SpecialtyProvider Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 For background: I am a 22 year old male and she is an older female, only by a few years... late 20s something. Trying to be somewhat anonymous. We met a little while back, about a month ago and immediately hit it off. It's been a long time since a girl made me feel this way and I told her this, something which I think she appreciated. I went on a trip to visit a friend for a week, I tried talking to her every day - something in retrospect was a huge mistake I now see. A lot of crazy stuff happened on this trip and when I flew back in, she was picking me up. The ride back I was just rambling on and on about this trip, pretty much suffocating like crazy. I really wish I could go back in time and change this. Well the following day, we met up for a couple of minutes and she said that she thinks I am taking this too fast and seriously and she won't be as available as she has been due to work obligations. I got kind of upset and left her apartment. Now I'm at home freaking out because I miss this girl; sure it was a short(er) period of time but I have very fond memories and we had so many plans that I really want to fulfill with her because I like spending time with her and talking to her. I'm planning on trying to get her to come hang out Monday night, asking her tomorrow if she has any plans but I really don't know. A friend of mine told me if it were her, after a few days she would come around; my RL friend agreed with my assessment that I didn't give her enough space and thinks that she'll probably agree. Despite this, I can't stop thinking . I'm mostly just sharing to get this off of my chest, but any suggestions are highly appreciated.. ugh.
todreaminblue Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 For background: I am a 22 year old male and she is an older female, only by a few years... late 20s something. Trying to be somewhat anonymous. We met a little while back, about a month ago and immediately hit it off. It's been a long time since a girl made me feel this way and I told her this, something which I think she appreciated. I went on a trip to visit a friend for a week, I tried talking to her every day - something in retrospect was a huge mistake I now see. A lot of crazy stuff happened on this trip and when I flew back in, she was picking me up. The ride back I was just rambling on and on about this trip, pretty much suffocating like crazy. I really wish I could go back in time and change this. Well the following day, we met up for a couple of minutes and she said that she thinks I am taking this too fast and seriously and she won't be as available as she has been due to work obligations. I got kind of upset and left her apartment. Now I'm at home freaking out because I miss this girl; sure it was a short(er) period of time but I have very fond memories and we had so many plans that I really want to fulfill with her because I like spending time with her and talking to her. I'm planning on trying to get her to come hang out Monday night, asking her tomorrow if she has any plans but I really don't know. A friend of mine told me if it were her, after a few days she would come around; my RL friend agreed with my assessment that I didn't give her enough space and thinks that she'll probably agree. Despite this, I can't stop thinking . I'm mostly just sharing to get this off of my chest, but any suggestions are highly appreciated.. ugh. she is slowing you down if you like her take her lead and just relax a little, take it slow, she didnt say ....its over did she?....best wishes....deb
Author SpecialtyProvider Posted April 6, 2013 Author Posted April 6, 2013 she is slowing you down if you like her take her lead and just relax a little, take it slow, she didnt say ....its over did she?....best wishes....deb This is the thing, I can't remember. I was upset, you know how when your face gets hot and you feel embarassed and you just don't know what to do so you leave the situation? This happened to me! I remember saying something along the lines of "What does that mean for us?" and then she dropped the "too fast" piece. Then I think I said "Maybe it's better if we just not see each other then" but I can't freaking remember for the life of me!! Ugh. I'm trying to study and my brain is somewhere else. I forgot to include this next bit in the original post also I forgot to mention, her birthday was this week so I texted her happy birthday. We had a very short conversation. I haven't been texting her at all trying to give some of the much needed space and honestly I can't stop thinking about her. Idc it was only a month, it's more of what you do in that time (regardless of how short)!! Thank you for your reply, I am just looking to be calmed down a little bit with some type of positive news 1
todreaminblue Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 This is the thing, I can't remember. I was upset, you know how when your face gets hot and you feel embarassed and you just don't know what to do so you leave the situation? This happened to me! I remember saying something along the lines of "What does that mean for us?" and then she dropped the "too fast" piece. Then I think I said "Maybe it's better if we just not see each other then" but I can't freaking remember for the life of me!! Ugh. I'm trying to study and my brain is somewhere else. I forgot to include this next bit in the original post also I forgot to mention, her birthday was this week so I texted her happy birthday. We had a very short conversation. I haven't been texting her at all trying to give some of the much needed space and honestly I can't stop thinking about her. Idc it was only a month, it's more of what you do in that time (regardless of how short)!! Thank you for your reply, I am just looking to be calmed down a little bit with some type of positive news i get that hot thing happen to me too,normally when i am uncomfortable, i also get the inner brain shake, thats not fun at all,its like inertia on fast forward..... I am sorry you are so confused, just keep doing what you are doing allowing her space and be light hearted in your dealings with her, be calm....even when you dont feel it,project that calm, fake it till you make it.....good luck with your studies try and focus on them for a little while, she isnt moving away, time is an essence that becomes sweeter for some........it may be sweet for you.anything can happen anything and everything can be possible ..let time pass for that possibility to happen......hugs and loads of hope sent your way......deb
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