Necris Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 (edited) Being a tall guy myself and hearing that taller women (6ft +) are more often overlooked by men (not sure if true) would approaching taller women possibly work more in my favor (most girls I approach seem to be around 5'2" to 5'7")? Edited April 5, 2013 by Necris
Author Necris Posted April 5, 2013 Author Posted April 5, 2013 I'm 6'1 but I tell guys on here that I'm shorter so that they actually listen to the advice I give them about not letting it be a mental barrier for themselves. It actually bothers me to see so many dudes getting hung up on what they perceive as some physical defect they have that is really all in their head. Isn't the average height like 5'9-5'10 anyways? An inch or two on the low end is nothing to sweat. It is, in America its actually gone down I believe to 5'9". Anyway I was just wondering as a tall guy at 6'3" myself would I do better with tall women? I ask because I heard alot of the guys don't go after really tall women so I was thinking maybe I'd have more luck..
ThaWholigan Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 It is, in America its actually gone down I believe to 5'9". Anyway I was just wondering as a tall guy at 6'3" myself would I do better with tall women? I ask because I heard alot of the guys don't go after really tall women so I was thinking maybe I'd have more luck.. It doesn't really matter. I'm your height, and both women I've slept with are at most 5'5 and below. I did date a 5 foot 10 girl for a while but it didn't go anywhere. Height shouldn't be your focus - you should really focus on other things.
Author Necris Posted April 5, 2013 Author Posted April 5, 2013 (edited) It doesn't really matter. I'm your height, and both women I've slept with are at most 5'5 and below. I did date a 5 foot 10 girl for a while but it didn't go anywhere. Height shouldn't be your focus - you should really focus on other things. Nah height isn't a focus for me, this thought just came to me a few hours ago, I was just wondering if I could have an advantage with tall girls. Also I heard a girl being really tall (6ft plus) could be a deterrent for some guys, so maybe less competition? Edited April 5, 2013 by Necris
ThaWholigan Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 Nah height isn't a focus for me, this thought just came to me a few hours ago, I was just wondering if I could have an advantage with tall girls. Also I heard a girl being really tall (6ft plus) could be a deterrent for some guys, so maybe less competition? Sometimes, but a lot of tall girls I've met are absolutely beautiful. Yeah, their height can sometimes deter guys though. With you being as tall as you are, it might be a shot, but you can't rely on that. I'm curious - can you point to any kind of skill in a social context that you excel in? It might actually help you refine your "game".
Author Necris Posted April 5, 2013 Author Posted April 5, 2013 I'm curious - can you point to any kind of skill in a social context that you excel in? It might actually help you refine your "game". None really, except I have been told I can be funny.
ThaWholigan Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 None really, except I have been told I can be funny. You've said you did improv before and other stuff like that - how did that experience help you in terms of how you presented yourself? Was it an engaging environment? When you're around girls, how do you talk to them, can you pinpoint anything in particular?
ScreamingTrees Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 If you're taller, a tall girl may love it that you're more head-level with her than most guys, OR maybe she'll be insecure and think to herself "I don't want my daughter to be held back in the same way that I may have been".
thefooloftheyear Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 I'm only 5'6" , very well built, though, I never really had any hangups. I dated a girl 5'11" in college and was no problem.. Frankly, being in my mid 40's I have found that all my tall buddies are falling apart physically. Bad backs, bad knees, among other health issues. I dont know why women put so much stock in height. Its never been an issue for me, I do prefer petite women though... TFOY
Author Necris Posted April 5, 2013 Author Posted April 5, 2013 You've said you did improv before and other stuff like that - how did that experience help you in terms of how you presented yourself? Was it an engaging environment? When you're around girls, how do you talk to them, can you pinpoint anything in particular? Improv didn't really help much I guess it took away some of the anxiety of making up something on the spot in front of people. As for talking to girls its really not much different than talking to guys, though when it comes to flirting and such I really have no clue what I'm doing, I'm awkward and its difficult to come up with ways to perhaps incite interest until maybe 5 minutes after a conversation and suddenly I may realize hey maybe I should have called her cute or maybe I should have asked her for her number in a smooth manner (I then envision myself being smooth), or maybe I should have said this funnier joke, etc.
ComeUpOutDaWahta Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 It's funny because I think about it now, and at no point in me and my friends' conversations about women we've met or women in general has the topic of height ever come up. Maybe this is a just a Southern US thing. Everyone here's kinda pretty much the same height?
