Scale Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 Your lucky you found another guy recently and feel he is the one for you. I wonder how you so sure of that in 3 months. Yeah may be he thinks like you and believes in fairytales and magic too and you feel calm and relaxed with him. But we had a strong connection between us. I'm finding it hard to move on as she was THE ONE for me. I miss her terribly. I cannot do anything, she does not want look back on the decision she has taken.
Sexy Teddy Bear Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 Your lucky you found another guy recently and feel he is the one for you. I wonder how you so sure of that in 3 months. Yeah may be he thinks like you and believes in fairytales and magic too and you feel calm and relaxed with him. But we had a strong connection between us. I'm finding it hard to move on as she was THE ONE for me. I miss her terribly. I cannot do anything, she does not want look back on the decision she has taken. Let me make this perfectly clear for you. There is no such thing as "the one". Just because you are compatible with someone else and you two seem to be perfect together, doesn't mean you were made for each other. There are plenty of other people that will be equally - if not more - compatible with your personality. Also, she really does believe in fairy tales and magic? I'm not teasing or anything, just curious. I actually knew someone that honest-to-god believed in that stuff.
Author Scale Posted April 5, 2013 Author Posted April 5, 2013 I mean she does believe in magical love and like what happens in romantic stories.
Sexy Teddy Bear Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 I mean she does believe in magical love and like what happens in romantic stories. Ohhh. I thought you meant like mystical creatures and stuff, lol. How long were you two dating for?
Author Scale Posted April 6, 2013 Author Posted April 6, 2013 2 years....but most time it was ldr. so things got rough as I was struggling with my career issues in another country. But we shared a lot of time chatting always until I started my program but I always felt strongly for her.
Sexy Teddy Bear Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 I was with my ex for almost 2 years. About half of it was long distance. Here it is, 2 months after she broke up with me. If you were to look back and see me on the day she dumped me and then look at me now, you would think I was a different person. A was a mess back then. But now I'm doing much better. 1
guysmily25 Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 I disagree with Sexy Teddy Bear about one thing; you can find the one. I will tell you my tale, and then ask you a realistic question for yourself. I thought up until two weeks ago that my ex was the one, but I looked over the facts of the breakup again and changed my mind. I got too drunk one night and said something mean to her while I was passed out; I never said anything mean to her in the year we were together. I would never have said anything mean to her in my right mind, and I started therapy to prove to her I was serious. She dumped me, and despite all my attempts for two months, she hasn't changed her mind. Would my "one true love," my soulmate, abandon me for something like that? It was easy at first to take all the blame on myself, given my heartbroken state. The fact is though, that if she loved me the way I loved her, with all my heart and soul, she would have stuck with me and helped me through my therapy. I made a mistake, and she didn't want to forgive me. Would the perfect girl for me do that? No. And the perfect girl for you would not treat you the way you have been treated. You'll find the one friend, you just have to start looking again.
Author Scale Posted April 6, 2013 Author Posted April 6, 2013 guysmily for me she has been the one. Yes time heals things but you guys have to know that True Love is to let go of the person. If she does not accept us back, there is a strong reason for sure. If we are destined to be with that girl, she will be back with us again sooner or later. So all you can do is leave it to nature and guysmily, the more you run behind a girl the more she will run away from you. This rule applies always and also for money. So chill and things will fall in place with that girl if they have too or else move on with her being your heart in a good way.
Author Scale Posted April 6, 2013 Author Posted April 6, 2013 Also think channel your aggression and bitterness to something positive and useful, like THE movie SOCIAL NETWORK. Run after your dreams what you had always planned. Be friends with her, if she does not want to run with you let her go.
guysmily25 Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 I think you mistook me trying to offer you some solace as me being bitter or aggressive about my ex. Far from being bitter towards her, I still love her. I look back on every moment we spent together with fondness, but that doesn't change the fact that we are no longer together. My point is that if your girlfriend left you for someone else, she may not be the one for you. Be happy brother. They might come back to us one day, but that day is no day soon. 1
Compromize Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 Be happy brother. They might come back to us one day, but that day is no day soon. And on that day we can say WTF? Get off my porch! Scale, I am at 2 months of seeing her last and broke up in early December with a short few week reconciling in January so maybe 3-1/2 months of "break-up" and that time will clear your head. It was all medium to long distance and never lived together over the course of 3+ years so really with the actual time we spent together, maybe only 5 - 6 months in "real relationship time". Why would you (and the rest of us for that matter) want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you? I don't hate my ex by any means, I still care for her very much and want her to be happy (well mostly...) but she told me she would be there forever. Everyone in love says that I think. I don't believe in "The One" anymore, because that's what I thought she was to me and I to her. Relationships take work and compromise and honesty and trust. The best we can hope for is finding someone that possesses those traits and work our a$$es off to make it. That's what "The One" means to me now.
Author Scale Posted April 7, 2013 Author Posted April 7, 2013 Compromize, I understand what you say but my break up happened in October and its been 5 months now. We are still there to support and help each other and as good friends. But the fact that she found someone new and I was trying to convince her to get back and well she did not, so I'm hurt. Well I still believe in the one as I had many flings before but this was my only relationship, even though we spent less time but I was dead sure of this one and only then engaged into a relationship with her. After the break up she evolved into an even better person and makes me fall for her even more. She spent several times trying to explain me out of it and that it will not happen, she spent 4-5 hours one night over the phone. She is really pretty at heart and nature too, so I find it very hard to miss her and live in her thoughts. Have you guys happened to see the series Californication ever ?
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