th90 Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 I knew all along this day would come. The day I'd be told he's in a new relationship. I was in the middle of the class when my friend popped the news and immediately I felt like my brain went into shock. I couldn't feel my head for a few minutes and I was very worried I would actually pass out. Thank god I didn't. And I didn't even feel like crying, all I said was "whatever, I don't want to know anything about him" in response. But there was a storm building up inside me. I'm still having palpitations, I got so anxious I kept shaking through the entire class. I had to hide my anxiety and pretended I didn't care because I really shouldn't care at all. I'm still trying so hard to get over him, I have to pretend everyday that he never came into my life, I've been working so hard to just get to indifference, all while he's probably having the time of his life with this new girl. And now, I have to fight my urge to check on him and the girl. Please, I really need some words of comfort and support right now
LostOne1 Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 you just have to realize he;'s moved on and you should too. For me when my ex did that it took me awhile, but then I realized shes having fun so why can't I.. and I started to enjoy doing things I did. I realized I don't need another relationship right now. Im content with myself
Smiley88 Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 Me and my ex work together and she left me for another, and blamed me alot..thats harder:) believe me
Author th90 Posted April 8, 2013 Author Posted April 8, 2013 I think the info just got absorbed and analyzed by my brain, finally I'm crying for the first time in nearly 3 months. And I checked...I ****ing checked and I feel betrayed, not only by him but by our friends who always supported us. I know it's none of my business anymore, but I coulnd't help it. I know this will pass but I really need support now.
Author th90 Posted April 8, 2013 Author Posted April 8, 2013 And it's clear now, why I got dumped. For months, I've been left in the dark doing all the guessing games.. he finally grew some balls to go public on his new relationship now.
LostOne1 Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 And it's clear now, why I got dumped. For months, I've been left in the dark doing all the guessing games.. he finally grew some balls to go public on his new relationship now. been there too... but at some point you will let go and it will feel better. It means someone else out there is waiting for you.. looking for you. A guy that would never do what your ex did... so just remember that!
Author th90 Posted April 8, 2013 Author Posted April 8, 2013 been there too... but at some point you will let go and it will feel better. It means someone else out there is waiting for you.. looking for you. A guy that would never do what your ex did... so just remember that! Thanks.. I just want this to be over. I'm sick of it.
uniqwa Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 (edited) Dude.. I know how you feel.. Seriously. You do this.. YOU are better.. She's not you, never will be. The memories you had with him, Time can't erase those.. SO best believe, YOU occasionally pop into his mind because, You know you can't zap it gone.. Just like there's not "bitch be gone".. So the fighting the urge, YOU have way more will power, I was with my ex 2 years.. No will power, I don't talk to him.. begging stopped.. THANK GOD... but knowing how he's doing, there is nothing wrong with that.. When you give a **** about someone, making sure they are "happy" or " taken care of", is something that you want, and when they aren't talking to you..Idk.. It must be easier to let it go.. but you can't forget.. It's better if you do.. I honestly don't think you should torment yourself with not knowing, Don't message her, don't speak to her.. Don't speak to him.. but to see how the person you loved and who loved you at some point in time is doing ; is not something that is inconceivably wrong. It does not go against human nature.. I find it literally helps to let all the "what ifs'' slowly die, It's painful.. Take me for instance. I only see fb pics of him smiling and how beautiful she is, I know he's happy and I know he sees the beauty that I see.. Now its painful like sticking an ice pick into your own heart, and that song " I'd rather go blind" really does just become the background to your life.. but you see it and all those days you spent together, all the laughs, jokes, fights,teasing, tickling, and literally every single thing that "was" plays like a movie right before you, and you get crushed, but every single time you look, the pain helps you to let him go because, It's literally something that you feel and he doesn't.. I find pain is better, Pain makes you stronger. You cry until there isn't anything left. Its as though you let the ideas and what ifs die, and you mourn them as such, because it's your right.. Eventually, there will come a time when you see him, your able to look at pics, look at him and you will have gotten rid of every feeling.. That is what I've been doing, It is a proven method, I've used it on some people in my life who I've had to let go.. You keep it up and I promise, despite how painful.. If you continue, One day it will be as though you killed whatever you had for that person.. It's a cruel thing to do to yourself, torment and what not.. I find it helps me.. but I am half european and I know that side of my family doesn't even believe in crying " it makes you weak".. Edited April 8, 2013 by uniqwa 1
Author th90 Posted April 8, 2013 Author Posted April 8, 2013 Dude.. I know how you feel.. Seriously. You do this.. YOU are better.. She's not you, never will be. The memories you had with him, Time can't erase those.. SO best believe, YOU occasionally pop into his mind because, You know you can't zap it gone.. Just like there's not "bitch be gone".. So the fighting the urge, YOU have way more will power, I was with my ex 2 years.. No will power, I don't talk to him.. begging stopped.. THANK GOD... but knowing how he's doing, there is nothing wrong with that.. When you give a **** about someone, making sure they are "happy" or " taken care of", is something that you want, and when they aren't talking to you..Idk.. It must be easier to let it go.. but you can't forget.. It's better if you do.. I honestly don't think you should torment yourself with not knowing, Don't message her, don't speak to her.. Don't speak to him.. but to see how the person you loved and who loved you at some point in time; is not something that is inconceivably wrong. It does not go against human nature.. I find it literally helps to let all the "what ifs'' slowly die, It's painful.. Take me for instance. I only see fb pics of him smiling and how beautiful she is, I know he's happy and I know he sees the beauty that I see.. Now its painful like sticking an ice pick into your own heart, and that song " I'd rather go blind" really does just become the background to your life.. but you see it and all those days you spent together, all the laughs, jokes, fights,teasing, tickling, and literally every single thing that "was" plays like a movie right before you, and you get crushed, but every single time you look, the pain helps you to let him go because, It's literally something that you feel and he doesn't.. I find pain is better, Pain makes you stronger. You cry until there isn't anything left. Its as though you let the ideas and what ifs die, and you mourn them as such, because it's your right.. Eventually, there will come a time when you see him, your able to look at pics, look at him and you will have gotten rid of every feeling.. That is what I've been doing, It is a proven method, I've used it on some people in my life who I've had to let go.. You keep it up and I promise, despite how painful.. If you continue, One day it will be as though you killed whatever you had for that person.. It's a cruel thing to do to yourself, torment and what not.. I find it helps me.. but I am half european and I know that side of my family didn't even believe in crying.. I teared up reading this. Thank you. I know I will come out a much stronger person than I ever will be (at this point of my life). I've had my heart broken, tasted the pain of love and whatnot. I don't know how to deal with this now. People think I'm ridiculous for being so hung up on my ex after 5 months post BU. But we were together for 7 years. I feel cheated, betrayed, crushed, devastated, you name it. I feel like I'm being transported back to the first week of BU. I didn't ask for any news about him, but eventually someone is going to tell me. I really want to get over it asap.
