iris219 Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 You remind me of this exact situation I was at this party that hired a private band....it was rockin' roll music...in this case no "formal dancing" like I posted about, just dancing as if you would in a night club. There is this one woman, pretty wild for a 40-something, but in pretty damned good shape, nice body, great smile...very fun person. She brought her boyfriend with her....but, she was the only one getting her groove on on the dance floor with her friends, while the dork just stood there on the sidelines sippin' a beer, NEVER danced the entire night. She would go back to him to take a break, and would kind of shake it in front of him, rubbin' her booty up against him on the side of the dance floor, while the idiot just stood there like a lump....sippin his beer. LOL I was really wondering if he was even getting aroused by this mock lap dance? I was thinking "What does she see in that guy??" Why is the guy an idiot for not dancing? I would have absolutely no problem with the above scenario.
charlietheginger Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 i was at a karaoke bar between songs the dj would Play dance music..... i got right in with the girls for " the cuban shuffle " Chicks luaghed.... About a half hour later i did "the wobble " Lol its a great icebreaker and yes chicks like a guy Not afraid to be adventurous
Radu Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 Women who like to dance are attracted to men who can dance, assuming he doesn't have characteristics that are a turn off for women. Most men are not that good at dancing, but for those who are, it does attract female attention. It always impressed me that my husband was a good dancer when we were dating, and since we both liked to dance, we'd go dancing together on a weekly basis. My sister loves to dance and is very attracted to men who can dance well, and now that she's married, whenever her and her husband go out dancing, which is often, women come up to her husband and try to flirt with him and express their interest in him because he is such a good dancer. He, of course, would not express interest back and is very loyal to my sister, but it goes to show that women are very attracted to a man who can dance well. There's another thing at play there too. The encounter you described would increase his value in her eyes tremendously [the other women approaching him], which i am willing to be good money, will lead to some pretty incredible sex at home on her part, involving her seducing him all over again.
Radu Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 You remind me of this exact situation I was at this party that hired a private band....it was rockin' roll music...in this case no "formal dancing" like I posted about, just dancing as if you would in a night club. There is this one woman, pretty wild for a 40-something, but in pretty damned good shape, nice body, great smile...very fun person. She brought her boyfriend with her....but, she was the only one getting her groove on on the dance floor with her friends, while the dork just stood there on the sidelines sippin' a beer, NEVER danced the entire night. She would go back to him to take a break, and would kind of shake it in front of him, rubbin' her booty up against him on the side of the dance floor, while the idiot just stood there like a lump....sippin his beer. LOL I was really wondering if he was even getting aroused by this mock lap dance? I was thinking "What does she see in that guy??" She was dancing for him. Either to get him to dance, or to seduce him. The best example of this i ever saw was this 60yr old woman in amazing shape with great skin, in a very nice dress who was seducing her own husband at a party. She danced for several hs while the rest of the youngsters were on the side and i was envying her and her husband [great communication between the two]. Turns out, it was his b-day and she was doing it on purpose to get him hot and bothered. He could dance too, but not like her. She was doing it for him. 1
Imported Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 (edited) What I'm saying is that if a guy dances or not doesn't seem to factor into a his attractiveness at all. If a woman already is attracted to a guy, then she might add "and he's a great dancer" and that would impress her friends. Dancing by itself is irrelevant Where do you dance? If it's just classes at college with only women in your class, you may want to adventure out farther before you make it a closed case. And, you have fun when you dance right? I travel to Latin American countries a lot and those women love to dance. Just about everywhere I go there for drinking, there is also dancing. Sure, when a girl dances with a guy, it doesn't mean they are going to have children together or even practice at it, but just being out there and having a smile on your face enjoying yourself will make you more attractive. I will get results no matter what I do, but dancing does make me feel more accelerated and happy in general which makes me a lot more free flowing and connected to the moment. In such a state, I can probably talk the virgin Mary into taking it up...never mind. Women generally get attracted to me on sight. Asking them to dance is just a really easy way for us to start talking. If your girlfriend is dancing with me, you might want to think twice. I am not a eunuch and it is extremely unlikely your girlfriend will view me as such. However, I don't knowingly mess with other guys girl's and even if your girlfriend is ready to be unfaithful to you, she isn't doing it with me. There is no need. At some point, I will slow dance with a girl, no matter how fast the song plays or if it ends and there is no music. I have practiced making conversations where I just block out everything and don't pay attention to anything but the girl in front of me and it is obvious (not that I practiced it). You would think such a simple thing wouldn't really make much of a difference, but it does. Slow dancing with her held close while doing this just compounds it. Usually I can just lead her right out of there right after. Edited April 6, 2013 by Imported 1
somedude81 Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 Where do you dance? If it's just classes at college with only women in your class, you may want to adventure out farther before you make it a closed case. And, you have fun when you dance right? I travel to Latin American countries a lot and those women love to dance. And where should I go to dance with girls that would actually give a damn? I'm not going to travel international. The problem with going to some kind of dance club or ballroom is that all the guys there dance. Those environments greatly favor women. If a woman doesn't go to those dancing places, she's not going to give a damn if a guy does.
