sanskrtapanditah Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 Not sure if I've posted in the correct category, but here is my question: There is a girl I've known for about 9 years. We used to go out to restaurants and movies together all the time, and practically knew everything about each other. Anyway, I had to move away a few years ago, so we lost contact till she found me on Facebook. Now, she's moved closer and we've started talking more. I recently told her that I always was attracted to her and still would be open to more than friendship. She told me she will tell me about her feelings when she is ready, and said "You're such a wonderful man and I'm impressed you got the guts to tell me". I told her to take all the time she needs. We're talking like normal now, but I'm still not sure how to interpret her response to my admission...
ses Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 Hate to break it to you but she's more than likely not interested. She may think you're a great guy but that's it. I used to be immature and use that excuse but I only hurt people. It really wasn't fair, and was very selfish. It's still really hard but I have to be direct and honest. I try not to hurt anyone's feelings (or ego) but it's a firm no when the attraction isn't mutual. I recently had a guy take it hard and go NC with me but I couldn't lie to him and to myself. I'm sure you would have preferred her to be straightforward and honest but I don't think she wanted to hurt your feelings. If she's a sweet girl she was trying to be considerate of the situation. Friendships often change when feelings are admitted, and it can be tough and awkward to let someone down gently. Don't wait for her to reevaluate her feelings for you. On the other hand she may be interested but need time. Regardless of the outcome I wish you a lot of luck. Take some time for yourself and get your mind back in the game.
Poppy fields Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 She most likely thinks you are a great guy, but is not physically attracted to you. Otherwise she probably would have taken your opening as an opportunity to get with you.
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