irc333 Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 I was talking to a friend of mine, and he's a very experienced swing dancer. He's one of the very few men I know personally that dances well...and I'm not talking about "Dance club" dancing either, but "Dance Hall" dancing. Basically, any "Dance Hall" with a themed dance like Salsa, East coast (or is it west coast) swing dancing, and so on. Not saying that it's a end all be all in dating, but it DOES help tremendously because women LOVE to dance....and they find it very hard to find men that are into dancing, some have boyfriends that wouldn't touch it with a 10-foot pole either...they see it as somewhat non-masculine. To them it's "sissy stuff" I suppose. lol But, he says even the WOMEN ask the MEN to dance at these Dance Halls, as opposed to the other way around ....because simply put, women love it. Anyone in agreement here...make sense? 2
Radu Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 Dancing is foreplay irc. I personally hate dancing, and hate modern dancing [clubs] with an even greater burning manly passion. But soon as i chuck this damn weight down, and before the end of this yr [i hope] i want to enroll into some form of dance class. 1
impendia Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 I love swing dancing. Best fun I ever had. Both women and men ask each other to dance. It is not a "meat market", even a slow and sultry dance doesn't mean your partner wants anything more, but I have certainly met happy couples who met dancing. Gender ratio tends to be close to 50/50. It's fantastic fun. Anyone tempted should definitely try it.
january2011 Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 I think that dancing is only a commodity if you are in the market for someone who dances. If you are not in your teens or 20s nor do you regularly partake in many activities that require dancing, it's not really a highly prized skill, in my opinion. 5
Imported Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 I dance. Taken lessons for some things and can improvise well enough for whatever and am willing to try. It is a skill and didn't require much time or effort to attain, at least for my level of involvement. It is worth knowing, there are women from all over that enjoy dancing. I do get in a lot of situations, clubs, parties where people dance and I am not in my teens or 20's. I don't just sit at a table drinking alcohol. Dancing is well worth learning to do. You don't have to be really great at it, most women seem really happy I am even willing to get up there, probably because of all the sour-puss guys that refuse to even try. It does help me with women and I even have fun doing it anyway. 7
ThaWholigan Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 Its true. Sadly I can't dance . But the guys who could dance always did very well with women . 2
crude Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 Dance hall places where women ask men to dance could be renamed Friendzones. The men are looked upon as eunuchs. You dance with the eunuch and then bang your boyfriend. Men need to use dancing to get laid, not to be looked upon as less than a man. 1
Radu Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 Dance hall places where women ask men to dance could be renamed Friendzones. The men are looked upon as eunuchs. You dance with the eunuch and then bang your boyfriend. Men need to use dancing to get laid, not to be looked upon as less than a man. Such a cruel opinion. Most of the guys who do badly with women can't dance for crap. How is time spent with a -possibly beautifull- woman in close proximity not worthwhile investment for their future ? So you won't sleep with her. Big deal. Plenty more fish in the sea, and the next one will appreciate that you don't get tong-tied when speaking with her and that you can dance. 2
crude Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 Such a cruel opinion. I was speaking specifically about a certain type of dance place mentioned before in this thread. Old style dancing where the women are all married or dating seriously, and they only go there to dance with a certain type of man that they don't take seriously as a man. Nothing wrong with knowing how to dance, it's an asset in general. The more knowledge the better, but those types of dance halls creep me out.
PinkSapphire Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 So I actually do dance swing and salsa (mostly swing - East Coast or Lindy Hop), and it IS great for men. Not only do you get an entire song with just that person to chat and dance with, but you go regularly and get to know people. It helps you actually meet people and develop rapport with them. All of the guys I have dated who I met IRL I met through dancing, including my last boyfriend. In fact, for the women who dance, we actually question whether we could date seriously someone who didn't. Such a huge part of our lives and passion we could not share with them. The men who love it also are in this conundrum, and the discussion resurfaces every couple of years lol Even if you don't meet your next wife there, it will definitely help with meeting people, mostly of the opposite gender, and develop social skills. Plus, start traveling adn your social circle widens even more. I can't see how that could be a bad thing. crude, eunuch? Really?? I have never looked at the guys like that, except the old gray ones who obviously don't have a chance with all the college-age and 20-somethings anyway. I am looking for my next bf there. 1
Ninjainpajamas Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 You're just barely figuring this out now? Being able to dance or at least comfortable enough in your own skin to dance is a huge edge when you're out anywhere where there is dancing. It might not be a useful everyday skill but its just another part of body language and showing you know how to move your body, what is not sexy about that? And some people you have more chemistry than w others, just like in the bedroom....although I don't personally believe it crosses over but its definitely not a bad thing if you can connect w someone on the dance floor. It'll also attract attention, and anything that seperates you from the other men is a good thing. Most guys don't like to dance...they go out dancing for women, but I think you should at least be able to have fun, even if you can't dance....you won't be any good at something you never do or try. At least have a good vibe about you instead of a stiff one, just because you're too scared to dance and want to pretend its because you're too much of a man to....please, extremely doubtful. 2
rocketman122 Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 the same thing that applies to men applies to women. when I see a woman shakin it on the dance floor I just want to get up and join her. It turns me on to see her move. see those curves sway..ach, I want to bite her azz! And its the same for women. women love a guy who can shake his azz. it shows confidence and even if youre not the greatest but youre ok, the women take notice. dancing is a form of expression. you build up sexual tension with her. I flirt with her, touch her on her hips and back, touch her hands, it gets her ready to go. but you do need good music. sadly men dont dance because they think its not manly. Believe me when I did weddings I danced with tons of girls and they loved it. theyre thinking that if you shake your azz well on the dance floor youre good in bed. and thats true for me. birds in the wild do the courtship display with dancing to attract the female. 3
carhill Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 A man who demonstrates accomplished dancing skills, a very social activity/skillset, enhances his social status. Having him as a partner creates more visibility socially, if dancing or attending events where dancing as part of the milieu is a part of the couple's social life. As a disclaimer, I've got two left feet, bad shoes, and mom, a very accomplished dancer, gave up on teaching me to dance at about age 12. Funky chicken I do well. 1
iris219 Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 I don't care if a man can dance. I prefer to dance with my girlfriends anyway. 3
El Brujo Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 To them it's "sissy stuff" I suppose. lol It's not sissy stuff, it's a fetish. F-E-T-I-S-H.
