juststarry6443 Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 I feel like it's a bit harsh for me to basically threaten my S/O that he needs to fix something ASAP or I'm leaving him.
CarrieT Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 99% of the time they fail... If you do not have the type of relationship where you can rationally discuss an issue and it has led to ultimatums, the relationship is failing and should be reconsidered. Do you really want to be in a relationship with someone who can be manipulated with these types of tactics? If so, I am sorry for you. If not, then the relationship is not a healthy one and there are deeper problems in the relationship afoot. 2
Poppy fields Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 What do you want him to fix, and what ultimatum are you considering? Would establishing a boundary be an option as opposed to an ultimatum? A boundary can have consequences which seems to be less threatening.
uniqwa Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 well whatever it is he needs to "fix" it should not be something that you would leave him over.. Seriously needing to fix something doesn't really qualify as a valid reason for leaving anyone.. perhaps if you included more detail in your question as to " Do you guys believe in ultimatums", Someone can give you reasonable advice.. It could be a variety of things.. BUT if it's to do with an attitude adjustment ( I don't really see this as a valid question again) even that is not a reasonable reason because those can be adjusted with time and patience.. Unless he's a zombie robot that requires programing and all the instructions are in chinese (;
SincereOnlineGuy Posted April 9, 2013 Posted April 9, 2013 I feel like it's a bit harsh for me to basically threaten my S/O that he needs to fix something ASAP or I'm leaving him. If it's the lawnmower, or a cupboard door, then it isn't right to threaten him with leaving. IF it's his drinking problem, or his drug abuse, then you owe it to yourself to issue the ultimatum and stick to it.
Author juststarry6443 Posted April 9, 2013 Author Posted April 9, 2013 I wasn't seeking advice I just had a general question when I saw another respond to a member telling them to give him an ultimatum. I was just curious to all of you guys opinions and thoughts on the idea.
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