Glencoco Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 After reading people's thoughts on here I think it's time to share my story... So it's starts with me being with my first love... 18 year old 3 years into the relationship and I stumble across someone new, she turns my head because my girlfriends head has been turned by somebody else (let's not fret here because every guy knows when something's not right with their girlfriend, and to be fair my intuition is never wrong) So I move onto somebody new... I miss my ex for the first couple of months, it's hard aswell because my new gf let's me go on the holiday iv already booked with my ex and another couple (wierd I know) 2 years down the line and I'm still immature... Iv got an unbelievable job, my gf is at uni and works every second she can so she can come home and see me while I'm wasting thousands of pounds on nothing, basically I was playing the old treat them mean keep them keen game. Next minute her ex has gotten one of her mates pregnant... Bear in mind prior to this despite my obvious immaturity she worshipped everything I did. Now it's Easter bank holiday, she goes out and her ex is out (so I'm informed) from this point forward she totally changed her attitude toward me. From this point out relationship gradually spirals out of control to breaking point. We have crisis talks and it turns out that it's to stylist my fault that the relationship broke down because of my immature attitude (spending my money on cars, being stubborn etc) From this I'm left totally shattered... What I knew has totally been wiped out and my life has changed forever, probably the feeling that most people on this forum go through. I decided to ignore my gut instinct (which was that there was something going on with her ex which was brought on by him getting her mate pregnant) and I proceeded to blame myself totally for the relationship breakdown and try and repair things. Unlike other stories after approximately 6 months exhausting chasing, apologising, proving that I had changed I caught her out. Even though we were split up I decided on gut feeling to drive past her ex's house. For some reason, no idea why I knew there was something up, and guess what! Her car was there! I text her to ask where she was and she lied saying she was away on her own blah blah blah. I fed her questions which she lied about the answers time and time again until I had the evidence I needed...
Author Glencoco Posted April 6, 2013 Author Posted April 6, 2013 Obviously when I confronted her she denied it until I provided so much evidence she coudnt deny it any longer. I left her house with her begging me to stay. Enough was enough I thought, (sure I was a dick and everything I did was totally out of order when we were together but I had spent the last six months chasing her and trying to prove I has changed!) Anyway over the next couple of days we sorted things out and were back together. Success story in a way! (Or if you've done something wrong in my opinion if it matters you should put it right) Now we stayed together for a further 15 months, better and stronger than ever... Until my hit feeling came back... I felt as if there was something going on... She always had her phone on silent, rested it upside down, took it in the shower etc. I even noticed that her so called mate suddenly had two names... Such and such x Such and such xx Strange huh? So I confronted her about the two names... She replied; she's got two mobiles because the signal at her house is crap (reasonable excuse I suppose)
Author Glencoco Posted April 6, 2013 Author Posted April 6, 2013 My mind continues to work overtime wondering what's going on.... Next thing I get the new iPhone; I donate the old one to her and I restore her old iPhone onto the new one... What happens... Her phone hasn't been backed up for a whole so her old message go onto the phone.... Who reads them? Me. Who are they from? HER EX And of a "sex text" nature I confront her she comes (sort of clean) and says she slept with her ex when we split up and that she was drunk when she sent those texts (cheering in my eyes) Over the next months the whole thing consumes me and we end up falling out. We haven't spoken in three weeks now...
TearyEyedPride Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 The whole story is just a big mess... I'm sorry things ended so tragically and it seems like there were multiple breakdowns of communication between you two. Why couldn't you guys just be honest with one another? Anywho... I wish you all the best moving forward. Hopefully you both grow personally and harbor no resentment or baggage moving on in your lives.
Author Glencoco Posted April 7, 2013 Author Posted April 7, 2013 That's exactly what it was, a break down of communication. When we met up because she wanted to split it came out that she didn't know what she wanted to do, wether it would work if we carried on or not etc. We spent a few hours talking and in the end i had to just walk away, i couldn't go through with the whole chasing after her, trying to change her mind scenario again. If i really mean anything to her she will try to get back in touch i suppose but im maintaining NC for my own sake. For some reason the break up hasn't been as hard this time, im only 3 weeks in aswell but im about as happy as i was actually in the relationship. Last time we split i was inconsolable, probably because it was all my fault (or so i thought) Do you think iv maybe new this was coming all along and already prepared for it, hence why i don't feel much pain?
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