irc333 Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 Hm, just came across this woman who lives local, she's actually well known as a P.R. person for this small town area. Never knew she was single this entire time. lol So now she's on a dating site. She mentions she's very multi-faceted due to her P.R. lifestyle. She can do both 5-star events, to just hanging out at dive bars. Basically, wants someone who go from classy to the other side of the coin. Is this someone you could keep up with?
xdahliax Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 Absolutely, that's exactly how I am. But there aren't that many people who are accustomed to both extremes, so I see why she would put that in her profile.
Author irc333 Posted April 7, 2013 Author Posted April 7, 2013 Absolutely, that's exactly how I am. But there aren't that many people who are accustomed to both extremes, so I see why she would put that in her profile. Personally, I really don't know if I could do those things or not...it's one of those "Cross the bridge once you get to it" kind of situations. She prefers someone local, but to be honest, with what I hear from my friends about her, and how she's kind of a minor celebrity that comes from a big family name...when she is out and about she runs into a lot of people she knows. She might be stuck being single for a while, if she's only sticking to her area.
xdahliax Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 Personally, I really don't know if I could do those things or not...it's one of those "Cross the bridge once you get to it" kind of situations. She prefers someone local, but to be honest, with what I hear from my friends about her, and how she's kind of a minor celebrity that comes from a big family name...when she is out and about she runs into a lot of people she knows. She might be stuck being single for a while, if she's only sticking to her area. I can see that as being an obstacle. I know quite a few 'socialites' though, and being in public with them is actually not that different than walking around downtown with that one friend everyone has that knows everyone. It is fairly annoying, but it doesn't stop you from wanting to maintain the relationship and it is something you adapt to. The major concern for people who are used to 5-star events is that the person they're with will lack the manners, basic conversational skills or even the sense of style to be at ease at those events. And even so, I've met a lot of men who simply don't want any part in that lifestyle. I think, though, that anyone who is sufficiently interested in her and who is willing to make an effort shouldn't have a problem.
soccerrprp Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 The major concern for people who are used to 5-star events is that the person they're with will lack the manners, basic conversational skills or even the sense of style to be at ease at those events. And even so, I've met a lot of men who simply don't want any part in that lifestyle. I will admit that I could only take so much of this kind of lifestyle. I am as confident as they come, but the lifestyle smells of pretentiousness and social entitlement. I know. Some are great people. I know. I know some people like this and love them, but just not for me.
Author irc333 Posted April 7, 2013 Author Posted April 7, 2013 I will admit that I could only take so much of this kind of lifestyle. I am as confident as they come, but the lifestyle smells of pretentiousness and social entitlement. I know. Some are great people. I know. I know some people like this and love them, but just not for me. I dunno about that, that could possibly be. There's actually a magazine sitting on stands, free of course, and she was on the front cover of it. Usually feature articles involving certain contributors/volunteers/involved with politics in such a small community. She is even on local, cable access show. She's one of the "Big names" of the founding fathers that set roots back in the late 1800's, let me put it this way, if it weren't for her great great great (so and so), we wouldn't have the kind of technology employed in said community, well, I'm sure someone else by a different name would have taken their place , lol.......so she comes from many generations that date back to the very same community, and surprisingly a community she probably never plans on leaving. Anyhow, the FREE periodical, you occasionally find in strip malls and gas stations features picture galleries of high society types at some sort of formal place at a local country club. Local politicians, high end merchants, and their wives/spouses, etc. Easily find able on Facebook. lol It's no problem, because I know her next of kin. lol. There was a picture of her at a "Derby" get together, you know the "Big hats", just think "Pretty Woman" in that scene at the Polo event with Richard Gere. Then there was another picture of her in jeans and cowboy boots at a local dive bar, throwin' darts. AT least she spends time with the "common man" I suppose, but I wonder if it's all for show, too?
2sure Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 Because of my profession and interests I attend many formal and semi formal functions. Some I enjoy, most are an obligation. If I'm free and in town I'm more likely to go casual as far as dinner , drinks, entertainment. But, if I am looking for a partner he has to be the guy that owns a tux. And I can't even imagine having to have that conversation, so it makes sense to put it right out there.
Author irc333 Posted April 7, 2013 Author Posted April 7, 2013 Because of my profession and interests I attend many formal and semi formal functions. Some I enjoy, most are an obligation. If I'm free and in town I'm more likely to go casual as far as dinner , drinks, entertainment. But, if I am looking for a partner he has to be the guy that owns a tux. And I can't even imagine having to have that conversation, so it makes sense to put it right out there. OWNS? I don't do enough events to justify owning a tux, just the typical semi-dress casual stuff.
soccerrprp Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 I own a tux! Now to find that flashy, attractive, money-making woman to take me to some of these events in my tux! Okay, so deep down, I'd like to experience some of this lifestyle. 1
Author irc333 Posted April 7, 2013 Author Posted April 7, 2013 Hate to say this, but this woman is kind of screwed if that's the kind of lifestyle she leads....the lifestyle she leads is typically the kind of lifestyle one lives if they live in a MAJOR city, I'm actually surprised there's a "sect" of people in my area where such a lifestyle does exist. Chances are it's very obscure. My area mostly consists of women working in working in restaurants, blue collar workers, cashier at Wal Mart, etc. If they are white collar is mostly low income admin assistance, clerical jobs, secretary at a law office. Anyone higher up on the food chain, professionally....has been in such a position for 30 years. lol They either have to die or retire before you have a chance at their position or.....you have to be "related" and they just "Make" a job for ya.
