lilacwine Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 Hi everyone, It's been more than 8 months since the breakup and three months of strict no contact between me and the ex. The last time we talked, I specifically asked him never to contact me again so I can be in peace (I was the dumpee). Today I suddenly got this text from a strange number, it goes like this "Dear friend (and foes), I just lost my phone and number. Please update my new number. My ex's name". At first I didn't pay much attention as I thought he just ticked everyone from a list of numbers on his phone to send out this "notification of new phone number text". However, I suddenly realize how come he still have my number if he already lost his phone and sim card. It doesn't make any sense. And if he still has my number stored somewhere else other than his phone, the moment he sent me that text, he must have been aware that he was sending to me. So the text must be intentionally sent to me. If this is the case, it doesn't make sense either as I already asked him never to contact me and hence of course he should know I don't need his new phone number. I'm confused by this. (Of course I didn't reply as I plan to stick to no contact. And he didn't ask about me anyway so no reply needed I guess). So what do you guys think? Do you think he intentionally send that text to me? And if so, what purpose does it serve?
targaryen Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 maybe he contacted his service provider and sent out a mass text to everyone he had in his database? don't overthink it. ignore it and move in. I speak from personal experience: that way lies great sadness 1
Tressugar Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 (edited) He did it to try to worm his way back into your life. Good for you, don't let him! I also find it strange why would he want his foes to update their contacts to include his new number...not unless he's odd in that manner. Edited April 6, 2013 by Tressugar 1
destroyed4sho Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 You can store cell.numbers straight from.your phone with an application or google or with your carrier. Then with the new phine you can download the numbers and send a mass text msg to everyone with your new number. Thats what I did. 1
lovelifexx Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 It sounds like a mass text to me. He probably had all the numbers stored somewhere else. 1
Author lilacwine Posted April 6, 2013 Author Posted April 6, 2013 It sounds like a mass text to me. He probably had all the numbers stored somewhere else. I would love to believe that this is a mass text and I don't want to overthink at all because it sure is not gonna do me any good. However, the tone of the text is what makes me get suspicious. Especially with the part "friends (and foes)". As far as I know, this is his sense of humour and the text is supposed to be targeted at his friends only. He can't possibly send to everyone (friends, colleagues, family members, etc) on his database a text as such.
lop98 Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 I think it's what lovelifexx says and that he's not taking your pain and NC request seriously. Ignore. He can take his new number, and * it. 2
Author lilacwine Posted April 6, 2013 Author Posted April 6, 2013 It sounds like a mass text to me. He probably had all the numbers stored somewhere else. Of course it IS a mass text. But what I mean is that I suspect he was fully aware of who he actually sent it too (a subset of his contact list) and he decided to include me. Why the hell do I need to know his new number for if we're never gonna speak again? That's why I question his motivation.
Jono85 Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 Of course it IS a mass text. But what I mean is that I suspect he was fully aware of who he actually sent it too (a subset of his contact list) and he decided to include me. Why the hell do I need to know his new number for if we're never gonna speak again? That's why I question his motivation. yes but you know the truth is none of us can answer that question. furthermore even if we could answer it, and say yes he intentionally included you in that text, now what? assuming he did, he could just be looking for an ego boost that you're still wrapped around his finger. throw out a feeler to see if she'll bite. this is what lots of people do when they're not feeling validated by anyone and seek it. keep moving on. at least you know that if he has a new phone now, and you haven't responded, than he shouldn't have your number anymore, ie. you should be able to be left alone now. 1
Damaged23 Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 He probably just wanted you to have his new number. So he sends a mass text, instead of just one to you. He's just playing a game.. Ignore it and continue with your progress. Good luck! 1
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