tlamb93 Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 So I came to college thinking I would have such an easier time talking to girls and hooking up with them. My second night of college in the fall, me and my roommate found a few girls and hung out with them all night. I brought her back to my room, but a few things greatly interrupted us and our night was ruined. I never talked to the girl again. Ever since them, I've been almost cursed. Every girl I've talked to since has gone wrong. And it has resulted in my confidence being completely smashed to pieces. I haven't had confidence with any girls. I still haven't had sex in college and my freshmen year is almost over. All of my friends either have a girlfriend or are actively having sex too....It's terrible. What can I do to get some confidence back??
Poppy fields Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 What were the circumstances that interrupted you and your girl hooking up?
USMCHokie Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 What can I do to get some confidence back?? High school seniors. Tell them you're in college.
Poppy fields Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 High school seniors. Tell them you're in college. That is dependent on the age of consent in his state. But, not at all a bad idea.
USMCHokie Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 (edited) That is dependent on the age of consent in his state. But, not at all a bad idea. Yep, it's about evenly split between [16] and then [17 and 18] throughout the states. Edited April 7, 2013 by USMCHokie
Poppy fields Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 Maybe you're not getting them drunk enough? Word! All it took for me was a six pack of Rolling Rock and a Jimi Hendrix album. This I was putty. 1
Djz05 Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 Maybe you're not getting them drunk enough? I have to ask, did you remember to put a sock on the door? But yeah highschool seniors get a kick on getting hit on by college guys, much much easier if you decide to partake. Sometimes you dont even have to do anything, as long as you tell them quite a few will flock to you.
TheGuard13 Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 tlam, you need to be more specific about what happened. You've been pretty vague about what happened, it's hard to figure out where you went wrong, etc.
Giraffe1 Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 Stop this negative thinking you are cursed, you are NOT cursed. You had one negative experience and you are letting it set the tone for the rest of your life. Bad idea. I'm a big believer that the thoughts in your head do directly affect your life. If you keep thinking you are cursed and will never succeed you probably won't your thoughts are very powerful. And another thing stop comparing yourself to your friends it's not a race. Change your thoughts and attitude and see what happens.
Pompeii Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 I'm coming up on 20 and I'm in college. Still a virgin. Feels bad, man.
Giraffe1 Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 I'm coming up on 20 and I'm in college. Still a virgin. Feels bad, man. Are you talking to a lot of girls on campus?
Pompeii Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 Are you talking to a lot of girls on campus? Yeah, I know a lot of girls as friends but none of them see me as anything more. Oh well. I've pretty much accepted the fact that I will probably not get laid by the time I graduate and will be behind my peers in terms of sexual and dating experience. Oh well. We all can't be adept at everything.
Giraffe1 Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 Yeah, I know a lot of girls as friends but none of them see me as anything more. Oh well. I've pretty much accepted the fact that I will probably not get laid by the time I graduate and will be behind my peers in terms of sexual and dating experience. Oh well. We all can't be adept at everything. I'm rooting for you. I'm not an expert but if you dont mind I can give you some suggestions. So the girls you know now just see you as a friend so you should open up your social horizons and these new girls you meet could see you as something more. The beauty of college is there are so many classes and new people in each class. So if you put yourself out there you could potentially meet an amazing girl. The defeatist attitude won't help your case either, pick yourself up and be the man your dream woman would want. So would you want to have sex with a girl who you are only physically attracted to? Or would you rather have your first time be with a girl you like? Try to incorporate hope into your life, the hope you can date in college. It is feasible you still have quite a bit of time left in college and you have no idea who you can meet tomorrow or four months from now. Stay hopeful and positive and learn to be happy on your own. This attitude is contagious and will make women want to be around you.
Pompeii Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 I'm rooting for you. I'm not an expert but if you dont mind I can give you some suggestions. So the girls you know now just see you as a friend so you should open up your social horizons and these new girls you meet could see you as something more. The beauty of college is there are so many classes and new people in each class. So if you put yourself out there you could potentially meet an amazing girl. The defeatist attitude won't help your case either, pick yourself up and be the man your dream woman would want. So would you want to have sex with a girl who you are only physically attracted to? Or would you rather have your first time be with a girl you like? Try to incorporate hope into your life, the hope you can date in college. It is feasible you still have quite a bit of time left in college and you have no idea who you can meet tomorrow or four months from now. Stay hopeful and positive and learn to be happy on your own. This attitude is contagious and will make women want to be around you. Well, thanks. Yeah, there's new people in every class but most girls in class aren't open to meeting guys in such a rigid environment, especially when then only alternative is awkward small talk. Girls see right through this and usually aren't impressed (at least, in my experience). I don't expect to start having sex right away and having great success with girls. It's like an airplane that's starting to take off. An airplane just doesn't take off straight into the air. It needs a startup period. For me, I expect that start up period to be somewhat long, that is why I do not foresee it happening in college. Chemistry is something that happens between two people and something they actively create, but so far, I haven't felt it. I have made an effort to engage girls, but it never gets beyond friendly banter. I understand girls want to meet guys, but that doesn't mean they want to meet any guy. As far as having sex with a girl I like, most people don't have sex with someone they care for or even know, so the verdict is out on that one and I'll let the cards fall where they may. I'm not going to preoccupy myself with who I'll have sex with for the first time, considering I most likely haven't even met her (who knows if I will). The only thing I'm concerned about is getting some experience and not being left in the dust looking like a fool. You feel left out after a period of time and you start to wonder if something's wrong with you, like you're a piece of cheese left in the fridge too long, like you're a defective toy that somehow managed to make it out of the factory. The feeling is... disheartening. To say the least. But this thread isn't about me.
PogoStick Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 Yeah, I know a lot of girls as friends but none of them see me as anything more. Oh well. I've pretty much accepted the fact that I will probably not get laid by the time I graduate and will be behind my peers in terms of sexual and dating experience. Oh well. We all can't be adept at everything. That's the college spirit! Seriously, so what are you going to do about it?
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