coming up on 1 yr that my gf lost her brother...was thinking of sending her something

[pav186]

hey everyone~

 

i'm in a LDR with my gf who lost her brother to suicide last Sept 19th. Now that its coming around I wanted to do something nice for her like send her roses or something to make her day even a little bit better because i know its in her mind a lot again lately. The thing is that I dont have $60 to spend on a dozen roses...im pretty broke right now as i'm just starting to save money and our 1 yr anniversary is just over a month away. Does someone have any creative idea or thoughts on something I could do for her...i really love her and would like to something that would bring a smile to her face

 

 

pav

[snilljente]

A card with something special that you have written would mean alot and wouldn't cost much....

[pav186]

yeah thats a good idea...

 

i might have this weekend off from work so i'm thinking about driving up and surprising her and maybe deliver the card in person...

[EC]

Pav OMG that would be the best thing if you drove up and suprised her!!!! ahh I wish my bf did that lol.

 

Bring the flowers and card with you though lol

[SoleMate]

Definitely a card, or better yet, a letter handwritten on your best stationery.

 

"Sweetheart, I'm definitely thinking of you even more than usual these days because I know what is on your mind. Whatever you're feeling or going through, I want you to know that I am thinking of you and would do anything to lighten your load even a little...." Etc. That kind of thing. Whatever makes sense given her exact situation.

 

As far as flowers go...a dozen roses is extravagant, and also rather impersonal. A darling little potted plant, especially a flowering one (maybe a miniature rose), would touch her even more and cost you a lot less $$$.

[manofmystrey]

Pav

 

 

Trust me on this u dont want to send her roses on that day. My ex brother commited suicide as well. We broke up cause of that whole spereate issue. But at this time she is very hurt and confused and saddened by the loss. Sending her roses might give her the worng impression in the sense roses signafy love and u are doing it with the best intentions.

 

At this time the best thing u can give her is urself in the sense be with her. She will value that more. Just u being around and driving there for the weekend will show u care more then roses could ever show her. This is a very sensitive time for a sister who has lost her brother.

 

Let her know u are there for her if she wants to talk but dont press her on it cause that will make her back off. Also another reason u dont want to do roses is cause u want to make identify roses with good things in life not sad times.

 

A simple hug kiss smile and a card will be better then anything else at this time.