jimbob88 Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 (edited) Hi everyone new to this forum, Recently come out of a 5 year relationship, it was my exs 21st and i payed for a hoilday for her to go away with the girls (i knoe bad move ) she met a new lad and she came home and she just went cold and said she wanst in love with me nomore. and left me like she didnt even no me. i was at the lowest i have ever been in my life n I chased her for 5 months to come back until she hated my guts. i did everything i could for the girl and was planning to propose to her in New york city this chirstmas (all booked). I eventually let go and went into no contact (3 months and counting). And i've been dating a new girl who my ex dislikes (not intentional but my ex found out), I was at a 21st birthday party last weekend with a few of her work friends, And they tell me that my ex is showing signs of regret and is very lonley as the lad she met on holiday has left her, she has no money to go out with her friends. It got me thinking of contacting her but i havnt. but this week ive spoken to one of the girls who she works with and my ex has fallen out with them all for having photos with me and talking to me on the night out. im very confused and would like some opinions and advice on what to do next as she's is too stubborn to contact me. Thanks and appreciate everyone who makes the effort to help. J Edited April 6, 2013 by jimbob88
hannah11 Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 Stick to the no contact. You have already moved on and she is regretting it. Probably because she doesn't have anyone to pay for her vacations anymore. There is no point in going back to her, shes basically just feeling lonely and she is thinking that you will be there to catch her.
Author jimbob88 Posted April 6, 2013 Author Posted April 6, 2013 Stick to the no contact. You have already moved on and she is regretting it. Probably because she doesn't have anyone to pay for her vacations anymore. There is no point in going back to her, shes basically just feeling lonely and she is thinking that you will be there to catch her. Thanks hannah means alot. her friends told me shes expecting me to text her on our anniversary (11th of april) but gona stay strong and not let it bother me
Author jimbob88 Posted April 6, 2013 Author Posted April 6, 2013 why do you think shes fallen out with her friends though for talking to me? its confused me
hannah11 Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 What do you mean by fallen out? Like she is angry with them? Maybe because she doesn't want them to be friends with you, girls are kind of like that I guess. But you are right, it is confusing. Since she is telling her friends she wants you to text her, but how are you supposed to know she wanted you to text her if her friends hadn't talked to you. Being a girl I should really probably understand all of this, but girls confuse me almost as much as guys do haha. I'm thinking about it though and if my friends were to go hang out with my ex and be friends then I might get annoyed.
Author jimbob88 Posted April 6, 2013 Author Posted April 6, 2013 (edited) we was only at the same party bu had a catch up chat and a photo thatw as all. but i was happy n smiling and with the girl im dating now! maybe they have told her and shes got mad im not sure. But my ex is so stuborn she would never text me 1st even if she is dying inside. Even though she said she hated me for "stalking her" after the break up. but best to keep in no contact eh x Edited April 6, 2013 by jimbob88
hannah11 Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 Yes! Exactly. The fact that you were in a picture smiling and happy with your new girlfriend is probably what pissed her off.
thefooloftheyear Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 Yes! Exactly. The fact that you were in a picture smiling and happy with your new girlfriend is probably what pissed her off. Agree...Dumpers can be very selfish..They go off and crush you and expect you to sit home and cry in your beer. The minute you move forward, they get annoyed. Eff them! TFOY
Author jimbob88 Posted April 6, 2013 Author Posted April 6, 2013 She apparently asks her sister to check my Facebook wall to see what i get up to, i have mixed signals, do any of you think she showing signs she wants me back? After what she put me through n thinks she said n how cold she was, it doesn't make spence to me
hannah11 Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 She apparently asks her sister to check my Facebook wall to see what i get up to, i have mixed signals, do any of you think she showing signs she wants me back? After what she put me through n thinks she said n how cold she was, it doesn't make spence to me No, she is just checking to make sure you are miserable. But you aren't so it's throwing her off. She is only showing sings of wanting you back because she sees you happy. Don't give in though, she is just being selfish.
hannah11 Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 Agree...Dumpers can be very selfish..They go off and crush you and expect you to sit home and cry in your beer. The minute you move forward, they get annoyed. Eff them! TFOY Perfect! I don't get it...if your gonna be the dumper then you shouldn't be going back and checking up on your ex. It just unnecessarily complicates things. Just move on and get over it ya know? They just want you to be as miserable as they really are.
Author jimbob88 Posted April 7, 2013 Author Posted April 7, 2013 yes hannah thats it she cant get her head round that im happy without her right?......i just hope she doesnt come back to mess with my head. i do love her deep down but you have to remember what she did to me. if shes done it once she'll do it again, plus i used to pay her phone contact now shes left me with that to pay it until the end, my own fault i know but another reason that she didnt give a s*hit when she though the grass was greener
hannah11 Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 yes hannah thats it she cant get her head round that im happy without her right?......i just hope she doesnt come back to mess with my head. i do love her deep down but you have to remember what she did to me. if shes done it once she'll do it again, plus i used to pay her phone contact now shes left me with that to pay it until the end, my own fault i know but another reason that she didnt give a s*hit when she though the grass was greener Yeah that's right! She might try to mess with your head but just don't let her. She also needs to go through the whole moving on phases but can't because she sees you happy and thinks if she was still with you then she might also be happy. But then she will see something she likes better again and do the whole thing over. Don't give in, or she will then know that she can pretty much make you do whatever she wants and she can do whatever she wants and you will still be there when she comes crawling back. You seem to be doing really great by the way!! Now just don't let anything she does or says get to your head.
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