Rainy1030 Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 I teared up reading this. Thank you. I know I will come out a much stronger person than I ever will be (at this point of my life). I've had my heart broken, tasted the pain of love and whatnot. I don't know how to deal with this now. People think I'm ridiculous for being so hung up on my ex after 5 months post BU. But we were together for 7 years. I feel cheated, betrayed, crushed, devastated, you name it. I feel like I'm being transported back to the first week of BU. I didn't ask for any news about him, but eventually someone is going to tell me. I really want to get over it asap. 7 years is a long time. Every year you were together is more time it will take to move on-but consider this as well-the longer you were with him, the longer it'll take HIM to move on, truly, as well. Do what feels right for you. Cry like a pp said, if that's what helps. Get mad if it helps. Let go if it helps. I've been through all three-I have mostly cried a lot and been so upset, wondering what I did to deserve this, but I also occasionally got angry and now...now I'm just letting go. Being mad isn't helping and feeling sorry for myself isn't either. I went no contact about a week ago, and it feels good. Not having to talk to him or see him, its helping the feelings die down faster for me, and a lot of people like it because it makes them feel like they finally have some control over the situation (not me, I just want to get over him and not have these horrid feelings everytime I see/talk to him). 1
cavalier99 Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 (edited) Yo gal! This is great news. Now you dont need to think of him anymore. Final nail in the coffin. Anyway sorry your having a rough time. Deep down we know they are in a new RS anyway. I know mine is. Just accept it and control your obsessive thinking. Remember to breath. Youll be fine, it may just take a few weeks to process. Your awesome doc th90!. Your bud. Cav Ps im getting laid again (girl 1) and have a date with a girl (#2) i like next weekend. Kissed her on friday. Spent night with girl number 1 who i dont feel anything for the last 2 weekends! Im back!. Ex is dissappearing from my mind. Edited April 8, 2013 by cavalier99 1
crispywat Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 Me and my ex work together and she left me for another, and blamed me alot..thats harder:) believe me Hi Smiley I am intrigued how you have dealt with this ? I have the same thing though we split rather mutually...though she seemsto think i pushed it, either way we were not really compatible which i think we agree on. She though last week advised me she was in a relationship now again (after just a month she met him) and thought i should know as we work together, i have been in bits ever since. I cant leave work though or anything and neither can she...the good thing is i only see her once a week
Author th90 Posted April 8, 2013 Author Posted April 8, 2013 Yo gal! This is great news. Now you dont need to think of him anymore. Final nail in the coffin. Ya, feels like it's the final blow (hopefully). I just thought of a drawing that my ex sketched nearly 4 years ago that he gave to me, it was a picture of us(showing our backs) watching the sunset together, with his arm around me and another hand was pointing at the sun. Now his profile pic is exactly that minus the sunset. How ironic. Ps im getting laid again (girl 1) and have a date with a girl (#2) i like next weekend. Kissed her on friday. Spent night with girl number 1 who i dont feel anything for the last 2 weekends! Im back!. Ex is dissappearing from my mind. Hahaha, I'm glad there isn't a girl #3..lol I hope the date goes well
Toddbt12y1 Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 Girl you're too cute to be single and crying over an ex! He will end up no where, whilst you go to happiness with another - you deserve it! 2
cavalier99 Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 Ya, feels like it's the final blow (hopefully). I just thought of a drawing that my ex sketched nearly 4 years ago that he gave to me, it was a picture of us(showing our backs) watching the sunset together, with his arm around me and another hand was pointing at the sun. Now his profile pic is exactly that minus the sunset. How ironic. Hahaha, I'm glad there isn't a girl #3..lol I hope the date goes well PS NA got text from ex today and responded. Melt down imminent.
Toddbt12y1 Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 PS NA got text from ex today and responded. Melt down imminent. NA has to learn the hardway....oh he's too much like how I was. He has to get biten twice. A snakes venom is potent, but not enough. 1
Author th90 Posted April 8, 2013 Author Posted April 8, 2013 NA is probably one of those who has got the most supporters to get him through this on LS, besides some fredderricckkk?? guy with the complete opposite mindset. Like Toddbt12y1 mentioned, he has to learn the hard way. Well let's just hope his ex really regrets what she did and realizes the grass ain't greener on the other side.
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