ThaWholigan Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 Improv didn't really help much I guess it took away some of the anxiety of making up something on the spot in front of people. As for talking to girls its really not much different than talking to guys, though when it comes to flirting and such I really have no clue what I'm doing, I'm awkward and its difficult to come up with ways to perhaps incite interest until maybe 5 minutes after a conversation and suddenly I may realize hey maybe I should have called her cute or maybe I should have asked her for her number in a smooth manner (I then envision myself being smooth), or maybe I should have said this funnier joke, etc. Haha, I still do that . It's the analytic side of me. You just have to try stuff sometimes. You can download some stuff on flirting, dating, pua etc and learn a few things from that (not everything you read will be good info, nor will it suit you). And just go and try things, see if you can make it into a game even. You like video games, right? It's like improving the speech/barter on Fallout, or gaining EXP fighting the putty in an RPG. 1
thefooloftheyear Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 It's funny because I think about it now, and at no point in me and my friends' conversations about women we've met or women in general has the topic of height ever come up. Maybe this is a just a Southern US thing. Everyone here's kinda pretty much the same height? Inbreeding perhaps....?? OK ,, relax..only kidding:laugh: TFOY
pbjbear Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 Possibly. Most girls want someone taller than them and the taller women have less to choose from. Go for it
Djz05 Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 Never really had an issue about my height until I moved to the US. Im 5'2 btw. I usually dated taller girls than me (improvement of the genes hopefully for my kids haha) but I only got over that issu after I got into college and became more comfortable with myself as a person. Plus 5'2 wasnt really too bad, more like the lower end of the average height really. Now moving here to the US was another story. It was much harder to get noticed. Its not that I'm concious about my height, it was more like girls noticing taller guys more. I just go along and be my usual self and have gone out with girls I've never dreamt of going out before. I dated fewer girls than I normally did now since it is harder but I just take it as it is. And yes sometimes I was a few more inches taller 1
TheGuard13 Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 I'm 6'3, and I've actually found that some women seem to be intimidated by my height rather than attracted to it. I have better luck with taller girls. Which is fine, because I like taller girls.
Noproblem Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 Well, weather she is tall or short, if you are not charming enough for her, she will not date you! Unless she is desperate So yeah, don't plan your future dates upon height
Giraffe1 Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 Sure, why not talk to taller women? Give it a shot! I'm a taller woman myself (5'9) and I appreciate it when men 6' or taller approach me. I certainly feel like I get approached less than shorter women just because my height intimidates men. So yes if you go after a taller woman especially a woman 5'11 or over I think you could potentially have some success depending on what you look like/act like. Go for it.
rocketman122 Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 I think taller women may have options but not many tall guys out of those, as 6'+ men are a small percentage of the population. im 6'1" and I refuse to date a woman taller than 170cm. I want the height advantage. I also love woman who wear heels and I dont want to feel like shes leaning on me. I love the feeling of holding her. in this country the average height of the male is quite short so I had a lot of offers from tall women on OLD. height is a clear advantage for men, but not for women. unless of course she doesnt mind getting with a guy shorter than themselves or just a bit taller. they do have it harder though. we have 2 trainers at the gym that are tall and you can see they are desperate to find someone but the guys there are not "biting" its also a thing that carries in bed with me where I love the fact that shes small and I can feel like im dominating her with my size. everyone has preferences. women like tall men, I myself love short women.
Author Necris Posted April 5, 2013 Author Posted April 5, 2013 Haha, I still do that . It's the analytic side of me. You just have to try stuff sometimes. You can download some stuff on flirting, dating, pua etc and learn a few things from that (not everything you read will be good info, nor will it suit you). And just go and try things, see if you can make it into a game even. You like video games, right? It's like improving the speech/barter on Fallout, or gaining EXP fighting the putty in an RPG. Maybe I should just be "corny" without trying to think about the consequences instead of trying to be "smooth" and failing hard at it. That way it will sound more natural. 1
Noproblem Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 I'm actually surprised that you're so tall and do so badly with women (I know you make a lot of threads about it). I think someone wrote that you're pretty good-looking too. Something is definitely missing here..... tall and good looking + shy and not confident! Will make him not wanted from many women! Tall and good looking? according to some girls doesn't make him good looking according to the girls he approaches. 1
Author Necris Posted April 5, 2013 Author Posted April 5, 2013 I think taller women may have options but not many tall guys out of those, as 6'+ men are a small percentage of the population. im 6'1" and I refuse to date a woman taller than 170cm. I want the height advantage. I also love woman who wear heels and I dont want to feel like shes leaning on me. I love the feeling of holding her. in this country the average height of the male is quite short so I had a lot of offers from tall women on OLD. height is a clear advantage for men, but not for women. unless of course she doesnt mind getting with a guy shorter than themselves or just a bit taller. they do have it harder though. we have 2 trainers at the gym that are tall and you can see they are desperate to find someone but the guys there are not "biting" its also a thing that carries in bed with me where I love the fact that shes small and I can feel like im dominating her with my size. everyone has preferences. women like tall men, I myself love short women. So if alot of guys like shorter women then that would mean less competition for me:D, so maybe that could help for me especially since I'm a taller guy as well.
Author Necris Posted April 5, 2013 Author Posted April 5, 2013 I'm actually surprised that you're so tall and do so badly with women (I know you make a lot of threads about it). I think someone wrote that you're pretty good-looking too. Something is definitely missing here..... I'm unfortunately a little socially awkward and shy and I have tendency to just mess up approaches, over analyze everything/worry about things, probably not decisive enough, nerdy, since I never see any signs of interest my approaches are random so I'm approaching girls not interested in me all the time, I just suck at this.
Noproblem Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 I'm unfortunately a little socially awkward and shy and I have tendency to just mess up approaches, over analyze everything/worry about things, probably not decisive enough, nerdy, since I never see any signs of interest my approaches are random so I'm approaching girls not interested in me all the time, I just suck at this. U have to not think so much about it. Don't make it a big deal.....
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