ltjg45 Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 If I were to apply logic to this..... .....why would I be mean, for no apparent reason, to someone that I love? Call me crazy if you like but that doesn't make a lick of sense. Any female that is in that situation needs to bolt because, apparently, the male in question doesn't know how to properly communicate it. Also, if this is the way he acts when he loves you, I'm terrified to think how he will act once he gets angry at you. And anyone who is realistic knows that it WILL happen. Just run away and don't look back.
Radu Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 The guy I mentioned in my post has no social anxiety. He f**ks girls in the lavatory of our local pub every now and then. I think the experiences some of us referred to relate to callous guys, not insecure ones. In that case, i completely agree, he is most likely a jerk and is trying that negging BS. I read some of the examples as referring to those that have social issues ... are not social butterflies.
todreaminblue Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 (edited) And all part of the game. Men wouldn't do it if women didn't respond positively to it. not all women respond positively to it,some might and i dotn think its positive.... doesnt change the fact its immature and manipulative......you know what....i think i am one of those women who respond "positively" to negging..meaning i react automatically not necessarily to go out with them or date them though..........i have been negged that much i get confused and disorientated...or men have just really been ****ty to me...negging and being ****ty are about the same thing....different result...its manipulation.....it confuses me and i wonder what i did wrong....and then I try my hardest to fix what doesnt need fixing ..........its wrong.that men have often want to cut me down....to make me pliant.just because they dont know what else to do..men can do it sure...should they....its a no....even if it means they get the girl...they do it falsely...........i think most women would feel this way...you say respond postively...theres nothing positive in negging someone to get your own way leaving a woman to feel hurt and confused.....nothing positive......deb Edited April 6, 2013 by todreaminblue
todreaminblue Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 but men who can get away with it do it because it gets positive responses. a man does it and gets the positive responses and then he gets what he wants, dating, sex, marriage. i couldn't do it, but look at me. i'm single and hopeless. you might be single but at least you have standards that to me actually says you hav emore hope than a guy who has to manipulate a woman.......how could a marriage, relationship , ever last based on negging......its not attractive......to think of its a bit creepy actually....predatorish...i didnt actually even know what negging was till i read it on here...it made me feel retarded.....when i realized its been done to me quite a few times......and i didnt even know.....honest compassionate gentleman wouldnt do it....to keep my sanity i believe that....i see what you are saying however.....doesnt make me like the thought though.....deb
miss_jaclynrae Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 Was he being mean, or teasing you? If you think he is just being mean, I would just say he's an ass, teasing is great, but most people can pick up right away if it's teasing. Teasing is fun and cute, being mean is not. 1
MrNate 2.0 Posted April 11, 2013 Posted April 11, 2013 That when a guy is unreasonably mean to you, it could be because he likes you? I mean I can see that happening for guys in their childhood or teens. But does it still happen in one's 20s and 30s? Because I do get that sometimes and I find it kind of bizarre that they act that way. One of them I saw today. He kept making fun of me in a rather mean way while at the same time checking me out up and down. To be fair, he is not a very nice guy in general but I feel like with me he takes it to another level. Thoughts? I don't know about that one. Personally, I pretty much tease every woman I like. The more I do, the more I tease. But never like straight up mean..that's a bit much for me. Also, clear your inbox girl. I'm gonna send you something.
Estate Posted April 11, 2013 Posted April 11, 2013 That when a guy is unreasonably mean to you, it could be because he likes you? I mean I can see that happening for guys in their childhood or teens. But does it still happen in one's 20s and 30s? Because I do get that sometimes and I find it kind of bizarre that they act that way. One of them I saw today. He kept making fun of me in a rather mean way while at the same time checking me out up and down. To be fair, he is not a very nice guy in general but I feel like with me he takes it to another level. Thoughts? If he has the intellect of a 12 year old then yeah, he probably likes you. Jeez, date up, not down.
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