31confused09 Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 Hey there, My boy friend and i were having problems since past few months. we r dating for 2 years now. anyway last saturday he came home drunk n told me that i am making his life miserable and he wants me to leave.. so, next three days we didnt talk, and thn he asked me what is the plan..i told him ok fine you want me to leave i will leave in few days as soon as i find a place. he said ok but then later at night he hugged me n kissed me and tried to explain to me how he thinks that i am getting involved in his life too much and he cant take it anymore..anyway still he wants to end things with me.. next day, he went out to an island with his friends.. and i am sitting at home thinking what should i do.. as before i was angry cuz he hasnt been treating me right.. but now i am just afraid to move on!! i secretly wish that he dont give up on us..but for him, he just want to go to parties with his friends all the time and doesnt want me to tag along or even ask him where he is going.. i love him.. and he just dont care for me enough..i know that, but still i dont have the courage to move on..what should i do because he is asking me to stay with him for few days more but as a roommate only as in where we sleep together and have sex but i have no right to ask him anything
Noproblem Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 Well, I feel for you....I know moving out of a place where you define as your home is very difficult and hard But, you don't have any option here It's easier to stay and being used and stepped on Or leave and start a new life and I'm sure it will be a better life Your boy friend doesn't love you anymore, he wants his freedom, if you were married, he would have filed for divorce IF you see anyone in this situation when he or she isn't wanted anymore, you would tell them to pick the pieces and leave.....I will tell you the same, just leave, even if you have to move to parents house or a friend for a week or so until you find a place to stay Best of luck 2
soccerrprp Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 Get out! He is USING you and blatantly demonstrating the level of respect he has for you! Which is none. He is miserable with you there and wants you out, but also wants you to stay a little longer to be used as his sexual release until you're finally out... I am sorry that you're going through this, but the guy is a jerk!
MissIndependant Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 It's always hard to give up on something/one that you still love. And even harder when they don't love you anymore. Combine that with having to leave the safety of your comfort zone(your home) and it's no wonder your feeling the way you are. For fear of having to loose everything you find familiar I imagine that you would probably continue to let yourself be treated this way, because it is easier than being alone. I used to think that, I've done that, and now I know that I was wrong. It is better to be alone than to be treated with less respect than you deserve. And remember you can be alone without being lonely. But as the other posters have pointed out, you aren't being treated with respect and there's no love on his part. And when there's no love there isn't anything. I'm sure your a strong woman and you CAN pick up the pieces and move past this point. Best of luck!
Lani Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 As all others have said, you need to get out. This guy does seem like a total jerk, and you deserve better. Everyone does. It will hurt like hell to leave, but it needs to be done ASAP. And don't look back. If you've gotten to the point of living together, and that doesn't work out, there isn't really any point pursing a relationship with this guy anymore. I'm sorry to say, but it's over. Best of luck. It's going to be a tough time, but you can get through it.
chelsea2011 Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 Please leave the douche bag! Pack your stuff up when he is out and leave so he comes home to the emptiness of you being gone. And stay gone as he isn't worth more than the gum stuck to the bottom of your shoe. Period. You derserve so much better. Don't allow this fool to treat you this way. 1
ComeUpOutDaWahta Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 Hey there, My boy friend and i were having problems since past few months. we r dating for 2 years now. anyway last saturday he came home drunk n told me that i am making his life miserable and he wants me to leave.. so, next three days we didnt talk, and thn he asked me what is the plan..i told him ok fine you want me to leave i will leave in few days as soon as i find a place. he said ok but then later at night he hugged me n kissed me and tried to explain to me how he thinks that i am getting involved in his life too much and he cant take it anymore..anyway still he wants to end things with me.. next day, he went out to an island with his friends.. and i am sitting at home thinking what should i do.. as before i was angry cuz he hasnt been treating me right.. but now i am just afraid to move on!! i secretly wish that he dont give up on us..but for him, he just want to go to parties with his friends all the time and doesnt want me to tag along or even ask him where he is going.. i love him.. and he just dont care for me enough..i know that, but still i dont have the courage to move on..what should i do because he is asking me to stay with him for few days more but as a roommate only as in where we sleep together and have sex but i have no right to ask him anything Ey girl. I was having a bit of a tough time reading through the query you've presented here, but you know, real recognize real, so I'ma level witchu for a min. girl u need to be puttin dat man out by the curb...boy don't kno wut he want but he want u around for that easy poonanny...da boy aint no good
