farther away. This is exactly right. It becomes your heart vs. your brain, and the bad decisions happen when your heart convinces your brain of something. Eventually though, I think your heart gets so beat down itself that your brain just takes over. Then you build the experience of being able to let your brain dictate the decisions! People get really down on each other about breaking NC. Not to be jerks, but because we all want to help each other and we all know to some degree that no contact is really the best way. I just hope that everyone is still able to provide each other support even when we do make the stupid decisions! 1
Author TheFriend Posted April 8, 2013 Author Posted April 8, 2013 I will not be sending an email most likely! I was having so e weak moments this morning but you all have helped me to realize there is jack **** that will come out of it:) 1
crispywat Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 Today would have been one year with my ex. It is a very very difficult day for me today. I had so much planned for her on this big day. Anyways I wanted everyone's opinion on contacting her today and thanking her for all of the great times we shared over the year. I am not sure what the value would be honestly.... But there is an itch that feels like it meds to be scratched I hate this. Thanks guys. I had this a few days ago.....we would been a year on the 31st, i didnt do anything but 2 days later i had a text off my ex. I thought great maybe there is a chance..but it was to tell me she had met someone else and i should know (we work together too) kind of blew that out the water really, tact of the woman, i been upset ever since though did an email after the news, and regreted it as she replied just draw a line under our relationship......more like ive forgotten we was even together 1
AM34 Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 Hey bud, In my opinion, I don't see any harm in contacting her today. First off, it's not like you contact your ex frequently, so reaching out on a special date to you isn't unusual or weird. Worst case scenario, your ex doesn't reply to you and you keep pushing forward with your life. Sending that message doesn't show weakness, it simply expresses feelings, and if she's not mature enough to realize and appreciate it for what it's worth, don't sweat it. Best of luck to you bud.
Author TheFriend Posted April 8, 2013 Author Posted April 8, 2013 She has made it so clear she doesn't give a damn about me and is very very angry and hurtful everytime there is communication... That being said does that change your opinion AM34? As far as everyone else goes I don't hope for reconciliation, I just honestly had the greatest year of my life when I was with her and I want to thank her.... I feel like its extremely irrational thinking...
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