AsGoodAsItGets01 Posted September 14, 2004 Posted September 14, 2004 I have cut contact with my ex for 2 weeks now. It is the best thing to do in my position....if you have read my story in an earlier post.... I have a birthday in about a week and I have a feeling my ex will send me a card or call me. I am wondering what I should and if I should thank her...because I really don't want to break my proud streak of not talking to her. By the way I do want her back, but I'm starting to move on... Any advice would be great!!!
jamwinswim Posted September 14, 2004 Posted September 14, 2004 Pride is a tough thing to swallow. If she calls, I recommend being a nice guy - thank her, check up on her, dont talk about the break up, and just be real positive. If you can get thru 5 mins like that, that will leave a much more positive image in her mind than if you ignore her. No need to be spiteful - im proud for making NC for 2 weeks, but dont need to ignore her when she comes for you. Just let NC be by you. If she calls.... she calls. Just take it as it comes.
bikerider Posted September 14, 2004 Posted September 14, 2004 That's what I'm dealing with also "as good as it gets" I'm in the NC stage now for about a week. Our last email was positive but she didn't give any clue that she is thinking about anything but moving on. The twist here is that HER birthday is next month. I'm going to send her a card regardless if she contacts me or not. It will let her know that 'm doing fine and that I still have a place for her in my heart without having to say so. Naturally I'm hoping that her new "boy" will not be able to fill the void that I once held. You know how hope always keeps us hoping. I heard a great and obvious one liner the other day..."Time moves on to what will be." Good luck to all of us that are here.
Author AsGoodAsItGets01 Posted September 14, 2004 Author Posted September 14, 2004 yeah thanks for the advice...my name on here before was knightinshiningarmor but yeah its rought but i am haning in there. my ex too has a new boyfriend....it hurts when i see her away message and it says she staying at his house for the night...with a smiley face but things will get better for us!
DESI Posted September 14, 2004 Posted September 14, 2004 My ex had a birthday 2 months after we broke up, and believe me I wanted so much to call him. But I didn't call. My break up was really bad, he basically left me hanging, and didn't go on this trip we planned on going to together. He already had his plane ticket. I don't know if calling on their birthday is such a good idea. I mean I know you still care about this person, and you want them in your life, but obviously the feeling isn't mutual. I seriously doubt if I had a birthday before him that he would have called me. I guess it depends on how you two broke up. But I didn't call him, and maybe he thinks that I have some self respect for myself, and that I moved on.
jamwinswim Posted September 14, 2004 Posted September 14, 2004 I could see how it would be really tough to call the other person if they broke up with you. But if its your birthday.... well.... I guess just see what happens. Youre probably gonna be just as upset if she doesnt call, so just expect nothing. That way, if she does call and you are positive, than you got better than you expected. Dont worry buddy, just chin up, and have an awesome birthday. Get some strippers or something.... jk.
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