marcelo.santos Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 Hi All, I'm 39 and she is 25, we had a very nice first date: We talked a lot, we kissed, and we had fun. I loved it and she told me that she liked the 1st date too. The problem is that I had some difficulties to have the second date: I tried 2 times to ask her to have a dinner and she told me that it would not be possible due her uncle was sick and she was taking care of him - I asked her when it would be possible to see her again and she told she don’t know because she have 2 jobs and is difficulty to have time to have a social life. I know that is true that her uncle is sick and that she has 2 different jobs that she works 6 days a week from 8AM till 10PM - but I don’t know if this is all her excuses to do not see me again in case she is not interested. I don’t know if she is really interested in me and during our previous conversation prior and after the first date she never take the initiative of reach me on chat or by phone: I'm always the part that initiate the chat or call her. Now I planning to play a bit: wait 2 weeks in complete silence to see if she initiates a conversation with me and to let her think about of our situation - what do you thing about this strategy? What should I do now? She is always very polite with me - but is hard to know what she wants also due to the difference of our ages (she is 25, I'm 39) - I'm very interested in met her and marry her one day. Thank you all
soccerrprp Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 Hi All, I'm 39 and she is 25, we had a very nice first date: We talked a lot, we kissed, and we had fun. I loved it and she told me that she liked the 1st date too. The problem is that I had some difficulties to have the second date: I tried 2 times to ask her to have a dinner and she told me that it would not be possible due her uncle was sick and she was taking care of him - I asked her when it would be possible to see her again and she told she don’t know because she have 2 jobs and is difficulty to have time to have a social life. I know that is true that her uncle is sick and that she has 2 different jobs that she works 6 days a week from 8AM till 10PM - but I don’t know if this is all her excuses to do not see me again in case she is not interested. I don’t know if she is really interested in me and during our previous conversation prior and after the first date she never take the initiative of reach me on chat or by phone: I'm always the part that initiate the chat or call her. Now I planning to play a bit: wait 2 weeks in complete silence to see if she initiates a conversation with me and to let her think about of our situation - what do you thing about this strategy? What should I do now? She is always very polite with me - but is hard to know what she wants also due to the difference of our ages (she is 25, I'm 39) - I'm very interested in met her and marry her one day. Thank you all Marcelo, SLOW DOWN! You haven't had a second date and you're talking about marrying her one day. The age difference comes as a significant detail here. She may have had a nice time, but she may also realize that the age difference or over-all attraction wasn't enough and is now giving you excuses. It doesn't sound like she interested in developing the relationship. Sorry.
ComeUpOutDaWahta Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 She's just not that into you breh. Sucks to hear, but I'd suggest moving on. Leave it up to her to get back in touch with you, but don't count on that ever happening.
Lani Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 She's not interested. If she were, she would make time. I'd go with telling her you'd love to see her again, and to let you know when she has some time. Then leave it. If she lets you know, then that's fantastic. If not, then you have your answer.
veggirl Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 Dude she is trying to blow you off. She would be thrilled if you took the hint, sorry to say. You wanna marry her?! Please man. It was one date. She is probably scared of you...probably is worried that if she tells you she isn't interested you will threaten suicide or something.......relax dude!!! Ball is in HER court if she is interested she will contact you at this point. 1
Author marcelo.santos Posted April 5, 2013 Author Posted April 5, 2013 lol. thank you all for bringing me to the reality. The first date was hard to schedule due to these problems - Our first date was thursday, on the end of the date I suggested to have a a second date Sunday she told that she would be busy, but maybe could occur. on Saturday morning I texted her asking if it was possible to have the date Saturday or Sunday - she told me that maybe would be possible on Sunday and that she would call me sunday to tell me if it would be possible or not. On Saturday late night I texted her a good night and she replied and after some talk she told me that was with stomach pain. On sunday she called me as she promissed and told that it would no be possible to met due to she would need to take care of her uncle, I asked if it would be possible to met during the week and she told me that would no be possible during the week due to she would not have time due her 2 jobs - I told her that we could schedule in the next weekend or in the future and she agreed. And here I am., Ok, I agree that my chances are very low - I will wait next week and chat with her to see what happens - its 1 chance in 100 - But I really need to try one more time. SLOW DOWN! You haven't had a second date and you're talking about marrying her one day. Dude she is trying to blow you off. You wanna marry her?! Please man. It was one date. She is probably scared of you...probably is worried that if she tells you she isn't interested lol, my intention was to say that I want to take it seriously - know her first.. never told her that I want to marry her.
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