2sure Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 OWNS? I don't do enough events to justify owning a tux, just the typical semi-dress casual stuff. Right, and that's understandable and fine. But for quite a few things I would invite a man to, black tie is required or expected ...and I would just hate to have to explain that. I would feel like a jerk and he would be put on the spot. Plus, a rented get up just doesn't fly. So, it's an issue. I'm great with casual , but a serious date has to be able to do "5 star" and black tie , for me anyway, is part of that. I know it sounds pompous, but it's a logistic. 1
2sure Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 Hate to say this, but this woman is kind of screwed if that's the kind of lifestyle she leads....the lifestyle she leads is typically the kind of lifestyle one lives if they live in a MAJOR city, I'm actually surprised there's a "sect" of people in my area where such a lifestyle does exist. Chances are it's very obscure. My area mostly consists of women working in working in restaurants, blue collar workers, cashier at Wal Mart, etc. If they are white collar is mostly low income admin assistance, clerical jobs, secretary at a law office. Anyone higher up on the food chain, professionally....has been in such a position for 30 years. lol They either have to die or retire before you have a chance at their position or.....you have to be "related" and they just "Make" a job for ya. Well then, you don't need a tux! You're all set! And besides, tux events are never ever as much fun .
amaysngrace Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 I'm not big on people who stay in the same place just to be a big fish in a little pond. If that's what a person wants for themselves that's fine but I probably would not find them to be compatible with me. Or interesting enough, to be honest. 2
xxoo Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 Hate to say this, but this woman is kind of screwed if that's the kind of lifestyle she leads....the lifestyle she leads is typically the kind of lifestyle one lives if they live in a MAJOR city, I'm actually surprised there's a "sect" of people in my area where such a lifestyle does exist. Chances are it's very obscure. My area mostly consists of women working in working in restaurants, blue collar workers, cashier at Wal Mart, etc. If they are white collar is mostly low income admin assistance, clerical jobs, secretary at a law office. Anyone higher up on the food chain, professionally....has been in such a position for 30 years. lol They either have to die or retire before you have a chance at their position or.....you have to be "related" and they just "Make" a job for ya. Where is she going to these events? Obviously, she has peers there somewhere.
Author irc333 Posted April 7, 2013 Author Posted April 7, 2013 Where is she going to these events? Obviously, she has peers there somewhere. Yeah, I'm wondering myself. I am guessing it's mostly invite only type of events. I'm sure most of these events consist of mostly married people, probably why she's started reaching out to online dating. It's rather a fishbowl community. Speaking of which, I had a friend of mine in this community that was into doing the Meetup events...most of said events were an hour commute to the location. Anyhow, he brought two single women out of their "fishbowl" to give it a try...he introduced me to them, but they spent the entire time talking to only each other. I asked them, "So, you get a chance to mingle around?" and they said "No, we're not much for making new friends". I found tha to be a shocker, to be so cemented in fishbowl community they no longer seek other friendships outside of that. After further talking to them, they're content in spending time with their family and their now 40 something HIGH SCHOOL friends they still apparently hang out with. Yikes. I haven't even been in touch with my HS friends.
2sure Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 I moved from NYC to a smaller city. It seems like the smaller the pond, the more often Organizations , companies, groups, etc. have what I call "Prom for Adults". Some are fun, I love getting dressed no question, but often it's just a matter of swathing Oneself in satin and eating 2 meats. Still, hey, ready for anything is a nice quality. 1
Author irc333 Posted April 7, 2013 Author Posted April 7, 2013 have what I call "Prom for Adults". Bingo...that's what that small town magazine has, a picture full of small town "mucky mucks" appearing at some fancy country club. 1
tbf Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 I think, though, that anyone who is sufficiently interested in her and who is willing to make an effort shouldn't have a problem.If it feels like an effort to socialize in this manner where the comfort level isn't there, it's not worth doing. There's a rhythm and patterns to social engagements of this nature and if you're unfamiliar with them, you'll stand out like a sore thumb. 3
ThaWholigan Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 If it feels like an effort to socialize in this manner where the comfort level isn't there, it's not worth doing. There's a rhythm and patterns to social engagements of this nature and if you're unfamiliar with them, you'll stand out like a sore thumb. Yep. Don't I know it ......
tbf Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 Yep. Don't I know it ......Oh no. Have you had an unfortunate experience(s)?
amaysngrace Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 you'll stand out like a sore thumb. See I would thoroughly enjoy that...
tbf Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 See I would thoroughly enjoy that...Standing out in an awkward manner or having your partner stand out?
amaysngrace Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 Standing out in an awkward manner or having your partner stand out? I wouldn't be awkward so it would be fun!!
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