tbf Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 Nice of you to quote me and then totally miss my point. Thank you for making my point with an assumption.I didn't miss you point. It was irrelevant.
jma500 Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 I didn't miss you point. It was irrelevant. Irrelevent to you maybe but factual nonetheless.
ltjg45 Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 A man can be a virgin and still be great at sex. It's the ability to read the non-verbal cues given, whether dancing or in bed. Sexual empathy. Men who are oblivious to partner cues, whether physical or emotional, don't make good sex partners. I just wish women just tell the males what they want and stop it with these clues. It would be so much easier for me to please a women if I hear tell me exactly what she wants and not let me guess and hope, for her sake, that I know what she is talking about.
chex Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 I just wish women just tell the males what they want and stop it with these clues. It would be so much easier for me to please a women if I hear tell me exactly what she wants and not let me guess and hope, for her sake, that I know what she is talking about. I'm glad I have a girl who tells me exactly what she wants 1
nessaaa Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 I think its a turn off when men dance to music like salsa or whatever dances that require hip movement. Leave that for the women please.
PogoStick Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 I think dancing is a great idea for the guys here always asking how to meet women. Too bad for all of the guys pissing on the idea. I know of several bars that do a free hour dance lesson every week, often something like salsa. And of course theirs country line dancing but F-that! Anyways guys, you can't ask for a better situation. Get partnered up with a girl, breaking the ice while getting to be intimate and flirty. She's already excited and interested in you. An hour later you walk 30 feet and have a drink. 2
Author irc333 Posted April 8, 2013 Author Posted April 8, 2013 Usually the men *issing on the idea haven't had much success with women, or of a younger generation (20-somethings, maybe 30's) or just trollin'. lol I think dancing is a great idea for the guys here always asking how to meet women. Too bad for all of the guys pissing on the idea. I know of several bars that do a free hour dance lesson every week, often something like salsa. And of course theirs country line dancing but F-that! Anyways guys, you can't ask for a better situation. Get partnered up with a girl, breaking the ice while getting to be intimate and flirty. She's already excited and interested in you. An hour later you walk 30 feet and have a drink.
Kaiten Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 Anyone in agreement here...make sense? Yes. This is 100% true. But be careful if you are in a committed relationship! I dabble in the dance hall dances. But my trump card is my breaking! Whenever there is a break in the action and the floor clears up some, i go out there and "run the floor". I am actually amazed at the reception i get! People no matter what age love it. It makes you the talk of the night. All the girls look at you too. No joke. I got so much attention from girls that it surprised the **** outta me. I was telling my ex gf about some events before (she was unable to attend) and it made her really upset. I understand though even though i would have never ever dreamed of cheating on her. Its just incredible the power dancing has over women though! 2
jma500 Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 Yes. This is 100% true. But be careful if you are in a committed relationship! I dabble in the dance hall dances. But my trump card is my breaking! Whenever there is a break in the action and the floor clears up some, i go out there and "run the floor". I am actually amazed at the reception i get! People no matter what age love it. It makes you the talk of the night. All the girls look at you too. No joke. I got so much attention from girls that it surprised the **** outta me. I was telling my ex gf about some events before (she was unable to attend) and it made her really upset. I understand though even though i would have never ever dreamed of cheating on her. Its just incredible the power dancing has over women though! Simple, easily distracted people. The same type who watch jersey shore and find it to be an intellectually enlightening experience. When a man does something that puts him in the spotlight it is immediately equated with confidence. Nothing could be further from the truth. It is a deep seated insecurity that propels these men to seek attention and approval from others, especially women.
