Experiences/Tips on getting an ex back> Male point of view?

[sensitivegirl92]

Basically, here is the run down on what happened: broke up with me 2 days ago... We knew each other for 1 year and were together 10 months (anniversary is tomorrow..) basically it went like this:

 

1. He has a lot on his plate, family problems/sickness, school, work, no time to see me. Soo much stress on him. Said he doesn't feel ready to be in a relationship anymore. And doesn't love me anymore!!! He isn't in love with me anymore is what he said... But still cared and that there would always be a place in his heart for me. He told me to not do anything to harm myself. Text me saying he is sorry and he has had no time to meet me up, he wanted to do it in person.. so we talked on the phone but he still broke it off.

 

2. He said it felt like we had become f*ck buddies in a way, not to be harsh he said. and that he respected me way too much to become that. That lately he also hasn't had the energy for anything in his life and that he cares about me but we wont be able to see each other with all his family issues and the immense stress he has.

 

 

3. I asked to meet up yesterday, for closure and he hugged me so tight as soon as he saw me! We talked and I kept my dignity and strength (I sort of suggested I still wanted to try and work it out and that summer would come and we would be less stressed but he he said even though summer is coming, Fall will come again and things will get hard again.. his life is just too stressful)

 

4. He did cry as we talked. I kept a brave front and I told him only time would tell if we could talk as friends (while breaking inside!) and he took a picture of my penguin key chain to take with him.. He looked sad and when he would glance up at me after wiping his tears, he said it would be hard with all the little things of mine at his place, my scattered bobby pins, the photo album/stuffed animals he gave me, the countless gifts... we have soo many memories. He also teared up when I started calling him by our pet names.. like "baby" and other cute ones we made up for each other so long ago.

 

5. As we made our final walk to part ways, he suddenly held my hand and squeezed so hard, he had been tearing up and trying to hold back tears. He hugged me tight and asked for one last kiss and we kept kissing. .. and kissing.. and I whispered in his ear that I loved him but would try very hard to forget.. He was teary eyed again. said he'd text me and I wished him a good day. We parted ways and now we are over.

 

I cant believe he wont fight for me.

 

6. It has been a few days and tomorrow would have been our 10 month anniversary... He also hasn't changed his Facebook status to single. Why is that????? He has also been liking and liked a couples picture of them kissing on facebook so I know hes been on.

 

My question is, I understand this isn't the right time for him, but why wont he fight? How could he just leave me like this... I had so may plans for the summer with him.. so many things we will now never do. I want to eventually get back together with him. I told him he would have a shoulder to cry on if he ever needed me. I love him with all my heart. Even though I let him go and did not beg, I want to know , what can I do to make him want me back? to love me again??? Im sooo depressed and miss him like crazy! All I want is my baby back!!!

Edited April 7, 2013 by sensitivegirl92

[lovelifexx]

He wont fight for you because he doesn't love you anymore. He even said that to you. Why would you fight for someone if you dont love them anymore.

 

My ex broke up with me due to circumstance. He loved me but thought there were too many obstacles. He cried etc when he broke up with me so I thought there was a chance. We talked the first week after the BU but I havent heard from him since. It's been 4.5 months. Dumpers also get really emotionally when they break up with you, but it doesnt mean much. They still totally want it to end, obviously.

 

Sorry u are going through this. I felt like I was going to die of a broken heart the first few months.

[sensitivegirl92]

Yeah, it hurts so much. I keep hoping and dreaming he will come back and I wish he would wake up and realize it but right now I just feel so hopeless. I cant stop thinking about him 24/7