bradybunch Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 I get rated by men anywhere from 7-9 on looks, usually a 7 or 8. Yet people tell me in real life that Im beautiful and should have no problems finding a guy to like me for other than my body. I have had several people tell me I could "get any man I want." This hasnt been 1 or 2 people, I am talking like, at least 10 people have said this to me. Perhaps this is because of my personality? I tend to have a very straightforward super honest personality, most people find that to be more funny than anything, but can be nice and sweet to those I like. So my personality affects them saying stuff like that is what Im thinking, or they are over exaggerating my looks. I find it hard to find a guy who likes me enough to be my boyfriend. I get dates easily and I guess men crush on me easily but very few of them turn into boyfriend scenarios. The last boyfriend I had was a very detached person in general too. I am 24.
Star Gazer Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 Believe it or not, many many many men need to see something beyond a pretty face and hot body to want to commit to a girl. So yeah, if your appearance isn't a problem, it's your personality and how you present yourself that is. 9
todreaminblue Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 I get rated by men anywhere from 7-9 on looks, usually a 7 or 8. Yet people tell me in real life that Im beautiful and should have no problems finding a guy to like me for other than my body. I have had several people tell me I could "get any man I want." This hasnt been 1 or 2 people, I am talking like, at least 10 people have said this to me. Perhaps this is because of my personality? I tend to have a very straightforward super honest personality, most people find that to be more funny than anything, but can be nice and sweet to those I like. So my personality affects them saying stuff like that is what Im thinking, or they are over exaggerating my looks. I find it hard to find a guy who likes me enough to be my boyfriend. I get dates easily and I guess men crush on me easily but very few of them turn into boyfriend scenarios. The last boyfriend I had was a very detached person in general too. I am 24. I sense you are insecure about yourself, and maybe dont notice guys looking at you or know when they are actually attracted to you....maybe you are a bit aloof because of that insecurity which can sometimes blind you to pure fact that you are beautiful...some guys have told me that is part of my allure....that i think i am not beautiful...makes em more attractive...i think they are lining me and drunk..........if people are telling you are you should believe it......if you trust them......you probably havent met the right guy for you yet....someone will come and you will know he is the one for you.......because it will just feel right..i made a lot of assumptions on what i feel reading your post.....i have been wrong before maybe though there is some truth in what i sense.....it comes from my heart...best wishes...hugs....deb 1
MrNate 2.0 Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 one guys 7-8 is another mans 5-6 just saying . That's the truth right dere.
Author bradybunch Posted April 8, 2013 Author Posted April 8, 2013 (edited) I asked on a random site with my pictures and nobody rated me lower than a 7. Most said 7 or 8. Ive also asked some men in real life and many men have volunteered it to me as well since men seem to think of girls as numbers first and place so much emphasis on beauty. Thats where I got that number from, not 3 people I asked. I have also asked others about my personality. They dont see it as a problem. Edited April 8, 2013 by bradybunch
Krieger Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 I asked on a random site with my pictures and nobody rated me lower than a 7. Most said 7 or 8. Ive also asked some men in real life and many men have volunteered it to me as well since men seem to think of girls as numbers first and place so much emphasis on beauty. Thats where I got that number from, not 3 people I asked. as opposed to an alien race of shape-shifting lizard-people? maybe guys are scared to approach you? I cant speak for every guy but woman that are confident , friendly and approachable turn guys on. That might just be me but she has to have that. look are important too but looks fade when you get older a womans core being is for ever.
pbjbear Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 Some people exist that are goodlooking and have a good personality that havent met the right person yet. I know several such people in real life. They are all in their 20's. Please dont take offense to some of these replies you will get. Im just warning you on this site, if you say you are attractive and have a nice personality and cant get a boyfriend, people will tear you apart and tell you its your personality and the way you act even if its not. I disagree with StarGazer. If you are in your 20's, it doesnt matter how pretty you are, many men dont want to deal with commitment at that age. A nice personality doesnt cure men of wanting to sow their wild oats. Men are settling down later nowadays LOL, at all the men insinuating youre not as hot as you think you are...man I tell you boys never let go of the looks thing
Krieger Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 Yup, there is massive haterade on this site. Just use the report button, don't reply to them. I am no hater I never said she was a bad person. Just saying she might be hard to talk to for some guys. if a woman gives off this cold vibe why talk to her?
Lani Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 Maybe it's because you actually believe in that ridiculous rating scale crap. I don't even know how this is a thing that happens past highschool. Move on from this. You're only 24, I seriously wouldn't read into it. The guys who would be interested in girls your age are still, for the most part, not ready to settle down. Go on dates, have fun, and be young. There is time for the rest of it later. 4
taiko Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 one guys 7-8 is another mans 5-6 just saying . Or if 1 to 10 runs like a bell curve the 10 can drop down by getting the wrong tattoo, wearing the wrong clothes or just getting older. The 1 can pick up by make up, clothing or very slight body changes.. Many guys will take that 3 to 8 under any circumstance and just the physical rating alone means little as the scale slides depending upon wardrobe and actions.
