mortensorchid Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 Tonight I had my usual Sunday get together with my friend M. He likes to lecture me on my mistakes in the love department, admittedly his behavior has proven that he does not practice what he preaches either (but that's another story). I am currantly doing my student teaching at a city school in my city, M maintains that my ship is going to come in once I am teaching full time. I guess time will tell if that comes true or not, but I digress ... He asked me if there were any prospects at the school in which I am teaching now (among the staff that is). I said my mentor is a good man, 3 years younger than me, but he's married with little kids so of course ain't gonna happen. He asked what others are around me, I said mostly women but there is one guy there who as far as I know is single. He said "Well why don't you go for him?" I said ain't gonna happen there either. He asked why. I said I have had a few chats with him once or twice but he's not interested in me. He asked why, I said I just have a feeling he isn't interested because if he was he would have asked to see me outside of there. Plus there is professionalism as well, because it's a risk to me and him to do this. He said I lack confidence. I said it has nothing to do with confidence, it is all about professionalism. He asked if I were to see him again outside of there, would I go for him? I said I would not be opposed to the idea but he isn't going to do it even if it does happen. He said I am shallow, I only go for looks. I said not true, have been with others who were average to ugly and he's in the average looks catagory, but if he never DOES anything about it what am I to do? He said I am strange, because women give out singals to men that they are interested, but if the man rejects, then comes back a while later they will reject them. I said he doesn't know what he's talking about. If it were to happen, I would give the man in question the time of day, but he's not going to so I'm not going to hold my breath. Has this ever happened to someone else? Honestly, the ship comes in and then everything is hunky dory? Or the rejection problem? I'd never heard of that myself. But I am also practical.
Archgirl Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 Totally unrelated to what you want to know, ( or maybe not coz I still can't work out what you are asking about or what 'ship comes in' means) but seriously DO NOT get involved with a guy at work regardless of how attractive he is. If it ends badly, you as the female and most recent member of staff will be the one who cops all the fall out. 1
Author mortensorchid Posted April 9, 2013 Author Posted April 9, 2013 "My ship will come in" when I'm going to meet Mr. Right is what he means.
outsidethebox Posted April 9, 2013 Posted April 9, 2013 You actually choose to spend time with a guy who chatters so shallowly as he does? You could pull a string on chatty Kathy and get more insightful conversation.
ja123 Posted April 10, 2013 Posted April 10, 2013 I think your advice-giving guy friend likes you, no? Has he ever tried for more?
reaver Posted April 10, 2013 Posted April 10, 2013 Why are you friends with this dude? I get everyone gives advice but thats a bit much.
Anela Posted April 10, 2013 Posted April 10, 2013 Tonight I had my usual Sunday get together with my friend M. He likes to lecture me on my mistakes in the love department, admittedly his behavior has proven that he does not practice what he preaches either (but that's another story). I am currantly doing my student teaching at a city school in my city, M maintains that my ship is going to come in once I am teaching full time. I guess time will tell if that comes true or not, but I digress ... He asked me if there were any prospects at the school in which I am teaching now (among the staff that is). I said my mentor is a good man, 3 years younger than me, but he's married with little kids so of course ain't gonna happen. He asked what others are around me, I said mostly women but there is one guy there who as far as I know is single. He said "Well why don't you go for him?" I said ain't gonna happen there either. He asked why. I said I have had a few chats with him once or twice but he's not interested in me. He asked why, I said I just have a feeling he isn't interested because if he was he would have asked to see me outside of there. Plus there is professionalism as well, because it's a risk to me and him to do this. He said I lack confidence. I said it has nothing to do with confidence, it is all about professionalism. He asked if I were to see him again outside of there, would I go for him? I said I would not be opposed to the idea but he isn't going to do it even if it does happen. He said I am shallow, I only go for looks. I said not true, have been with others who were average to ugly and he's in the average looks catagory, but if he never DOES anything about it what am I to do? He said I am strange, because women give out singals to men that they are interested, but if the man rejects, then comes back a while later they will reject them. I said he doesn't know what he's talking about. If it were to happen, I would give the man in question the time of day, but he's not going to so I'm not going to hold my breath. Has this ever happened to someone else? Honestly, the ship comes in and then everything is hunky dory? Or the rejection problem? I'd never heard of that myself. But I am also practical. Why would you go out with someone who rejects you and then comes sniffing around again? I see men here complaining about that, and saying things like, "The women wanted me when I started working out - their loss!"
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