Noproblem Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 Everyone has boundaries ... or Red lines that they don't like people to cross. Of course when you date, such boundaries tend to either diminish or intensify! So what are your boundaries and red lines that you don't like the person you are dating or your gf\bf to cross?
Djz05 Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 I mentioned this before on your previous liars thread. Lying to my face is a huge nono for me. I was dating girl I really liked in college. After a few dates I found out she just got out of a relationship with a guy right before we started dating. It did not bother me that I might be the rebound but I did make sure they have broken off completely, which she said she did. A few months into the relationship, I've heard rumors that she was seeing her ex again. Now I'm extremely loyal and trusting in a relationship, and never gave those rumors any thought. One day while shopping at the mall, I saw her walking together with her ex holding hands. The next time we were together (that weekend) I asked her again how she was doing with her ex. She gave me this big fat lie about not talking to him for over a month now. (Their families knew each other and are close -sunday lunch get togethers after church stuff so it cant be helped that they will see each other). Her answer really got me mad, and I told her what I saw. She started babbling and saying sorry, but I just cant take any lying right at my face. I told her if she had been honest I could have forgiven her, but a lie is where I draw the line. Tldr; broke up with her, ended up making her change schools and colleges, and wouldnt even take her back even when she begged. We've talked a few years later and she told me she didnt know how scary I can be when I got mad, and I answered you wouldnt have had to see it if you just didnt lie. We had a good laugh about that. P.s. Aww you finally took down your profile pic. 1
Author Noproblem Posted April 8, 2013 Author Posted April 8, 2013 (edited) I mentioned this before on your previous liars thread. Lying to my face is a huge nono for me. I was dating girl I really liked in college. After a few dates I found out she just got out of a relationship with a guy right before we started dating. It did not bother me that I might be the rebound but I did make sure they have broken off completely, which she said she did. A few months into the relationship, I've heard rumors that she was seeing her ex again. Now I'm extremely loyal and trusting in a relationship, and never gave those rumors any thought. One day while shopping at the mall, I saw her walking together with her ex holding hands. The next time we were together (that weekend) I asked her again how she was doing with her ex. She gave me this big fat lie about not talking to him for over a month now. (Their families knew each other and are close -sunday lunch get togethers after church stuff so it cant be helped that they will see each other). Her answer really got me mad, and I told her what I saw. She started babbling and saying sorry, but I just cant take any lying right at my face. I told her if she had been honest I could have forgiven her, but a lie is where I draw the line. Tldr; broke up with her, ended up making her change schools and colleges, and wouldnt even take her back even when she begged. We've talked a few years later and she told me she didnt know how scary I can be when I got mad, and I answered you wouldnt have had to see it if you just didnt lie. We had a good laugh about that. P.s. Aww you finally took down your profile pic. It's so sick of her to lie like that....and you have every right to be upset and mad, but of course ...You mustn't lose control of your temper....Things get nasty when we lose control (Not saying you did lose control) Yeah, I removed the photo because it's better to be anonymous Edited April 8, 2013 by Noproblem 1
Djz05 Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 It's so sick of her to lie like that....and you have every right to be upset and mad, but of course ...You mustn't lose control of your temper....Things get nasty when we lose control (Not saying you did lose control) Yeah, I removed the photo because it's better to anonymous Well the only person that got affected was me, and I can deal with a lot. So I didnt really get out of control. Just a carefully placed word here and there in school made it rough for her. She got extra work assigned to her, no one worked with her during labs, no one lent her notes. I admit it was wrong, and I did apologize later on. But she made the best of it and her changing her course actually made her find something else she loved. She met her future husband there and shes actually happy how things ended up. Now I would admit to going out of control if it was a close friend that got hurt. We got away with beating up a guy who dumped a friend of ours after sleeping with her (she just turned 16 he was 19). Really helps if you know the right people and connections. Wish I had the same clout here in the US. 1
Author Noproblem Posted April 8, 2013 Author Posted April 8, 2013 Well the only person that got affected was me, and I can deal with a lot. So I didnt really get out of control. Just a carefully placed word here and there in school made it rough for her. She got extra work assigned to her, no one worked with her during labs, no one lent her notes. I admit it was wrong, and I did apologize later on. But she made the best of it and her changing her course actually made her find something else she loved. She met her future husband there and shes actually happy how things ended up. Now I would admit to going out of control if it was a close friend that got hurt. We got away with beating up a guy who dumped a friend of ours after sleeping with her (she just turned 16 he was 19). Really helps if you know the right people and connections. Wish I had the same clout here in the US. Yeah I read about that yesterday. It was the right thing to do....(to beat that guy)
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