Mr_Flay Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 It's a good skill to learn. Anyone here posting about how male dancing is gay, effeminate or "friendzone-inducing" is really just saying "sour grapes". I'm currently well into my second month of formal dance lessons. We learn classical and Latin dances, but more of the latter category. It's a fun hobby that gets you in a close physical proximity of multiple girls with an opportunity to chat. Every once in a while our instructor takes us to a "live combat situation", e.g. a dance club with more people we aren't accustomed to. Let me tell you, girls from my group will fight over a guy that can dance well, and will avoid the ones that have no ear for rhythm. My only regret is that there aren't many places in my city where you can dance. I don't mean the disco/nightclub situation with arms flailing "at will" and pervy grinding, but real dancing. It's so much easier to approach a girl with an intent to dance with her, than try to get her attention in a bar with stupid banter and tall tales. Having said that, it appears that girls still prefer a bad dancer with good banter/negging skills than vice versa.
Author irc333 Posted April 6, 2013 Author Posted April 6, 2013 Meh, there's always an exception to the rule, I found out the real story between the two, she only went out with him because he asked her out like 3 or 4 times before she finally caved and said "Yes". She was dancing for him. Either to get him to dance, or to seduce him. The best example of this i ever saw was this 60yr old woman in amazing shape with great skin, in a very nice dress who was seducing her own husband at a party. She danced for several hs while the rest of the youngsters were on the side and i was envying her and her husband [great communication between the two]. Turns out, it was his b-day and she was doing it on purpose to get him hot and bothered. He could dance too, but not like her. She was doing it for him.
CryForNoOne Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 I was talking to a friend of mine, and he's a very experienced swing dancer. He's one of the very few men I know personally that dances well...and I'm not talking about "Dance club" dancing either, but "Dance Hall" dancing. Basically, any "Dance Hall" with a themed dance like Salsa, East coast (or is it west coast) swing dancing, and so on. Not saying that it's a end all be all in dating, but it DOES help tremendously because women LOVE to dance....and they find it very hard to find men that are into dancing, some have boyfriends that wouldn't touch it with a 10-foot pole either...they see it as somewhat non-masculine. To them it's "sissy stuff" I suppose. lol But, he says even the WOMEN ask the MEN to dance at these Dance Halls, as opposed to the other way around ....because simply put, women love it. Anyone in agreement here...make sense? I would strongly agree with this. Three things that are sort of interrelated that women love: a man who can sing, play an instrument, or dance. I'm very good at the first two, but I can't dance for sh#t and can get pretty awkward in those situations. But when I'm put in a situation where I can showcase my first two talents, women are all over me. I'm actually going to start private swing dancing lessons from a girl I met on OKC. There's no prospect of us dating anymore and she a professional swing dancer so it seemed like a great opportunity. 1
MrCastle Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 There is absolutely no correlation between dance skills and how good someone is at sex. I can't dance to save my life, I'm good at sex. Boom. Be who you are. If you don't want to dance/can't dance, don't sweat it. Not everyone was put here to dance, but everyone gets laid. Don't be one of those guys that thinks dancing will transform you from an unsuccessful guy to a rockstar with women. Be who you wanna be, do what you want to do. For yourself. Not because the opposite sex may find it attractive. Most young people can't dance anyway. Both men and women. Shaking your ass at a club is not dancing ladies. You can't dance, I can't dance. Let's f***. 2
KungFuJoe Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 Well...there's knowing how to formally dance and then there's just being able to get out there and move a bit. I'm part of the latter. I never took any lessons, but I've been clubbing long enough to where I can get on the floor and not look like a total idiot. And I can "fake" stuff like salsa, whatever...especially if I've got a decent amount of alcohol in me. I think as long as you're not a wallflower, stick in the mud, you're fine. 1
tbf Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 One of my most fun and fond memories was dancing with a ballroom dancing instructor at a wedding. He was incredible with the lead since I can't ballroom dance but he made it so easy to follow him. We did a number of different forms of ballroom dancing. To this day, I can't remember which ones or how to do them. I just followed his excellent lead. 1
