Ayeo Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 Hi, I really need advice, thanks for reading in advance. On and off rel for 3 years, I'll bullet point it: Split up 5 months agoPoor communication between us at timesshe is stubbornsaid she was tired of giving and getting v.little in returnI've had poor health the last few months and did back off at timeswas really trying at the end, cooking for her, travelling with her, spending time with her children.was depressed because of my condition, but was trying to make the rel. workShe just stops communication, saying she's tired of it all.I respect her decision, although totally gutted, caved in a couple of times sent her 2 messages, she was v curt and short in her replies.I tried to move on, focussing on my health and getting better Today, i miss her, still love her...I get a text message, saying,"i've been sorting through the photos, tried to send them to your email, but they're not going through, I don't know if you've blocked me or changed your email address, but if you want them send me your new address". They were holiday photos FFS!! I told her they're most likely too big to send and the only way I could get them from her is on disc and thankyou i would like them........nothing back from her! WTF?? Why send this or the photos after 5 months of trying to heal and then ****ing ignore me??? Please help, why is she doing this??
richard9 Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 In my experience women get so hung up on 'things' and making things right, usually to try alleviate guilt or get some affirmation that because you text them back you dont hate them. Shes being insensitive in not replying but I think that its this 'things' thing is the reason she contacted you, I dont think there is any hidden agenda. Possible that she thought you were being awkward by asking for them on disc, perhsps she is really busy and she doesnt have much energy to think about getting them on a disc and sending them off. Do you really want them? It has certainly given her something tp hold over ypu, if she is playing it that way. I know its hard but I would not mske the photos a priority, reply with short texts relating to only the photos and pit down any delay in time to her being busy or game playing, do not let it get to you. I once told myself that all my photos are sstoref in my head, granted areal photo helps but they are there in us. It was some comfort.
Author Ayeo Posted April 15, 2013 Author Posted April 15, 2013 Well, the txts went back and forth, her saying she would be out, but to drop the disc off, I said, didn't matter, I had the memories I needed in my head and that I understood she wouldn't want to see me, she said that wasn't the case and that no she hadn't moved on, she was just trying to pick herself back up!!?? Said I treat her like **** and that being single was more important than being with her, and that i had GIGS!!! FFS!!! I told her I was sorry for hurting her, i missed her and that I was a mess, due to my illness and ops, she said she missed me too, final text from me apologizing again..that was 4 days ago...no reply...the end!! Why did she get in touch after 6 friggin months??? To lambast and berate me, I am hurt and it's really set me back, feel like ****.
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