tek75 Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 Hello, I'm friends with a girl i work with (in her early forties) and before her break up with her ex-boyfriend she has made a lot of attempts to get to know me, coming in my office for chats etc. 3 - 4 weeks ago she told me her ex-boyfriend dumped her because he didn't have time for her! I moved quickly, got her number and have been really supportive to her. She was pretty heartbroken but she trusts me as a friend and we have been texting frequently, most of her text responses were within 2 minutes and she seemed really keen, flirty etc. Two good female friends of hers have both said she likes me and perhaps stupidly i confessed i really liked her in person soon after swapping numbers. I told her that i think she's really pretty on several occasions but she was still keen and she was still initiating text messages and still very chatty in person. I asked her out a week after getting her number but she said her head was still in a mess because she still very gutted about losing her ex. (they went out only for 3 months but she says she still loves him) Now i admit i messed up at this point because rather than wait until she started to chase me lol i asked her again casually just before Easter and i think i scared her off! We were still texting the next day but she left kisses off her messages all of a sudden, i ended up asking her why and she said at that point that she just wanted to be friends! I maybe stupidly again responded saying i wanted to stay just friends until she was over her ex b/friend and just wanted to be a good guy and make her happy when the time comes (and i really do mean it because she's a great girl and i really care about her) I've texted her a few more times but she's now completely ignoring me (but ok in person) although she eventually texted me saying her ex b/friend and her were going to try and sort things out if they can but he dumped her once because he doesn't have the time so i think he's just feeling guilty and i have a feeling they will never get back together! I know for sure she would text me if they got back together but so far this hasn't happened! Her good female friend who is also a good mate of mine says she's just confused and i moved a little too quickly and should just give it time (as long as she doesn't get back with the ex that is) I've stopped all contact with her now, ignoring her without being too rude and will probably never text her again. Now do you guys think she might eventually miss me now i've broken all contact and might get a second chance as long as the ex doesn't get back with her (which i don't think he ever will) and give her time to sort her head out, or do you really think i've screwed things up permanently by being too interested too soon? I'm getting on with my life but is it worth me even thinking i might still have a chance with her eventually or should i just move on for good? Thanks.
Poppy fields Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 I think if you want to have a chance with her, you need to continue to back off and give her time to finish this relationship. It sounds like things are still unresolved there. If she is truly interested, she will let you know when she is ready. In the meantime, go out with friends, date, and make yourself an attractive person to be around. Not a long suffering waity wait.
twgirl Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 on the other hand i think this is the best time ... sometimes a girl need someone to talked to after the incidents
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