ses Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 It's a good skill to learn. Anyone here posting about how male dancing is gay, effeminate or "friendzone-inducing" is really just saying "sour grapes". I'm currently well into my second month of formal dance lessons. We learn classical and Latin dances, but more of the latter category. It's a fun hobby that gets you in a close physical proximity of multiple girls with an opportunity to chat. Every once in a while our instructor takes us to a "live combat situation", e.g. a dance club with more people we aren't accustomed to. Let me tell you, girls from my group will fight over a guy that can dance well, and will avoid the ones that have no ear for rhythm. My only regret is that there aren't many places in my city where you can dance. I don't mean the disco/nightclub situation with arms flailing "at will" and pervy grinding, but real dancing. It's so much easier to approach a girl with an intent to dance with her, than try to get her attention in a bar with stupid banter and tall tales. Having said that, it appears that girls still prefer a bad dancer with good banter/negging skills than vice versa. I have it bad for guys who dance. It's a really attractive quality, and something that grabs my interest immediately when it's disclosed. I don't have rhythm and would love to learn. I speak Spanish quite fluently and there's nothing sexier than a man offering to teach me to dance. I remember when one of my Colombian friends told me that he and his friends dance the salsa for fun. Latin American men are masters at two things: flirting and dancing. It's understood that dancing is a quality that brings women to them; it's ingrained within the culture. Dancing can be quite an intimate activity, and anything that draws you closer to someone is a major turn on for me. I appreciate the gesture even when guys can't dance. We can dance horribly together. I admire the fact that he TRIED it. It's the effort that counts. 1
todreaminblue Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 I was talking to a friend of mine, and he's a very experienced swing dancer. He's one of the very few men I know personally that dances well...and I'm not talking about "Dance club" dancing either, but "Dance Hall" dancing. Basically, any "Dance Hall" with a themed dance like Salsa, East coast (or is it west coast) swing dancing, and so on. Not saying that it's a end all be all in dating, but it DOES help tremendously because women LOVE to dance....and they find it very hard to find men that are into dancing, some have boyfriends that wouldn't touch it with a 10-foot pole either...they see it as somewhat non-masculine. To them it's "sissy stuff" I suppose. lol But, he says even the WOMEN ask the MEN to dance at these Dance Halls, as opposed to the other way around ....because simply put, women love it. Anyone in agreement here...make sense? i love to dance.......love movement.........most of my partners have been able to dance in fact i cant remember anyone i have long term dated who cant dance.....i can get up on a dance floor normally and dance by myself i dont dance alone for long....people join in......guys and girls....dance is beautiful and a guy who can move....is always a good thing.......its dreamy....deb
jma500 Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 (edited) Dancing always seemed pointless to me. Basically people who have this need to constantly be the center of attention take to the dance floor and make asses of themselves. It is just so inane. Edited April 6, 2013 by jma500
Imported Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 I know he is a big star, but check out Leonardo DiCaprio having a good time dancing. Ladies man Leo DiCaprio takes four to tango as the actor leads a number of beauties around the dancefloor | Mail Online It was at a wedding, no idea if anything happened for him with those women, but it really doesn't matter. You need to be able to have a good time. Most people, women or men also like having a good time and will gravitate to people that obviously know how to have a good time. Even if Leo was not a big star, his behavior at that wedding is far more likely to result in meeting and getting dates from girls than dudes that just sit at a table or stand around drinking and hating on other people that are having fun. I love it in clubs or dance halls or bars with a dance floor and music. Asking a girl to dance is easy and a lot more flowing than just straight up coming up to her and starting a conversation.
RedRobin Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 Any activity where a man displays a high degree of coordination and ability to carry himself well is VERY sexy to me. I've noticed how men in the military (US) are trained how to walk. Precise, at a lively pace, and with good posture. Proper dance lessons do the same thing. Teaches you how to carry yourself. These two men are amazing... (I love Wendy Whalen too...). I chose Pas De Dieux to demonstrate. um... does this look unmasculine? 2
jma500 Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 I know he is a big star, but check out Leonardo DiCaprio having a good time dancing. Ladies man Leo DiCaprio takes four to tango as the actor leads a number of beauties around the dancefloor | Mail Online It was at a wedding, no idea if anything happened for him with those women, but it really doesn't matter. You need to be able to have a good time. Most people, women or men also like having a good time and will gravitate to people that obviously know how to have a good time. Even if Leo was not a big star, his behavior at that wedding is far more likely to result in meeting and getting dates from girls than dudes that just sit at a table or stand around drinking and hating on other people that are having fun. I love it in clubs or dance halls or bars with a dance floor and music. Asking a girl to dance is easy and a lot more flowing than just straight up coming up to her and starting a conversation. Just because someone isn't doing something you consider fun does not mean they are hating on others. These women would have been all over leo even if he was sitting at a table doing nothing. The curse of the male movie star.