RedRobin Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 Simple, easily distracted people. The same type who watch jersey shore and find it to be an intellectually enlightening experience. When a man does something that puts him in the spotlight it is immediately equated with confidence. Nothing could be further from the truth. It is a deep seated insecurity that propels these men to seek attention and approval from others, especially women. I consider myself a pretty good dancer... and I don't own a television. Never seen Jersey Shore... and for the most part, hate being in the public eye. If you don't understand how liberating the ACT of dancing is... whether you do it alone for no one else but yourself... or with other people participating or watching... that's fine. However, you are likely going to have a very hard time convincing anyone that dancing is a character flaw... unless you are an evangelical Southern Baptist. Are you? 1
jma500 Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 I consider myself a pretty good dancer... and I don't own a television. Never seen Jersey Shore... and for the most part, hate being in the public eye. If you don't understand how liberating the ACT of dancing is... whether you do it alone for no one else but yourself... or with other people participating or watching... that's fine. However, you are likely going to have a very hard time convincing anyone that dancing is a character flaw... unless you are an evangelical Southern Baptist. Are you? Nope. It becomes a character flaw when it is done for the attention and the approval of others. Guys do it solely for this reason. I am not trying to convince anyone to take my position. I comment on what i have observed in my years of experience.
RogerWallace111 Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 I consider myself a pretty good dancer... and I don't own a television. Never seen Jersey Shore... and for the most part, hate being in the public eye. If you don't understand how liberating the ACT of dancing is... whether you do it alone for no one else but yourself... or with other people participating or watching... that's fine. However, you are likely going to have a very hard time convincing anyone that dancing is a character flaw... unless you are an evangelical Southern Baptist. Are you? Mhmm. And those who are dancing solely for attention, or the approval of others, aren't doin' it right, I agree with the sourpuss poster. That doesn't mean you can't try to impress women, or have to be completely absorbed in what you're doing to the point that you're oblivious of your surroundings. It's like with musicians. When a guitarist or singer is super immersed in what they're doing, and is performing with real passion, they're gonna be particularly attractive to the women watching. They can be aware of the attention and even be intentionally sexy to some extent, but the moment it becomes a truly ingenuine performance or acting job, it's gonna show. Assuming a guy actually has a natural sense of rhythm and real feel for dancing, I think it makes sense women would take note of it. The keywords being "natural" and "feel". Of course there are PLENTY of guys out there who lack this element and would thus come off as "goofy", "ridiculous", "creepy", etc. Say a girl ends up back at a guys house and he pulls out the guitar for a terrible, cheesy performance of some generic rock tune. It just makes him look like a fool. Same with the sh*tty, wannabe dancer. Say the guy instead plays a beautifully heartfelt, tastefully delivered song. Or dances to a number deftly, in a controlled but not understated way. In performing the same activity that could have made him look like a serious fool, he shows himself to be a graceful, smooth motherf*cker with some swagger. And it no doubt comes from a similar part of the brain as sexuality, regardless of what some on here are saying. Of course you can be a bad dancer and still f*ck well, but not many masterfully sensuous dancers are going to f*ck badly. 1
RedRobin Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 ... but not many masterfully sensuous dancers are going to f*ck badly. you betcha!
KungFuJoe Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 Da fuq? Who the hell dances for the approval of others? I never even heard of such a thing... 2
jma500 Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 Da fuq? Who the hell dances for the approval of others? I never even heard of such a thing... Most guys dance for the following reasons: because they think it makes them look alpha and ultimately to get laid. Both require the approval of others. Any other questions? Unfortunately they are simply seen as clowns/fools and never taken seriously.
candie13 Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 Met my current bf at a dance class. I have done 10 years of ballet so I'm a pretty good dancer. Bf's getting quite good as well. We went dancing a couple of times and he adored dancing with me. The thing with me is the following: because I've been dancing my whole life, I don't feel a special attraction to my dance partners. I would dance with anyone who can make me spin - short, small, thin, fat, black, white, young, old, I really couldn't care less. The more you dance, the more people you dance with, the better you get at it. Bf thinks differently. He feels dancing is a "couple" thing and isn't that interested in dancing with other women, despite my encouraging him to. I suspect he is still quite unsure of his level, quite shy and reserved . I don't really mind, but to me, dancing is important. With or without him. It'll be interesting to see if he continues to feel this way, when he perfects his dancing skills. We are highly compatible, when it comes to dancing and he really appreciates me as his partner - of course, I know him, understand his style, and because I kept dancing with him, understand what he wants me to do even before giving very clear signs of his next move... maybe he just dreads starting all over again, with a new partner. I am sure that once he'll get the hang of it, he'll enjoy dancing with different partners and give me some peace !
