TinyArdilla Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 I have been dating this guy for 4 months now, and we're pretty inseparable. I like him a lot, he's the sweetest guy I've ever met. When in person, he is great to me, always wants to hold my hand, always kisses me on the forehead or cheek, etc. He says lots of sweet things to me and we can talk for hours. We've spent entire days together where neither of us wanted to go home afterwards. I guess maybe I'm overreacting, but when we are not together, and our only communication is text messages, he feels very distant to me. He can take hours to reply, and sometimes it's just a short little reply like "Haha" and that's it and then I just feel stupid for even texting at all. I've told him about this but it didn't really do anything and I'm not sure what else to do. Our friends have also talked to him about it. Should I just accept that that's how he is over text and be thankful that he's great in person? I just don't like the feeling of him being distant, and I don't know how to change that. 1
Krieger Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 I have been dating this guy for 4 months now, and we're pretty inseparable. I like him a lot, he's the sweetest guy I've ever met. When in person, he is great to me, always wants to hold my hand, always kisses me on the forehead or cheek, etc. He says lots of sweet things to me and we can talk for hours. We've spent entire days together where neither of us wanted to go home afterwards. I guess maybe I'm overreacting, but when we are not together, and our only communication is text messages, he feels very distant to me. He can take hours to reply, and sometimes it's just a short little reply like "Haha" and that's it and then I just feel stupid for even texting at all. I've told him about this but it didn't really do anything and I'm not sure what else to do. Our friends have also talked to him about it. Should I just accept that that's how he is over text and be thankful that he's great in person? I just don't like the feeling of him being distant, and I don't know how to change that. text messages need to stop on your end and just call him but first stop texting for a few days and see if he text you first.
soccerrprp Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 tiny, I wouldn't jump to conclusions or over think this. I know people who simply do not enjoy communicating over text. He may have a phone that is not as comfortable for texting. If he's what you need when together, good, right? If you're wanting more, perhaps calling him? Is he busy? Working? 2
MissIndependant Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 How important is communication over text to you? People often say they find it hard to communicate over technology, which is true, how are you supposed to read tone, inflection and body language through writing? Text and internet are great communication devices but they also tend to lead to alot of misunderstandings. The amount of times I've had that happen are to many to count!! Also, perhaps because you are so touchy feely affectionate and obviously deep in person that you feel the txts lack that sense of closeness. But how are you supposed to obtain that from a text? You can't. Also, something to consider. Some people are just lazy texters, simple as that. You might need to look at why his lack of responses is bothering you. Is it because you don't get that feeling that you do when you see him in person? Or because of something else? Good luck.
todreaminblue Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 I have been dating this guy for 4 months now, and we're pretty inseparable. I like him a lot, he's the sweetest guy I've ever met. When in person, he is great to me, always wants to hold my hand, always kisses me on the forehead or cheek, etc. He says lots of sweet things to me and we can talk for hours. We've spent entire days together where neither of us wanted to go home afterwards. I guess maybe I'm overreacting, but when we are not together, and our only communication is text messages, he feels very distant to me. He can take hours to reply, and sometimes it's just a short little reply like "Haha" and that's it and then I just feel stupid for even texting at all. I've told him about this but it didn't really do anything and I'm not sure what else to do. Our friends have also talked to him about it. Should I just accept that that's how he is over text and be thankful that he's great in person? I just don't like the feeling of him being distant, and I don't know how to change that. i have noticed a lot of guys are not wordy over text its straight and to the point...i assume guys arent fond of texting...... its how he is in person that counts........if he is affectionate and lvoing and you spend a lot of time talking .....dont sweat the texts....if he is ignorant in person though....sweat that.....doesnt sound like he is at all ignorant.....so enjoy the time you spend together enjoy the man not the texts......best wishes....deb
tbf Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 Sometimes people need down time away from their partners. Can you accept this? 2
soccerrprp Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 Sometimes people need down time away from their partners. Can you accept this? AMEN to that!
Divasu Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 our only communication is text messages, he feels very distant to me Of course he feels distant to you, your interaction is via text messages during the time you're apart which cannot replace human contact. 1
pbjbear Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 He may just hate texting. One of the few guys I dated that I really really liked did this. Except I called him and he didnt call back alot. And he didnt act lovey dovey in person. So not quite the same, but yes he hated texting.
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