todreaminblue Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 Dancing always seemed pointless to me. Basically people who have this need to constantly be the center of attention take to the dance floor and make asses of themselves. It is just so inane. i dont like being the center of attention but when i hear music.....that i adore, i cant help but dance......its a celebration to me it makes me happy i dance when no one is around too....and happiness for me to feel, is never pointless its necessity...deb
dasein Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 I'm not a great dancer, know no "steps" and have found it to be a gigantic social advantage. When walking into a place where women are on the dance floor, I just start asking women to dance. It brands you instantly as socially valuable, not uptight, not weird. Secret for guys. No one is looking at you on the dance floor as far as your technique goes or much of anything else. All the straight men are looking at women, all the women are looking at women and judging you based on acceptance you are getting from women, and the gay men are looking for men not with women. You are basically invisible, so no need to feel self-conscious about it at all. Just get out there and shuffle around a bit, or do a silly dance in certain circumstances. Wish someone had told me that at 20, had to learn it from much observation over years. 3
Feelin Frisky Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 I love to dance. But it has to be with someone who is into it and into me to some degree. It's so cool to make eye contact and telegraph sexy messages with your face and body. Some dance clubs where people don't tough much results sometimes in dancing with a partner lost in her own world with eyes closed--maybe she thinks she doing you a favor, I don't know. No-no(s) include never continue to hold your drink or cigarette while dancing. That is unflattering to me even if the girl seems enthusiastic. Smoking is less of an issue theses day but it was permitted in NY dance clubs I frequented in the 80's and a chick not wanting to waste a cigarette she's not finished with to dance with you is pretty crass. Take it out of her hand and step on it. Then give her that Gerald Butler look and show her what for on the floor. 1
miss_jaclynrae Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 It's a pretty cool trait but not a deal breaker. I would never date a guy solely based on it nor not date him if he couldn't or wasn't into it. Luckily, my boyfriend now is a great dancer, and I have asked him if he would ever take ballroom dancing with me and he is so down! It's nice to know he would, and it is even more cute than he slow dances with me in the kitchen. It's a rare thing to find a man who knows how to dance other than freak dancing.
RedRobin Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 .... ok, yes I showed pics of highly trained dancers above... and some specific styles of dance at that... One doesn't have to be that accomplished, and yea, no one gives a damn what you look like out there. And even for women... no one really cares what you look like dancing either. Anyway, that reminds me... I haven't been to any dance clubs in forever. I'm going to go look one up Now... please excuse me while I go back to my prior post and check out those gorgeous examples of manhood One last thing... for the guys obsessed about their height, most male dancers are not tall. They wouldn't partner well with most women if they were. So, for the shorter guys... use that to your advantage!! The woman in the picture below is Tiler Peck... She's about 5-5"... I wasn't able to find any height stats for the guys (That's Tyler Angle in the pic... same as my first video above). Not surprisingly, they are measured against their female partners. It is a lot easier to find the heights of the female dancers for some reason... 1
jma500 Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 i dont like being the center of attention but when i hear music.....that i adore, i cant help but dance......its a celebration to me it makes me happy i dance when no one is around too....and happiness for me to feel, is never pointless its necessity...deb I understand what you are saying about music. I generally only listen while in my car and just love singing along. Happiness for me is being behind my camera trying to be artistically creative. I have no need to be the center of attention. Those that do have a glaring insecurity to deal with. These people are the majority on the dance floor. You seem to be in the minority.
Imported Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 Just because someone isn't doing something you consider fun does not mean they are hating on others. Dancing always seemed pointless to me. Basically people who have this need to constantly be the center of attention take to the dance floor and make asses of themselves. It is just so inane. I think they're just having fun. They are probably completely unaware or just don't care that someone is sitting around somewhere thinking they are making an ass of themselves. These women would have been all over leo even if he was sitting at a table doing nothing. The curse of the male movie star. I am no movie star, but when I use to just go somewhere and act like a closed off person, getting women was a very uncommon thing. Now I go out, sing at karaoke bars, dance when there is a place to dance, smile, laugh and don't expect anything from women but to enjoy themselves and multiple women everywhere I go are just open to me. I got choices to make, women to choose and it is difficult because they would all be good choices. Leo is a good looking guy, movie star or not. However if he were not a movie star and at that party and behaved in a closed off manner, his choices in women would be extremely few. Once again, if he were not famous, but looked the way he looks and behaved as he did in those pics of that party, there will be a lot of girls...not even the ones he danced with....that will have interest in him and he is going to have a lot of choices.
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