Thinking of joining the military (female)...what is dating like while enlisted?

[sooniechan]

After reading some of these replies, it makes me glad I didn't listen to my dad and join the Marines. lol

[Radu]

Not necessarily.

 

Nurses in the military have college degrees and are officers.

 

As an enlisted person she'll most likely work in the records department at a hospital.

 

Ok, Celtica ... with what info you added and what Seussygrl wrote, i would advise you to give it a try then.

 

But be wary of the social dynamics.

It will seriously test your emotional maturity, considering you will be the object of affection for many men.

[Emilia]

So I'm back to square one no matter what. I'll be starting with youngins no matter where I go, so there's no pretending. And in any school I apply to I'll practically graduate when I'm 30. And when I'm 30, I've heard dating gets pretty hard because guys are extra aware of women's needs to settle down.

 

As a civilian who had to start a new career at the age of 30, I can tell you that it's very different when it's not something physical where you are thrown on the scrap heap when you are 40 or just get fed up with being moved around. You can also date during establishing a civilian career. If you want muscular guys, join a boxing gym. Good physique is a dime a dozen in those places, I know plenty.

 

I'm an Analyst with a decent career and decent prospects, finished uni when I was 30 and sometimes compete with people much younger than me. I am 40 now and still have a fair few years in me, steadily progressing. I don't believe you will be able to say this in the Military at the age of 40. You will need to start again at that age in civilian life. Deal with the issues of being institutionalised and likely single (divorced) at the same time.

 

I'll also tell you that as you get older, your patience for being owned by the Military will decrease until you get fed up with the whole thing. Being in the military is a lifestyle, they completely control you. It's no accident that the average recruit is 18 years old and not 25.

 

Another thing: I believe firmly in loyalty. I would think that dating within the military, if it happens, would also be good practice for weeding out the not-so-serious from the serious (talk about speed-dating) and being a Catholic, that could scare off a whole bunch of 'em (NFP anyone? lol), thus finding a serious match if it came down to it.

 

Military is my plan A. Plan B is going to New Zealand and getting my nursing degree there.

 

Go to New Zealand. You will be surprised how many guys don't join the military out of loyalty. There are some but there are also plenty that don't have other options, come from a military family or are f**ked up and just want to kill people

[Emilia]

but more so the fact that you are essentially likely to be in the worst type of LDR there is - a LDR in which frequent contact is difficult and one person is in harm's way. LDRs in themselves are much more difficult to maintain over the long term than you would imagine, if you have not been in one. LDR with the added stress of danger and lack of contact? I don't even want to imagine that.

 

Very much so. You worry that the person will come back in a body bag or that they will have PTSD or some other life changing mental illness because of what they get exposed to. You worry about their being bullied or raped by their colleagues.

 

I watched my ex's personality change over the years and I don't recommend it to anyone, though admittedly his job is somewhat combat-focused even for the Army

 

I'd say forget both enlisting over the age of 22 and starting officer training over the age of 25

[Emilia]

As an enlisted person she'll most likely work in the records department at a hospital.

 

... or scrapping off charred remains of her colleagues off armoured vehicles interior where they burned alive after driving on to an IED

[TouchedByViolet]

The military is a massive meat market and any women can have success in finding someone. I knew a women in the navy who enjoyed regularly having 3-ways with 2 guys. Finding a quality man in the military will take some filtering but they do exist.

[Els]

The military is a massive meat market and any women can have success in finding someone. I knew a women in the navy who enjoyed regularly having 3-ways with 2 guys. Finding a quality man in the military will take some filtering but they do exist.

 

It would definitely be easy for women to get sex in the military. But really, WHERE is it difficult for women to get sex? Most women can show up at the local swingers bar/club and ask for a threesome, and there'd be plenty of dudes offering to do it. It's hardly a prize.

 

The OP has stated that she is desiring to start a family, so I assume that means she is looking for LTRs, not regular 3-ways.

[USMCHokie]

It would definitely be easy for women to get sex in the military. But really, WHERE is it difficult for women to get sex? Most women can show up at the local swingers bar/club and ask for a threesome, and there'd be plenty of dudes offering to do it. It's hardly a prize.

 

The OP has stated that she is desiring to start a family, so I assume that means she is looking for LTRs, not regular 3-ways.

 

It's also easy to find a guy to get hitched to. He might not be ideal, but at that age, he'll probably seem pretty desirable.