tommybahamas1985 Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 I met my girlfriend about two years ago, have been dating ever since, with little to no blips on the radar. She goes to school out of town, but we're both from the same place, and we have made distance work, and seen each other for about 5 days every 3 weeks, and its always been great. Fast forward to near christmas time 2012, and we go to a party, and maybe I have a little bit too much to drink, and have a jealous freak out on her. She never gave me any reasons not to trust her before, so I honestly don't know what spurned that kind of reaction in me. Everything was honestly perfect, she was busy with school things, yet still made time to talk to me every day, and felt like we were moving forward, after dating long distance for 2 years, in three weeks we'd both be back settled in at home, what we'd always wanted. She came out to visit three times this semester. Our only other issue was when she got a great job and she got "mad that I wasn't excited enough" for her when she told me the news, but in reality I was happy for her, but I was out with parents, therefore not really conducive to yelling and shouting and being excitable, though I actually was. We moved past that, and she realized that maybe she was a little bit over emotional about it, which I appreciated. We had discussed the new years incident, and it still really bothered her, although she kept quiet and we kept our relationship going, and I thought things were fine. Moving to this past weekend, she goes out of town to see her cousin, I go home for the weekend, and all of a sudden I notice that she's acting kind of cold. We had booked a trip to Asia together a month ago (for this summer) and now that just isn't going to happen. I was also supposed to go to her graduation banquet, but I could tell she was making excuses suddenly for me not to come, which seemed very out of left field to me. Then, the past couple days, she ignored my call and my reaching out to discuss what is wrong. She says she'll call me the next morning. Sure. Understandable. Finally, we arrive at yesterday morning. She phones me, and says that she "doesn't see us together past this summer," and that we shouldn't go to Europe together. I'm instantly crushed, and confused. That segways into her telling me that we're in different places in our lives (what? we're both graduating at the same time, moving to the same city etc.) Then, she mentions that perhaps there are some "fundamental differences" between us, but doesn't give me much of an answer about that. So essentially, we break up over the phone, and I am literally shocked/confused/hurt. After two years, all the I love you's, the trips to see each other, this and that, she discusses that she hasn't quite been able to get over my one and only jealous outburt (our only fight). I have owned up to that incident, taken full responsibility time and time again, and honestly thought we had moved past it, but it was obviously still irking her. So really, our relationship sort of went out with a wimper. This is my first serious relationship, and I know she loves/cares about me (we also haven't talked since the call yesterday), but is there anything I can do to try and get her back, and prove that we can move past that incident? I know its still a fresh breakup, but its sort of ridiculous to part from your best friend of 2 years, over one isolated incident. Do you think there is a chance or opportunity at all to get her back? If so, what would you suggest? I'm on day 5 of NC....
lastresort Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 bump...bump bump bump Was that morse code? Rolf.
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