shadow15 Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 Topic, im just looking for everyone's opinion on this topic.
Krieger Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 THE NICE GUY WHO FINISHES LAST (Having Come from a Position of Weakness) 1) ...Capitulate to Women’s Whims. "Yes Dear." "Whatever you want, honey." Men only say this to avoid conflict (at best) or (at worst) because they pathetically think that their efforts will somehow impress a woman. Women smell insincerity a mile away. Sorry. 2) ...Is Afraid to Lose the Woman He Is With. Therefore, he literally bends over backwards not to "upset" her or say the wrong thing. Despite the obvious desperation involved here, arguably the most unattractive aspect of all this to a woman is how BORING it is. 3) ...Has Zero Leadership Ability. Guys often hear that "if Mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy". So the thought process is geared toward letting them make decisions and letting them get what they want. Unfortunately, women have a level of respect for a man that correlates to his level of leadership in a relationship. Zero leadership equals zero respect...which, logically, equals zero second dates. 4) ...Lacks Confidence. If you are worried she won’t like you she probably won’t. And similarly, if you act "nice" because you haven’t the courage to stand up for yourself, she’ll likely walk all over you...disgusted by every second of it. 5) ...Has Thinly-Veiled Ulterior Motives. Nobody likes to be "brown nosed" or "buttered up". There is no more blatant display of viewing a woman as a purely sexual object than to go overboard being "nice". She knows, you know and the rest of the world knows you wouldn’t be so "nice" if she wasn’t so sexy. Consider how weak this appears to a woman. End of story. Meanwhile, THE GOOD MAN WHO WINS (Having Come from a Position of Strength) 1) ...Treats All Women Well, Regardless of Sexual Attractiveness. Guys, take this test for yourself: Do you open doors for ALL women, or only for the ones who look good. If the latter, don’t be so shocked that your dates slot you in the JBF zone so much. Your "nice" behavior is all about manipulating women into giving you what you need. Start appreciating women more genuinely, and you will begin to be more genuinely appreciated. Is this really so difficult to get? 2) ...Is Not Focused on "Getting Some". Sex-starved men stay hungry. Men without pressing sexual needs cause women to feel more comfortable in their presence. Ironically, women who are comfortable around a man are more attracted...and ultimately more sexual. So the pattern operates. 3) ...Takes Charge. Such a man does not sheepishly ask a woman her preference and thereby let her dictate the flow of a date. A Good Man has paid attention and learned what makes the woman tick. When the date comes, he has the plan completely handled. At the end of the evening, the woman is often flabbergasted at how "perfect" her evening full of surprises was. But the Good Man with leadership ability knows it was all no accident. 4) ...Has Options. Therefore, he succeeds in causing the woman he is with feel to particularly valuable and special. She views herself as the "winner", and rightly so. Other women want this guy, but she is with him. That feeling is a good one to have. If a man can inspire a woman to feel valuable OR special he’s on the right track, but getting both right is an unbeatable combination. By the way, contrast this scenario with the weak man’s cavalcade of compliments and/or gifts designed to help him somehow manipulate a woman’s attraction. 5) ...Has High Standards. This means the man is EVALUATING the woman he is with rather than attempting to impress her. He has complete control over his dating life, and as a good man is confident enough in his character to realize that women worth his time and effort will recognize that and be impressed without his having to press the issue. Once again, men have been brainwashed in this culture into believing that all male behavior is bad behavior. Yet, women continue to seek out real men.
Toddbt12y1 Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 I do not see any reasons as to why you cannot do any of the typical nice-guy stuff: Open doors for the Ladies(y). Maybe get their seat. Refer to them politely, and try not to aim for sex on the first date. Women actually do like nice-guys. They just do not like doormats; they like nice-guys, they just do not like guys who will "yes" them to death. They like nice-guys, who will respect them, but not a guy who cannot ever take lead once and while and decide on where to go, or what to do. They love confidence. If a woman can get all this in a nice guy, believe me, she would have a paradise, lol.
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