MadKurlz Posted September 14, 2004 Posted September 14, 2004 I have been dating this guy for about 3 months now. Last night he came over to my apartment with 1/2 dozen of roses, my face lit up and I sd to him, wow, whats this, he says casually, oh I brought these for my mom but i left them in my car and forgot all about them, so I brought them over hear, but they are probably dead now. I was like oh, so I get the leftover crap! I was so upset by this. Am I being a drama queen? I mean I can at least apprciate that he was dumb & honest and didnt lie.
EC Posted September 14, 2004 Posted September 14, 2004 Hey its true he could have easily said hey yeah I bought them for you baby. At least he didnt lie and hey he bought flowers for his mom! (I hope) Thats a good thing. You were a little bummed because they weren't for you no biggie. No need to go all drama queen on him. Does he do little things like that for you usually or never?
Author MadKurlz Posted September 14, 2004 Author Posted September 14, 2004 he never does things like that for me. He is very nonaffectionate and very very laid back. When we first started dating of course, he would tell me i look nice and give me kisses. Now, if I try to cuddle with him or give him kisses and hug him, he is like, "oh, you are sooo clingy" wassup with that? I knew how he was though before getting into the relationship. So I knew what I was getting into.
EC Posted September 14, 2004 Posted September 14, 2004 That sux! Well yeah if you knew about it when you got into it if you say anything about it now he's going to think your bitching or needy. But I would still let him know that you need a little affection as a little reassurance that everything is ok. Like my bf will not say it so much but his actions show me he cares. Your bf might not be as affectionate but does he show you other ways?
Author MadKurlz Posted September 14, 2004 Author Posted September 14, 2004 well, i can say that he does show me in other ways. like he is always interested in what im doing, and he always wants to be with me, he loves it when i hang out at his house cause i get along very well with his mom. though lately, when we sleep together, the cuddling has stopped. not as much of it like it used to be. I am recently divorced and I noticed that my marriage went downhill as soon as my exhusband stoped cuddling woth me. I could be a bit paranoid too.
ps123 Posted September 16, 2004 Posted September 16, 2004 As a man, I can say that was sort of an odd thing to do with the roses. Yes he was honest with you, but still...sometimes a white lie doesnt hurt, especially if it would make you feel special. As far as the affection and cuddling, you need to ask yourself how important this is to you in a relationship, and more importantly, what you need from your partner in a relationship. He doesnt sound like the physically affectionate type so if this is an issue, you might want to rethink things. I know its not as easy as I make it sound, and I dont mean to seem insensitive, but Ive been through similar situations in the past. Personally, I love it when the woman Im dating gives me hugs for no reason. Good luck.
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