pbjbear Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 Dont ever settle for somebody who "doesnt care for you enough" I have watched soooo many girls waste their life away on a guy like this it is frustrating! Love is not unconditional. I dont get why people think this and excuse someones ****ty behavior and unworthy bad treatment of you with "but I love him" It makes me want to shake people. Thats my rant. I hope if everything you said about him is actually true, you leave this one. Also, dont go back to him because this one sounds like the wishy washy type. 1
Author 31confused09 Posted April 8, 2013 Author Posted April 8, 2013 well, Thanks you all for giving me your opinions, it means a lot.. I have moved out.. its been 24 hours already. i am not sure if he is back from the island yet or not..but i havent heard from him since three days.. Right now, i am sad i have no idea what i want anymore, in fact i dont know how to live without him, i miss him but i know he wont ever come after me or call me .. still, i hope that with time i will forget him and move on!! 2
Archgirl Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 I disagree with almost everyone on this thread. To be honest: get a life Or at least one that does not revolve around your man if you want to save your relationship. He is clearly telling you he feels crowded and wants time/people/activities where he is just him. This is perfectly reasonable and healthy. for your sanity you need the same or all your self worth will stay invested in this guy. so seriously, get a freakin hobby or something and stop being that whiny co-dependant chick you know you've turned into instead of the fun strong independant woman he met.
Noproblem Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 well, Thanks you all for giving me your opinions, it means a lot.. I have moved out.. its been 24 hours already. i am not sure if he is back from the island yet or not..but i havent heard from him since three days.. Right now, i am sad i have no idea what i want anymore, in fact i dont know how to live without him, i miss him but i know he wont ever come after me or call me .. still, i hope that with time i will forget him and move on!! I'm so proud of you, it will get better.... The pain will go gradually ...... Just stay strong 1
aussietigerwolf Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 I disagree with almost everyone on this thread. To be honest: get a life Or at least one that does not revolve around your man if you want to save your relationship. He is clearly telling you he feels crowded and wants time/people/activities where he is just him. This is perfectly reasonable and healthy. for your sanity you need the same or all your self worth will stay invested in this guy. so seriously, get a freakin hobby or something and stop being that whiny co-dependant chick you know you've turned into instead of the fun strong independant woman he met. She may not be clingy... I had an ex who if I was Lucky would spend 5 mins with me (he wasn't busy, we lived together) he gave me all you're clingy suffocating crap too and none of it was deserved... 1
Archgirl Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 She may not be clingy... I had an ex who if I was Lucky would spend 5 mins with me (he wasn't busy, we lived together) he gave me all you're clingy suffocating crap too and none of it was deserved... Sure there are assh)les out there. But seriously, reread the post; He sounds like a guy who cares who is at the end of his tether and she sounds like a chick who has made a dude her whole world. Big freakin mistake.
KraftDinner Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 Sure there are assh)les out there. But seriously, reread the post; He sounds like a guy who cares who is at the end of his tether and she sounds like a chick who has made a dude her whole world. Big freakin mistake. If he was halfway decent, he would never consider telling her to stick around to be his sex release for a few days. 1
Archgirl Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 If he was halfway decent, he would never consider telling her to stick around to be his sex release for a few days. Oh please, he's clearly been taught that it's ok to ask her such things, even if that is a clear translation of events rather than an overemotional tell-me-he's-a-bad-dude-and-I'm-just-a-helpless-victim-so-I-don't-have-to-examine-myself colouring of the conversation. You may not like my interpretation, but you can't deny it has equally likely validity and y'all know a bit of you even thinks I'm spot on
Author 31confused09 Posted April 8, 2013 Author Posted April 8, 2013 Dear Archgirl, i think u misunderstood the situation. we were living together and 2 days a week he was going out with his friends and i was going with mine.. all i asked from him was for us to go out at least one weekend out of four. as during weekdays, we both had a busy routing classes, gym n all.. we would only eat together at times or just sleep.. and his problem was that he didnt allow me to go to a party with my group of friends, where he was going with his friends..
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