Author a_dreamer Posted April 5, 2013 Author Posted April 5, 2013 Ouch... what an awful situation, especially given you look cute in your photo and seem to have yourself together otherwise. On the relationship side - if ANY man said something conditional to me, I'd be gone in a heartbeat. What if you lose the weight and then later you stay together, get pregnant and have a hard time losing? There are MANY men who would love/want/appreciate you for who you are. On the weight side - I once worked as a personal trainer and have helped a lot of friends lose weight. I will back up 2 comments others made - it will only get MORE difficult over time to lose and diet is the major issue not exercise. If YOU want to lose weight for you - just remove whites (pasta, bread, potatoes), don't have more than 500 calories at a time (probably 300 max for most meals) and eat every 3 hours or so. Thanks, actually this is what I have done over the past ..... 8 months? More protein less carbs.. i dont eat white rice, I eat brown rice.. no cereal any more.. protein shakes.. vitamins.. all that stuff.. and to be honest i Have lost weight over the time I have started.. I don't count it because it's not noticeable weight and it's very slow... my body needs the exercise to burn the calories. I am not sure why, it might be a health issue?, but it always works for me when I exercise AND eat the way I do, that's when I see results. I do watch my calorie intake. I track it all the time, even to this day. I actually tend to eat less than i need to and skip meals because of classes or waking up late or project work. I have a hard time keeping a schedule because every day is different. One minute I'm on a film set, the next I'm writing an essay, the next I am trying to stay up to finish a stop motion project, then im reading a book, then I'm applying for jobs, and going for interviews. When I have time to sit down and not think, I'm usually sleeping lol. I try to pack meals a head of time but it's hard to stay on top of that too. Once I start working, finish my degree, it will be easier to make a time of day for everything and reschedule myself. I'll always have project work for the rest of my life but I will have more control over those projects because they will be my own, instead of having 5 classes, with a million due dates, while keeping on top of real life problems like rent and cleaning and looking for work. Thank you for your advice though. Personal trainers are amazing. I can't wait until I have money to get one haha!
MoreThanThat Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 Thanks, actually this is what I have done over the past ..... 8 months? More protein less carbs.. i dont eat white rice, I eat brown rice.. no cereal any more.. protein shakes.. vitamins.. all that stuff.. and to be honest i Have lost weight over the time I have started.. I don't count it because it's not noticeable weight and it's very slow... my body needs the exercise to burn the calories. I am not sure why, it might be a health issue?, but it always works for me when I exercise AND eat the way I do, that's when I see results. I do watch my calorie intake. I track it all the time, even to this day. I actually tend to eat less than i need to and skip meals because of classes or waking up late or project work. I have a hard time keeping a schedule because every day is different. One minute I'm on a film set, the next I'm writing an essay, the next I am trying to stay up to finish a stop motion project, then im reading a book, then I'm applying for jobs, and going for interviews. When I have time to sit down and not think, I'm usually sleeping lol. I try to pack meals a head of time but it's hard to stay on top of that too. Once I start working, finish my degree, it will be easier to make a time of day for everything and reschedule myself. I'll always have project work for the rest of my life but I will have more control over those projects because they will be my own, instead of having 5 classes, with a million due dates, while keeping on top of real life problems like rent and cleaning and looking for work. Thank you for your advice though. Personal trainers are amazing. I can't wait until I have money to get one haha! You're welcome! It sounds like you are doing the right things as far as choices go. It might be a case of portion size, not getting enough protein or too many starchy carbs (even if they are healthier ones), or not eating often enough. If I eat one meal a day of 800 calories on a regular basis and nothing else, I gain. Splitting over 4-6 meals, I normally have 2000 or so to maintain. Having worked with a few hundred people on weight loss, exercise can help for sure - especially toning - but nutrition and adequate water intake is 90%. Good luck! 1
todreaminblue Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 (edited) Your partner loses his/her job, and you suggest that he/she looks for a new job. Disrespectful...? A society that is overweight will create a mentality that overweightness is common and the "right" way to live. To suggest that ones figure is a direct reflection of ones personality, values, and self respect would be heresy. Those who apply equal weight (heh) to others' figures as they would any other characteristic are automatically deemed "shallow" and of poor character. Why is that...? to me having a job.....is survival....you need to eat pay rent pay electricity..part of a mans make up is to be a providor for his family....for himself not live off welfare....looks are cosmetic.......i wouldnt care if a partner of mine cleaned toilets for a living........but if he came home looked at me and said i think you need to lose weight i would find you more attractive after i had kissed him hello, and made him a gourmet 3 course dinner.......he might find pal with added marrowbone in the next meat dish he eats.....so he better progress himself to be a vegan...i dont understand how you can can call cosmetic.....progression in a relationship...its all surface cleaning....she should want to progress for herself to be healthy and feel accepted for who and what she is......as men should too...look for beauty in all not in cm and a nose job..the fatc remains the bf is a dickhead.....he needs to have that penis removed from his forehead it is clouding his view .........deb Edited April 5, 2013 by todreaminblue
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