venuss Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 why it says NC is a sure way to get them back? Whereas here everybody's understanding is that NC is for healing and moving on!!
OwlSoul Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 Because NC is also used in 'How to get your ex back' books/videos. After a break-up you feel yourself like you're worthless, ugly, useless and etc. Your world is basically about the dumper, you're playing the role of a person who is in love with the dumper. Crying, begging, stressing, being depressed... You're most likely started acting this way once you've noticed that your ex started distancing. As a result, you became someone else, not the person your pertner fell in love with. NC helps to get back yourself and erase this dumper-lover guy/girl. As a result, it increases the chances of getting back together. 1
destroyed4sho Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 NC also may bring your ex back temporarily bc they start to want what they cant have not because.they really want you back. 3
TaraMaiden Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 why it says NC is a sure way to get them back? Whereas here everybody's understanding is that NC is for healing and moving on!! can you provide (non-commercial) sources? Sometimes, people don't read well enough, if I'm honest. They get to that bit, and don't always progress to lower in the article where actually, it does point out that NC is NOT a tool designed or engineered towards a reunion.... It's happened here before... We've had people quoting texts or providing links, condemning the authors for giving the wrong advice - only to find that actually, the advice is spot-on. The posting member simply hasn't absorbed the information adequately...... 1
soccerrprp Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 why it says NC is a sure way to get them back? Whereas here everybody's understanding is that NC is for healing and moving on!! NC is not a "sure" way to get anyone back. It's primary and most predictable use is for healing. 2
Author venuss Posted April 7, 2013 Author Posted April 7, 2013 can you provide (non-commercial) sources? Sometimes, people don't read well enough, if I'm honest. They get to that bit, and don't always progress to lower in the article where actually, it does point out that NC is NOT a tool designed or engineered towards a reunion.... It's happened here before... We've had people quoting texts or providing links, condemning the authors for giving the wrong advice - only to find that actually, the advice is spot-on. The posting member simply hasn't absorbed the information adequately...... Is this non-commercial? How to Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back: 14 Steps - wikiHow I also had a free session with a dating coach, last week when I was very desperate to contact him. She 'promised' she can help me get him back and based on what I shared with her she estimated I will only need 4 - 6 sessions, in each session she will tell me what to do for next few days. For now she has asked me to maintain NC for another 2 weeks and meet her after that. I am not sure if I would want to may be not.
thefooloftheyear Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 Is this non-commercial? How to Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back: 14 Steps - wikiHow I also had a free session with a dating coach, last week when I was very desperate to contact him. She 'promised' she can help me get him back and based on what I shared with her she estimated I will only need 4 - 6 sessions, in each session she will tell me what to do for next few days. For now she has asked me to maintain NC for another 2 weeks and meet her after that. I am not sure if I would want to may be not. There are actually people out there that tell people this crap? Thats nuts..Is there a money back guarantee involved? I dont see it...If they dont want you, how can someone coach you?? Snake oil... TFOY 2
Author venuss Posted April 7, 2013 Author Posted April 7, 2013 There are actually people out there that tell people this crap? Thats nuts..Is there a money back guarantee involved? I dont see it...If they dont want you, how can someone coach you?? Snake oil... TFOY Obviously..no money back guarantee but she claims to have very high success rate. I am not bothered by her, I was just saying that as it sounds NC can be used to get them back, by taking their breadcrumbs or ignoring the attempts and moving on. Basically choice is yours, what you want to do when they are back.
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