sparkle2013 Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 (edited) Hello, Im new to this forum but it seems the best place to get help, rather than feeling so down anymore. I broke up with my ex probably around this time last year...I was losing my dad to cancer and wrongly began to push away from him and to an ex who was losing their parent. He found out and discovered the emails and despite all of this wished to be there and make it work. With uni and wanting to be at home with my family, I rarely saw him until for him I guess it just faded out and he no longer wished to be with me. In summer we went away with other people and it was really hard and the moment I realised he no longer felt anything for me, despite how much I wanted him back. Shortly after we came home, my dad passed away and he was there for me, but on didnt come to my dads funeral. I ended up moving away for work and he went travelling for many months, even meeting his ex along the way. I waited and waited, most weekends id tell him how much I loved him and how sorry I was for all of my mistakes. I worked very hard on myself and changing things I knew he didnt like. At the start of my relationship, he told me drunk that hed slept with his ex...wrongly I then retaliated and did the same thing (with the ex who was there for me when my dad died). Im sure he got used to the bombarding from me the I love yous, ill do anything, we could be so happy if you let us be....and then I realised, it was pointless hed often ignore....so I stopped. When his birthday arrived, I wished him a happy birthday and out of the blue he told me that having taken a step back to see what life was like without me, he realised how much he loved me and that every scenario was with me. We spoke everyday with phonecalls until he came back...he then asked me if I retaliated when he said hed slept with his ex and I confessed. He called me every name under the sun, said I made him feel sick and it would never ever work out. This was at the end of Feb and I still love him very much. Reading that it seems really lame, but I love him to death and miss him alot. I live 300 miles away from him which he told me several times wasnt an issue at all. Thing is in the past 6 weeks from loving me, seeing every scenario with me and wanting everything with me....to hating my guts, I have left him alone. I figured that if he was used to me bomarding, this would be a logical step. But he has a new girl or likes someone. He posts it on twitter and pictures on instragram which they both like of eachother. I just want to know what to do, what would increase my chances of winning him back? Do I reach out and message him (although to probably be ignored)...do I keep with the NC as he saif hes surprised that I havent been in contact. I know I probably stand no chance, as hes said to family never again with me as too much has happened, but feelings dont change 360 in a couple of weeks surely. Edited November 25, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
taya Posted April 11, 2013 Posted April 11, 2013 i dont know what to tell u to do hun but all i can say if he really wanted u dont u think he would have called text or email u?? i think so ....we cant force people to be with us he moved on i know it hurts and am sure your a beautiful woman so let go too and find someone that u dont have to beg to be with u they are with u cause the chose to ..
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