KraftDinner Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 The approach thing is tricky and will depend on the girl, the situation, the location etc. Some guy started chatting me up at a groc store, and it just felt wrong. He was very cute and stuff but it felt awkward. I just wanted to buy my spinach and go home. I felt like he might want to take me home...in the trunk of his car. In other words, he was too overly forward in what I thought was an inappropriate location and it made me feel vulnerable and uncomfortable. (It wasn't just that he was talking to me, of course. I'll chat with anyone. It was just that it was obvious he was looking to pull.) But standing around the coffee machine at work, if some new guy (pretend I'm single in this scenario) started talking to me and asked me out, it would be great and I'd probably say yes if he was nice, even if he wasn't good-looking. I met my fiance in a bar but neither of us was looking and it definitely wasn't a pick-up. But if a guy comes up to me in a bar and he's friendly and doesn't seem aggressive, it won't matter what he looks like. I'll have a chat. Exchange numbers (again, if I was single)...do a shot or two, haha. Honestly though, I'd say I'm less hung up on looks than many. I find quirky faces really attractive. But none of that matters if the guy is pushy. Tangent? Sorry...
ScreamingTrees Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 How can one be receptive at work, but not in a grocery store? How is one *really* any more appropriate than the other? You can't lose your job because of a grocery store approach.. I'd much rather some hyper-sensitive weirdo girl think I'm the kind of guy to cut her into a million pieces because I walked up to her and said "hey, I'm fred! I think you're cute, you want to get coffee sometime?" than be the guy with no job because of legal action taken against me due to actual sexual harassment complaints.. Even if it's an overreaction/total bull, in one setting the person's false cries of wolf can be documented to hurt me legally/financially, and in the other there's really no proof (unless I've actually done something illegal or wrong, like following a total stranger home after they'd rejected me, refused to exchanged numbers, etc..
january2011 Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 ... walking down the street. What do you do? Stare? Smile? Flip your hair back as you smile... what? I think, "oh, he's good looking, could/must be a model," and leave it at that. No staring or smiling. I don't think it's the done thing round these parts. Staring could be considered aggressive and confrontational. Smiling is reserved for old ladies, cute older couples and children/babies.
miss_jaclynrae Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 Hahahahah Oh man, when I was single and if he wasn't with another woman? I would make it VERY obvious I was checkIng him out. My girlfriends used to make fun of me because I would literally double take, do the up down check out, or totally turn my head and follow him with my eyes.
suladas Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 I usually just flash my titties. Great answer! I would have also accepted going up to the guy and grabbing his crotch, that is also acceptable and encouraged!
Archgirl Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 My love has returned. So you're a boob guy? Not an ass man? Halleluyah!! 1
Archgirl Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 No. I'm definitely an ass man. My love = Lani. I know, she's a wanted woman in these parts *sigh* Just hoping there was one hot flirty guy on here with a predilection for defending short men who wasn't all about the azz. I've grown used to the Lani is a goddess syndrome. Kingy! Someone is stealin yo woman again! 1
suladas Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 I know, she's a wanted woman in these parts *sigh* Just hoping there was one hot flirty guy on here with a predilection for defending short men who wasn't all about the azz. I've grown used to the Lani is a goddess syndrome. Kingy! Someone is stealin yo woman again! That's because she is so sweet
iKING Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 I know, she's a wanted woman in these parts *sigh* Just hoping there was one hot flirty guy on here with a predilection for defending short men who wasn't all about the azz. I've grown used to the Lani is a goddess syndrome. Kingy! Someone is stealin yo woman again! Good luck finding that. Those guys are so mainstream. 1
Archgirl Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 That's because she is so sweet You mean she's a push over who listens to you whine? Whatevs I'll stick with being a mouthy smartass then thanks. Back to topic. Flashing my tits had not yet occured to me as necessary for signalling interest before being bought a considerable number of bourbons, but points for being totally outre and coincidentally hilarious Larns, add charging a dollar a look and the world is yours :bunny:
Lani Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 Look at what you did Tom! I already told you! Thanks for the backhanded nicies Arch 1
Author Marek Posted April 7, 2013 Author Posted April 7, 2013 Why do you ask? Are you looking for "signs of attraction?" Pretty much. But there's such a discrepancy between signs of attraction (from what I've read in this thread) that now I've become confused Some chicks give me prolonged eye contact, i.e. for 4 seconds or so, but they don't smile. Confused.
Author Marek Posted April 7, 2013 Author Posted April 7, 2013 What do you think will happen if you approach a woman without receiving these "signs" first? I'd inevitably get shot down. Women will show you signs when they want to be approached.
ScreamingTrees Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 Pretty much. But there's such a discrepancy between signs of attraction (from what I've read in this thread) that now I've become confused Some chicks give me prolonged eye contact, i.e. for 4 seconds or so, but they don't smile. Confused. I feel as if I get the same treatment.. Eye contact with a blank expression... ??? I'm not staring like I'm going to murder them, honestly.. lol
Lani Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 My erection is a dead give away. When you see a hot guy? But I thought you... I mean... never mind. 1
DirtyDancing Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 I'm shy when it comes to this.. I'll simply make eye contact and smile. If they aren't returning the 2-5 second eye lock, I usually don't make any further effort to grab their attention . Usually at that point, I just keep walking. Their loss
Author Marek Posted April 8, 2013 Author Posted April 8, 2013 I'm shy when it comes to this.. I'll simply make eye contact and smile. If they aren't returning the 2-5 second eye lock, I usually don't make any further effort to grab their attention . Usually at that point, I just keep walking. Their loss So, you WANT good-looking guys on the street or on campus to come up and chat to you out of the blue? I thought there was some social framework that goes against this.
Giraffe1 Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 When I see a handsome guy I look real fast and then play it cool and disinterested. Doesn't really work for me and if he looks at me I blush:o. I have no game.
Author Marek Posted April 8, 2013 Author Posted April 8, 2013 When I see a handsome guy I look real fast and then play it cool and disinterested. Doesn't really work for me and if he looks at me I blush:o. I have no game. I wish more girls blushed when I look at them or talk to them. Ehhh, hand I've been dealt is a harsh one.
Giraffe1 Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 I wish more girls blushed when I look at them or talk to them. Ehhh, hand I've been dealt is a harsh one. I hate the fact I blush like that it's so embarrassing.
Author Marek Posted April 8, 2013 Author Posted April 8, 2013 I hate the fact I blush like that it's so embarrassing. Some guys, such as myself, find it cute.
Giraffe1 Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 Some guys, such as myself, find it cute. Well I'm sure there are many other girls out there like myself that will blush when you look/compliment them. I can't control it wish I could.
aussietigerwolf Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 I'd like to say I smile but really, it's probably a pretty goofy grin lol
Divasu Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 I'm a deer stuck in headlights. Then, when he looks away, I'll find myself staring at him all doe eyed with a big stupid grin on my face.
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