somedude81 Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 I've been dancing for years. Women don't give a damn. Often I meet girls in my dance class who have boyfriends that don't dance at all.
Eternal Sunshine Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 It really depends how he dances. Good dancers also give me a gay vibe. My ex was a great dancer but awful in bed, so 2 aren't correlated
carhill Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 I've been dancing for years. Women don't give a damn. Often I meet girls in my dance class who have boyfriends that don't dance at all. Being an accomplished dance partner enhances attractiveness. All of the other perceptions of attractiveness are still in play. It's entirely possible to be good-looking and a great dancer and still be perceived as 'creepy' by any particular woman. There are no methods which predict consistent and quantifiable outcomes IMO. Given your usual responses regarding aspects of female attraction, it should be noted that numerous famous male dancers, also well-married and popular with the ladies, were short of stature. As an example, Gene Kelly was 5'7". 1
somedude81 Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 Being an accomplished dance partner enhances attractiveness. All of the other perceptions of attractiveness are still in play. It's entirely possible to be good-looking and a great dancer and still be perceived as 'creepy' by any particular woman. There are no methods which predict consistent and quantifiable outcomes IMO. Given your usual responses regarding aspects of female attraction, it should be noted that numerous famous male dancers, also well-married and popular with the ladies, were short of stature. As an example, Gene Kelly was 5'7". What I'm saying is that if a guy dances or not doesn't seem to factor into a his attractiveness at all. If a woman already is attracted to a guy, then she might add "and he's a great dancer" and that would impress her friends. Dancing by itself is irrelevant
january2011 Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 What I'm saying is that if a guy dances or not doesn't seem to factor into a his attractiveness at all. If a woman already is attracted to a guy, then she might add "and he's a great dancer" and that would impress her friends. Dancing by itself is irrelevant Agree. It's usually an afterthought/bonus in my opinion. My SO danced in his youth but now he "dad dances." He doesn't care, he's having fun and not doing it to show off or "get girls" as he did in his youth. 2
KathyM Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 Women who like to dance are attracted to men who can dance, assuming he doesn't have characteristics that are a turn off for women. Most men are not that good at dancing, but for those who are, it does attract female attention. It always impressed me that my husband was a good dancer when we were dating, and since we both liked to dance, we'd go dancing together on a weekly basis. My sister loves to dance and is very attracted to men who can dance well, and now that she's married, whenever her and her husband go out dancing, which is often, women come up to her husband and try to flirt with him and express their interest in him because he is such a good dancer. He, of course, would not express interest back and is very loyal to my sister, but it goes to show that women are very attracted to a man who can dance well. 1
RachR Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 I can't dance. I'd prefer a man who isn't that into dancing who won't try to force me to dance with him. So it's not a factor to me. Slow dances are ok though. 3
Sanman Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 Personally, dancing has been a useful tool for me. I have never taken lessons, but have good rhythm and am pretty good dancing to hop hop, salsa, reggaeton, etc. the thing is you need to find girls who dance and have fun with them? I come from a culture that loves to dance and I think that makes a difference as well. I often used to challenge a girl that claimed to have skills on the dance floor to a bit of competition and we always had fun. Sometimes it meant little and sometimes it scored me a date. The thing is that you have to pay attention for the right girl. I'm any group of mixed company near a dance floor, there will be one girl that is shaking it to the song a bit and really wants to dance when others do not. That is your chance to go have some fun. Girls that really not into dancing won't care as much. Ironically, my SO is not much of a dancer and it is acknowledged that I have much better skills. 1
Author irc333 Posted April 6, 2013 Author Posted April 6, 2013 (edited) I can stand there while she "backs dat ass up" Does that count? You remind me of this exact situation I was at this party that hired a private band....it was rockin' roll music...in this case no "formal dancing" like I posted about, just dancing as if you would in a night club. There is this one woman, pretty wild for a 40-something, but in pretty damned good shape, nice body, great smile...very fun person. She brought her boyfriend with her....but, she was the only one getting her groove on on the dance floor with her friends, while the dork just stood there on the sidelines sippin' a beer, NEVER danced the entire night. She would go back to him to take a break, and would kind of shake it in front of him, rubbin' her booty up against him on the side of the dance floor, while the idiot just stood there like a lump....sippin his beer. LOL I was really wondering if he was even getting aroused by this mock lap dance? I was thinking "What does she see in that guy??" Such a cruel opinion. Most of the guys who do badly with women can't dance for crap. How is time spent with a -possibly beautifull- woman in close proximity not worthwhile investment for their future ? So you won't sleep with her. Big deal. Plenty more fish in the sea, and the next one will appreciate that you don't get tong-tied when speaking with her and that you can dance. Edited April 6, 2013 by irc333
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