Kaiten Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 Most guys dance for the following reasons: because they think it makes them look alpha and ultimately to get laid. Both require the approval of others. Any other questions? Unfortunately they are simply seen as clowns/fools and never taken seriously. The way you talk about guys who dance makes me think that whenever another guy has the attention of the room it makes you think of how much you find yourself to be lacking. I think them getting attention from girls makes YOU insecure. Thats what i think
jma500 Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 The way you talk about guys who dance makes me think that whenever another guy has the attention of the room it makes you think of how much you find yourself to be lacking. I think them getting attention from girls makes YOU insecure. Thats what i think Absolutely incorrect. I never look to anyone for attention except myself. I am not lacking at all. I do not care if i get one iota of attention from others. I rely/depend on myself period. All learned from being an only child.
tbf Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 Irrelevent to you maybe but factual nonetheless.Did you know that many subspecies of coyotes were created through the natural crossbreeding with wolves? This is why these subspecies became larger. Factual but irrelevant. I just wish women just tell the males what they want and stop it with these clues. It would be so much easier for me to please a women if I hear tell me exactly what she wants and not let me guess and hope, for her sake, that I know what she is talking about.During foreplay and intercourse, while there are people comfortable with or enjoy belting out continuous instructions, most turn off their executive functions and meld into sensations. Critical thinking and sex, don't mesh very well.
Kaiten Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 Absolutely incorrect. I never look to anyone for attention except myself. I am not lacking at all. I do not care if i get one iota of attention from others. I rely/depend on myself period. All learned from being an only child. Is that right? So you think there is nothing wrong with the fact that you view any guy who dances in a public setting as insecure?
ltjg45 Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 During foreplay and intercourse, while there are people comfortable with or enjoy belting out continuous instructions, most turn off their executive functions and meld into sensations. Critical thinking and sex, don't mesh very well. I'm not saying that I need to be constantly reminded. But if I were to sleep with a woman for the 1st time and that woman expect me to get it right that 1st time without having even a single clue how she wants to be pleasured, it's just not happening. I'm not a mind reader of any kind.
Kaiten Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 Absolutely incorrect. I never look to anyone for attention except myself. I am not lacking at all. Oh spare me, Vegeta. I've heard this sad emotional front so many times that i have a name for it. Youre what i call a "prince of all saiyans". No man is an island. Relationships ultimately make us who we are. How can you never look to anyone for attention at all? dude PLEASE! Look at the top left of your webpage. Are you, or are you not logged into a forum subtitled "Interpersonal relationship center"? Dont give me dont BS
tbf Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 I'm not saying that I need to be constantly reminded. But if I were to sleep with a woman for the 1st time and that woman expect me to get it right that 1st time without having even a single clue how she wants to be pleasured, it's just not happening. I'm not a mind reader of any kind.Just open your empathy ports and stop thinking. Feel. Perfection isn't necessary. It's the dance of give and take.
jma500 Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 Oh spare me, Vegeta. I've heard this sad emotional front so many times that i have a name for it. Youre what i call a "prince of all saiyans". No man is an island. Relationships ultimately make us who we are. How can you never look to anyone for attention at all? dude PLEASE! Look at the top left of your webpage. Are you, or are you not logged into a forum subtitled "Interpersonal relationship center"? Dont give me dont BS I don't give a damn what you believe.
Mme. Chaucer Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 The way you talk about guys who dance makes me think that whenever another guy has the attention of the room it makes you think of how much you find yourself to be lacking. I think them getting attention from girls makes YOU insecure. Thats what i think He's just pissed cause he can't bust any moves.
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