monkey258 Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 We dated a little over a year and broke up in October. We didn’t have too many problems, but we did have an issue of “wrong place, wrong time”. There were some guys who started flirting with me, like hardcore flirting with me. And I tried to message my friend some of their conversations to me, along with some concerns I was having about my ex (he rarely got intimate with me), so it probably looked like I was being unfaithful. And then one of the guys who was flirting with me did some things, said some things in front of as well as to my ex (got some of his buddies in cahoots too), right before my ex left me that probably caused our breakup. I know I’m not explaining this as well as I could be, and I’m sorry, but this guy later informed me that he was trying to break my ex and I up and that’s the jist of it. He did and said things to sabotage my relationship. I was too stupid to see what was going on at the time, so I guess that’s on me. But with the message and the way things looked with this guy, I can see how it might have looked as if I was being unfaithful. Either way, my ex left with some words like “it’s over, It think we should break up” and something about “go for one of that guy who is cooing over you”. And I did ALL the wrong things (called, texted, emailed, I figured the squeaky wheel would get the grease). I’m not a very seasoned dater, and I didn’t know about the other guy trying to break us up yet… Anyway, my ex stopped talking to me with all the messages and calls and stuff. And I did no contact for a while, then figured that was stupid and it was better to try to be his friend. So, I sent him an email every here and there to see if he would respond. He hasn’t. I’ve known my ex for years; when he feels threatened or hurt badly, he retreats into himself like a turtle. He’s a mega softy. He’s sweet as all hell, but really sensitive too. I don’t love it, but it’s a quirk one tolerates for the sake of the whole person. Anyway, he is still not willing to talk to me, and I wish we could sort this all out. Does anyone know how to get through to him? I do want to work through this and hopefully get back together someday in the future.
iouaname Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 Hm. So it was a misunderstanding is what I'm gathering? I'm assuming you tried to explain that to him in the messages? If it was a misunderstanding and you tried to explain that in the emails, then I think that he would have responded by now. If it has been this long, it would seem to me like there are more to his feelings about the situation than you are aware of?
Author monkey258 Posted April 8, 2013 Author Posted April 8, 2013 well, at first I messaged/ called just so we could talk; I didn't want to say so much over email where he might not even read it, you know what I mean? It would suck to spill my soul when I could already be in the junk folder...
Toddbt12y1 Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 Now that you called him, show him proof. He should be willing to listen...I would.
Author monkey258 Posted April 8, 2013 Author Posted April 8, 2013 Proof of what, exactly? I'm not sure I follow.
Toddbt12y1 Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 Proof of what, exactly? I'm not sure I follow. Didn't you say you had their msgs proving they were trying to break you two up? I'm orthodox of out of it ATM...so I dunno
Author monkey258 Posted April 8, 2013 Author Posted April 8, 2013 Didn't you say you had their msgs proving they were trying to break you two up? I'm orthodox of out of it ATM...so I dunno Well, there are no messages of that, no. He told me in person a month after. :/
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