Why do they always think there's something going on between this guy and I?

[green apples]

Our coworkers seem to think there's something going on between us. There's nothing going on between us except that we are together quite a lot. We talk mostly about work among other topics.

 

But could there be something people see that I don't see?

 

Such as how we "should" be dating because we click or match? Not quite different to how matchmaker friends think you definitely have to go on a blind date with one of their friends?

[green apples]

Anyone has views on this?

[ses]

A lot of people just like to play matchmaker in their heads. I've had people tell me that "so-and-so" and I would look so cute together, or ask if someone else and I were dating because we hung out often. There has never been chemistry between us but that doesn't quell the chatter. If you want something to happen, then do it, but don't psychoanalyze your friendship for a deeper significance if none is to be found. Just enjoy it.

 

You shouldn't feel obligated to date someone. It's your own choice, and everyone has their own preferences.

Edited April 5, 2013 by ses

[green apples]

They are not really playing matchmaking because they actually say things matter of factly. Such as are you guys going on a trip together? Or are you going out?

[ses]

I understand. In that case you simply tell them that you all are coworkers, and nothing more. People assume a lot if two people are constantly around each other. If nothing more than a friendly coworker dynamic exists then you should tell them and be firm. If they assume something more then they're reading too much into it. You can't control what people think, but you can control your reaction. Sometimes colleagues/friends of the opposite sex can work. Like I stated previously, just enjoy it and don't analyze the situation.

[fortyninethousand322]

I feel like there's a song about something like this...

 

Ah yes. Bonnie Raitt, "Something to Talk About".