Author Unattached Posted April 7, 2013 Author Posted April 7, 2013 Crockers! Never, never go back to the guys place on a first date! Or second...until you are absolutely comfortable that the two of you are a couple. Guys who bring you to their place on the first date have intentions in addition to or other than establishing a LTR. Nothing happended then, but don't do this again. I don't care how old you are. You ladies! DON'T DO this! Crap. I have a beautiful daughter that will be dating some day and I've got things to tell her! Well I met him at his place before we went out on our date. And being that it was Valentine's Day he bought flowers and such for me. I did not expect him to do that considering it was our first time meeting. He said he wanted to surprise me so I decided to go in just to see what he wanted to show me.
picaso28 Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 I know its hard but try not to let him question yourself. afterall even if he suddenly went back to being the way he was before you would be wondering if he would lose interest again. The seeds of insecurity have been sewn now and you would be in fear of him losing interest. I have been there and its not good relationship to have. Now my motto is someone that likes you should show it. Not into chasing. I met a girl online and had date but now she doesn't seem interested. Not as bad as what you are going through but I think sod it up to her to chase me now. Good luck with it all. Get back online dating and go meet few new dates. Will boost your confidence and help take your mind off things. Good luck!
pbjbear Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 Girls Keep on sleeping with guys after a week or so and then be sad when he leaves you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Men (these creatures) like to work hard to get something, and when you give it to them so fast and without making them earn it; they simply move on to the next hard thing................. So, tell me, what does this say about men? Men see women as an end to their means, not much more. Hey dont blame me for being a manhater, you said this not me... 1
Treasa Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 I've heard this many times and I wonder whether you and other ladies TRULY believe this. Do you really believe it's b/c she gave it up so easily? Do you think the outcome would have been better if she had waited a little longer? I don't think people value what they easily acquire as much as something they had to work for. OP, what a loser. You dumped him, got it? He said he was going to call, then got defensive when he didn't, and then started acting shady. **** him. 1
soccerrprp Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 I don't think people value what they easily acquire as much as something they had to work for. I hear you, Treasa, but the notion that b/c it was too easy and that was a significant factor in this and other people's decision to dump and move on is peculiar to me. I think whether it was the first date or 10th, THIS guy's intention was to walk as soon as he got it anyway. I truly believe that if you have the mentality that the harder it is to gain, the more valuable, then there lies an already skewed view of value or importance. And when it comes to other human beings, well, disturbing. I just think that when it comes to people, the idea that one's value is diminished or amplified based on whether one has sex early or later is likely not the case for guys like the OP describes. I think he already decided to do a hit a run. Guys like this make me sick. 1
ChessPieceFace Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 Amazing. I would say that he pulled a sly one on you. Nothing new here.... What amazes me is that you didn't have chemistry with him and for 3-weeks you "blew" him off. What changed for you to go back to the guy you "blew" off for three weeks? Anyway, it looks like he's now "blowing" you off....sorry. Seriously. My mind is blown at this one: - First date, no chemistry, blow him off for 3 weeks - Second date "one thing leads to another and SEXXXX" MANNN. He musta slapped on some pheromones and pulled out the playbook on that one. He hit it and now he's gonna quit it. Normally that would disgust me but in this case not so much, based on how she acted.
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