Poppy fields Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 I haven't been rated since I was on a beach on Spring Break in college by a bunch of guys that were voting with signs. It was a bit sexist, but what did I expect on Spring Break running around in a bikini. I got a 6. I doubt people numerically rate me now as I don't know anyone IRL that does this. I would probably rate about the same or lower I suppose. Anyway, I don't give a tin **** what my ''number" is and neither should you OP. Work on your personality and things you can contribute to life and a relationship. Your newfound security might prove to be attractive. 2
pbjbear Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 Sanatarium just said in another thread that you must be boring and cannot keep the interest of men.
Author bradybunch Posted April 8, 2013 Author Posted April 8, 2013 I would like this thread deleted. My personality is not the problem. Ive had tons of people say my personality is stellar. I am very friendly to EVERYBODY I meet. People I am not attracted to as well. Because I am a nice person! Joining this site was a mistake. Its full of judgmental hate filled people. Goodbye all. 1
Poppy fields Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 I would like this thread deleted. My personality is not the problem. Ive had tons of people say my personality is stellar. I am very friendly to EVERYBODY I meet. People I am not attracted to as well. Because I am a nice person! Joining this site was a mistake. Its full of judgmental hate filled people. Goodbye all. Have a nice day/life.
Woggle Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 Believe it or not it takes more than looks to get most men interested. Another thing is that many men your age are just not interested in commiting to women. Being in a relationship is the last thing they want but at 24 you only have a couple years until that starts to change. 1
Krieger Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 I would like this thread deleted. My personality is not the problem. Ive had tons of people say my personality is stellar. I am very friendly to EVERYBODY I meet. People I am not attracted to as well. Because I am a nice person! Joining this site was a mistake. Its full of judgmental hate filled people. Goodbye all. how said your personality was a problem
SJC2008 Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 Unlesd I missed it who said it's your personslity? Also, how is saying one mans 8 is another mans 5 offensive? Anyway, other than saying you're attractive you gave no info for us to help you out. Do you live in a big city? How is your social circle? When you go out are you going to places where you could meet someone?
ls32ssibm Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 I would like this thread deleted. My personality is not the problem. Ive had tons of people say my personality is stellar. I am very friendly to EVERYBODY I meet. People I am not attracted to as well. Because I am a nice person! Joining this site was a mistake. Its full of judgmental hate filled people. Goodbye all. Firstly, I am a 24 y/o male widely described as an 8. So you should PM me some pics. Just sayin' Secondly, calm down. You aren't really giving people a whole lot to go on, so they are just assuming you have a shoddy personality. If you told us a bit about your hobbies, social groups, etc., you'd probably get some better responses.
pbjbear Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 how said your personality was a problem Most of the people who replied. I am thinking about leaving this site as well due to threads like this where people assume things and degrade things. She is a typical 24yearold who realizes men place an incredible amount of weight on beauty....she wasnt saying men are only interested in looks.
CarrieT Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 The last boyfriend I had was a very detached person in general too. I am 24. Are you saying that you are also a detached person? I read that as being rather shallow; i.e., detached meaning not invested in other people insofar as how they think or who they are. Your detachment could be a factor in the lack of a boyfriend. Even guys that are into good looking women occasionally want more than mere eye candy on their arms and if you have a detached personality, they may just be incredibly bored with you outside of the fact that you are attractive. Just guessing...
Poppy fields Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 Wow, youre a stuck up bitch arent you? Actually, no. She seemed upset and I was wishing her well as she stated she was leaving. Interesting deduction on your part though. lol 1
ChessPieceFace Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 I would like this thread deleted. My personality is not the problem. Ive had tons of people say my personality is stellar. I am very friendly to EVERYBODY I meet. People I am not attracted to as well. Because I am a nice person! Joining this site was a mistake. Its full of judgmental hate filled people. Goodbye all. The internet is like that. People are jerks because they can be. There's good advice on this site if you can sift through all the rest. One of the problems in this case is that you aren't allowed to post any pics so we have nothing to go on. It's also hard for us to really give specific advice here. If you're an 8, and you are meeting people, you should be getting attention unless other things are significantly wrong. What else is significantly wrong? Well we can't know that either. Could be voice, attitude, self-esteem, types of men you approach, whether you approach or just sit & wait & hope to be approached, where you're looking for men, whether you scare them off with things like talking about commitment right away or displaying some kind of emotional baggage or instability. 1
Lani Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 Actually, no. She seemed upset and I was wishing her well as she stated she was leaving. Interesting deduction on your part though. lol I wouldn't have said you were stuck up, but 'have a nice life' is one of the bitchiest comments around. So just be careful throwing it around unless you're trying to be a bitch.
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