Toddbt12y1 Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 What would you do or say to an ex, who might come on here seeking help for a bad relationship, that they had ended? Would you help them, and show that you are over it? Would you ignore them? What if you never got the chance to tell them what you think, after discovering the truth of any type of affair, if any? How would you respond? (I am bored and rather curious about this; it would be ironic if they happened to appear on here for the same reasons any of us did). 1
richard9 Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 (edited) If I knew it was my ex i would say, you decided to leave with your GIGS thoughts and throw away your relationship with me. you broke my heart thinking one night flings and partying and one night stands would be more fun. Now you realise I loved you, would have done anything for you, and all you have is users around you living for themselves like you are. Like your current bf/s Edited April 5, 2013 by richard9 1
Author Toddbt12y1 Posted April 5, 2013 Author Posted April 5, 2013 If I knew it was my ex i would say, you decided to leave with your GIGS thoughts and throw away your relationship with me. you broke my heart thinking one night flings and partying and one night stands would be more fun. Now you realise I loved you, would have done anything for you, and all you have is users around you living for themselves like you are. Like your current bf/s You would consider this an act of justice then? As well, it wouldn't effect your current progress at all?
Cogee Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 I'm a little confused as to what you are asking. What would I do or say to my ex if she came here to ask for advice on getting me back?
Author Toddbt12y1 Posted April 5, 2013 Author Posted April 5, 2013 I'm a little confused as to what you are asking. What would I do or say to my ex if she came here to ask for advice on getting me back? Well, it can be you, yes, or maybe whomever she might be with at that time.
richard9 Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 You would consider this an act of justice then? As well, it wouldn't effect your current progress at all? Would it make me feel better to know she feels the pain I do now? I am not a cruel person, so I will not focus on the pain as that does me no good. However It would serve me to say I made her happy and we thrived, and that I am capable of sustaining a relationship, this is often lost after a breakup. To go back, yes it is justice, but do I celebrate? It is easy to do so, but then I ask why! How does it help me? Tbh at this point it would, in the vain hope she may realise what she lost, sooo it is a REALISATION we yearn for, and we feel it will come through hardships of the dumpee. 1
Author Toddbt12y1 Posted April 5, 2013 Author Posted April 5, 2013 Would it make me feel better to know she feels the pain I do now? I am not a cruel person, so I will not focus on the pain as that does me no good. However It would serve me to say I made her happy and we thrived, and that I am capable of sustaining a relationship, this is often lost after a breakup. To go back, yes it is justice, but do I celebrate? It is easy to do so, but then I ask why! How does it help me? Tbh at this point it would, in the vain hope she may realise what she lost, sooo it is a REALISATION we yearn for, and we feel it will come through hardships of the dumpee. I am startled by your answer. Simply amazing. Well said! You have a very good head on your shoulders. You see things crystal clear, and clearly will not express any grudge. Even in the light of getting justice, you will not even celebrate as in show a mocking type of joy! Such a rare gift these days...You Sir, have amazed me this hour.
Cogee Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 I have actually had this happen to me in the past with an ex, just not on this message board. I decided to stay out of it and not respond. I should also mention that when this happened it actually gave me complete closure as I got to see what she was really thinking. It just so happens that she was *only* thinking about her ex even though she was involved with me, and I was on that forum trying to figure out what to do (she was acting hot/cold and I didn't know if our relationship was over or for what reason). If they were asking advice about me then I would not get involved, or if it involved someone else I'd just try to be impartial. 2
Author Toddbt12y1 Posted April 5, 2013 Author Posted April 5, 2013 I have actually had this happen to me in the past with an ex, just not on this message board. I decided to stay out of it and not respond. I should also mention that when this happened it actually gave me complete closure as I got to see what she was really thinking. It just so happens that she was *only* thinking about her ex even though she was involved with me, and I was on that forum trying to figure out what to do (she was acting hot/cold and I didn't know if our relationship was over or for what reason). If they were asking advice about me then I would not get involved, or if it involved someone else I'd just try to be impartial. Also - well said. You are taking a very humble action. That is respectable. Now that I think about it: It might be an action of giving closure to see an exe's thoughts being typed out. It sure would show what is in their heart, and let you know whether it is you or not, or something bad or good. Very interesting!
Cogee Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 Also - well said. You are taking a very humble action. That is respectable. Now that I think about it: It might be an action of giving closure to see an exe's thoughts being typed out. It sure would show what is in their heart, and let you know whether it is you or not, or something bad or good. Very interesting! It was a real revelation that's for sure. The fact that she never once mentioned our relationship in the post, and was asking for advice on how to get her ex back, showed her true colours. Needless to say, I will never speak to that ex again. When I broke up I told her that there are no circumstances with which I will I ever want to see or speak to her again. And we haven't, having been about 8 years now.
Author Toddbt12y1 Posted April 5, 2013 Author Posted April 5, 2013 It was a real revelation that's for sure. The fact that she never once mentioned our relationship in the post, and was asking for advice on how to get her ex back, showed her true colours. Needless to say, I will never speak to that ex again. When I broke up I told her that there are no circumstances with which I will I ever want to see or speak to her again. And we haven't, having been about 8 years now. Then one could also say that it takes a Revelation for the dumpee to realize how much better off he/she is, and effectively move-on. Either-way, it shows the powerful mind, and spirit, and basically the man you are: Indeed a man, to have that type of power to go through with what you said for so long; as many, and myself is guilty before, have broken what we said.
richard9 Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 I am startled by your answer. Simply amazing. Well said! You have a very good head on your shoulders. You see things crystal clear, and clearly will not express any grudge. Even in the light of getting justice, you will not even celebrate as in show a mocking type of joy! Such a rare gift these days...You Sir, have amazed me this hour. I would wish hurt on no one, she will never understand the pain I feel now because she will never devote herself to another, or at least think of them over herself. I also do not delight in the downfall of others even those that cause me pain. I want that she realises what she has lost, but I do not hold against her that she made a decision to leave. I miss the good times and there has yet to be a day that compares to being with her. But I will remain silent even if I know of her misery. and I would frel pity.
richard9 Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 I am startled by your answer. Simply amazing. Well said! You have a very good head on your shoulders. You see things crystal clear, and clearly will not express any grudge. Even in the light of getting justice, you will not even celebrate as in show a mocking type of joy! Such a rare gift these days...You Sir, have amazed me this hour. I would wish hurt on no one, she will never understand the pain I feel now because she will never devote herself to another, or at least think of them over herself. I also do not delight in the downfall of others even those that cause me pain. I want that she realises what she has lost, but I do not hold against her that she made a decision to leave. I miss the good times and there has yet to be a day that compares to being with her. But I will remain silent even if I know of her misery. and I would feel pity.
Author Toddbt12y1 Posted April 5, 2013 Author Posted April 5, 2013 I would wish hurt on no one, she will never understand the pain I feel now because she will never devote herself to another, or at least think of them over herself. I also do not delight in the downfall of others even those that cause me pain. I want that she realises what she has lost, but I do not hold against her that she made a decision to leave. I miss the good times and there has yet to be a day that compares to being with her. But I will remain silent even if I know of her misery. and I would feel pity. Good thinking! After all, ill-wishing never did help with any situation, if not make it worse upon yourself. Even though she hurt you the way she did, you can show her pity, and that actually shows your progress to being over her. As most people would wish their exes hellfire, if they hurt them soo badly, lol. I actually have vengeance I need to snuff out, just a little. Of wanting to relish in mine's agony, but I am checking it, as it isn't worth it. 1
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