tme0 Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 My boyfriend and I have been dating for 10 months. Everything is great. A month and a half ago, we had a rough patch, and almost broke up, but didn't. 2 weeks ago, he broke up with me. He contacted me a day later wanting to meet up, so we did, and we got back together. We're spending this weekend together and he apologized a few times for being brash, not talking things out, and ultimately hurting me. He said he got to thinking about our relationship, where it's at, and he freaked himself out. A little before we started dating, he ended his engagement and he said he was just expecting something to go wrong, like it did in the last relationship. He said he doesn't know if I'm "the one" but he does see our relationship progressing as it should be. And that is why he freaked out. The thing is, since the time we almost broke up, I feel like I'm being more guarded with my feelings..to protect myself. Because back when that happened, I just about lost it. I had really begun thinking long term about him, and was so happy. I act the same way I always have around him..it's just How do I let the wall down and let myself fall?
apple OR orange Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 keep the wall up, will be easier for you, dont complain when your single though.
MsSmurf Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 I think it is perfectly natural to have a little bit of a wall up after having your feelings hurt and being suddenly dumped the way you were. You don't just forget that, but you can work through it. It sounds like the two of you want to work at your relationship so do that. Keep the communication lines open. If things go well then that wall will come down, if things get worse that wall will get thicker and higher. 1
Author tme0 Posted April 8, 2013 Author Posted April 8, 2013 keep the wall up, will be easier for you, dont complain when your single though. I'm asking how to let it down...not stating I want to keep it up. I know that's not good. 1
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