AngelBunny19 Posted September 15, 2004 Posted September 15, 2004 Im alittle confused right now, i guess i should start at the top eh hehe. for the last couple weeks i've been kinda down and out, a whole bunch of bad news and bad things seemed to come all at once and well, im sure we all know how everything coming at once can make you feel emotionally and worst off its mainly with my mom,but anyway, i work with my boyfriend of one year (we havent been working 2gether that long) and for the last week i was really down,i'd be tired because i was stressed and working and i wasnt very talkative seeing as my head was elsewhere but i would still do my best to make conversation with him. he could tell i wasnt my normal self and instead of asking me what was wrong or striking a conversation himself he just didn't talk to me hardly at all. recently, he's really be uhm...lacking ,as a boyfriend, we never have anytime alone except at like 230am when all his friends have left, and that changed last weekend when two of them showed up a 2am and we were right in the middle(if u know what i mean) and he still went to greet them instead of acting like maybe we were busy,cuz we were,and note:these guys had already been there that night. and then today he was really incredibly rude to me, and finally i told him he didnt need to help me(with work) anymore i would rather do it myself he got all mad and started telling me how i dont make suggestions and dont do anything and im always depressed, when i asked him how im always depressed he answered "for like the last two weeks" and i said oh so now im not allowed to be sad, its not like im taking it out on you. then he said he was sick of it and it was over(which in the end was only said to hurt and wasnt true). after all was pretty much ok enough argueing, i thought about the time when he worked nights every night of the week except sat and sun. for 6 months, and we never talked he barely ever called me and was always so tired we didnt do anything but sit around, and he was moody 24/7. yet i didnt break up with him, and he can't even try and be supportive when im having trouble in my life and its stressing me out? is he just an inconsiderate person? or am i reading into this to much? oh, one more thing that really got me, we are big vid addicts and we played this one game and i was trying to fight a boss and i didnt know waht to do and so i said fine u beat it then and he did(but he got a really lucky shot killed em all) and when i said ah sweet now we can get through the door he said see that wasnt hard, and i said it was for me and hes like well you werent doing anything u were jsut running around getting knocked down. i said i tried and i didnt get a lucky shot like you did and hes like oh if only i had a recorder so u could watch it again.........is that pathetic? cause i thought it was, over a videogame Sorry its so long.....thansk !
Author AngelBunny19 Posted September 15, 2004 Author Posted September 15, 2004 Im 20 and he's 23 (hope that was a real question and not sarcasm)
mighty bop Posted September 15, 2004 Posted September 15, 2004 No it was a real question. It just helps to put things in perspective Basically a lot of your fighting I would think comes from being around each other so much. You work together. I think relationships rarely work out when the two people work together. I've been there three times already. I would suggest trying to get a different job and maybe do other things than play video games all day (if that's what you really do). Then things will be different, believe me. You guys seem to be around each other so much and are probably sick of it. Chris
moimeme Posted September 16, 2004 Posted September 16, 2004 Quit expecting him to know what you're thinking. Quit tossing off comments at him and expecting him to understand all the meaning you think you're conveying. Most people don't read minds. You two need to communicate. Spell things out. Make like he's a simpleton and be clear about what you think and what you mean rather than dealing in vague hints and snide remarks.
Author AngelBunny19 Posted September 16, 2004 Author Posted September 16, 2004 well lucky for us we dont have a problem understanding what the other means and if we think it means otherwise usually we're both bold enough to ask what the other meant, the problem is he usually thinks hes always right and cant take critisism from ppl very well but deals it out just fine, so hes more difficult to communicate with and if he feels like hes possibly becoming the underdog in the spat then he'll resort to critisism just for the record we're a very " we go out too much sumtimes" couple, so a weekend of just vids and movies suits us just fine except when he has to put me down over something so trivial. also, we only work with each other for 3 hrs a day and have different day jobs AND dont hang out during the week just for break factor. Thanks for the suggestions though , maybe sumone can tell me sumthing from the guys side, so i can have an inside look instead of from my point of view. PS: oh, a Q for the guys(or even girls who wanna give it from a girls view) here, just for my own personal knowing, would any of you tell your girlfriends(i dont think wives count ,they already know they gotcha ^.^) about a girl that hit on you while u were working AND then proceed to tell her the other girl was attractive? is that really sumthing you tell your GF?
mighty bop Posted September 16, 2004 Posted September 16, 2004 To your last question: that depends on if your gf/bf can take hearing something like that without getting jealous. Chris
billybadass36 Posted September 16, 2004 Posted September 16, 2004 With re: to your last question: I would tell her with the purpose being to just let my g.f. know that she better not take me for granted b/c there's others out there that are interested....which is maybe what he's doing in your case.
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