RachR Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 Giggling and red faces aren't obvious to you guys? When I like a guy sometimes I will suddenly flush and have to look away. I have fair skin so my face gets bright red. 2
Author kaylan Posted April 5, 2013 Author Posted April 5, 2013 Giggling and red faces aren't obvious to you guys? Considering that quite a few of us guys have had a girl do this, end up not being into us, and then we are told we read too much into her behavior....no thats not obvious enough.
RedRobin Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 That's really sweet that you have a crush Kaylan! 1
Lani Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 Considering that quite a few of us guys have had a girl do this, end up not being into us, and then we are told we read too much into her behavior....no thats not obvious enough. Yeah, it was kind of a joke. My face doesn't even go red. Ever. We don't make it known because, like ES said, we're scared of the rejection. It's scary, and unless you really know a person and are sure they would react positively, we really struggle. The other thing is, that a lot of the time, crushes aren't people we actually want to be with long term. So it's not worth the potential rejection when we usually know we can live without that person anyway. 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 Yeah, it was kind of a joke. My face doesn't even go red. Ever. We don't make it known because, like ES said, we're scared of the rejection. It's scary, and unless you really know a person and are sure they would react positively, we really struggle. The other thing is, that a lot of the time, crushes aren't people we actually want to be with long term. So it's not worth the potential rejection when we usually know we can live without that person anyway. And we also kind of know that if a guy liked us that much, he would ask us out. So if he is not doing that.... 2
Author kaylan Posted April 5, 2013 Author Posted April 5, 2013 And we also kind of know that if a guy liked us that much, he would ask us out. So if he is not doing that.... This tired reasoning again? I could say that if a girl really liked me, shed make it obvious. Im not keen on asking someone out who doest seem into me at all. Ive had girls be very obvious about liking me, and some even made first moves kissing me, or made suggestions like "hey you should come to *enter event* this friday". My experience has taught me that if girls liked me that much, they make it known too. 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 This tired reasoning again? I could say that if a girl really liked me, shed make it obvious. Im not keen on asking someone out who doest seem into me at all. Ive had girls be very obvious about liking me, and some even made first moves kissing me, or made suggestions like "hey you should come to *enter event* this friday". My experience has taught me that if girls liked me that much, they make it known too. Yep K, I do agree this reasoning is not always correct. But we women had it drummed into us since an early age: "If he is that into you he would be asking you out". So that always plays in the back of my mind and psyches me out...besides plain ol' fear of rejection. 1
Lani Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 I'm contemplating having a crush on sweetkiwi*. (* booty pics pending) I'd recommend it. I've been crushing on her for ages, she's smokin'! 2
MrCastle Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 My crush is a married woman with a child. Greatest woman I've ever had the pleasure of knowing. Unfortunately, I can't do anything.
Eternal Sunshine Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 I'd recommend it. I've been crushing on her for ages, she's smokin'! When it comes to girl crushes, I am afraid I am taken. I am kind of with mez 2
ThaWholigan Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 When it comes to girl crushes, I am afraid I am taken. I am kind of with mez Yes, more love for mez 1
RedRobin Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 Why dont you girls make your feelings more obvious if you genuinely like a dude? I do. Mostly because the guys I like tend to be more quiet and sweet. Those are the ones who make me melt and get all gooey. They really bring out my soft side. The macho guys who try to chase me down don't appeal to me. I enjoy playing with them though. Not in a bad or misleading way. Just in the banter. Some mistake that for interest... but they would be wrong. If it makes them feel good that I talk to them though, I don't really care. They aren't getting anywhere with me... except some harmless flirting and a laugh now and then. There is a third type who is a blend of both and balanced. Those are very rare. And the two I can think of are both happily married. I love talking to them though. Not in a sexual way at all. I just really jive with their energy... I realized a long time ago that both men and women with strong leadership skills have this quality. Being able to make people feel comfortable. I'm lucky to have them as mentors. 3
Lani Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 When it comes to girl crushes, I am afraid I am taken. I am kind of with mez Lucky this was for sweetkiwi then... Am happy for you and Mez though 2
sweetkiwi Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 I'd recommend it. I've been crushing on her for ages, she's smokin'! Baby girl. I've had a crush on you since my first night in the OTT:love::love: I used to have a huge crush on an old poster here, Hawaii50. Oh man his posts made me so giggly. I took a chance and PM'd him. He's a great guy. Crush is gone though.
Lani Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 Baby girl. I've had a crush on you since my first night in the OTT:love::love: I used to have a huge crush on an old poster here, Hawaii50. Oh man his posts made me so giggly. I took a chance and PM'd him. He's a great guy. Crush is gone though. Love at first post :love: 2
pbjbear Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 Ugh Im so jelly. I havent had an actual crush in several years. I think as people become older they are less likely to happen. I wouldnt mind one to make my life more interesting. Redrobin and I are spirit animals. I tend to crush on their quieter, more sensitive guys. The obnoxious masculine (alpha) guys I find to be amusing and they can be fun to talk to, but I dont really crush on them. I guess I am a female anomaly. 1
normal person Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 Ugh Im so jelly. I havent had an actual crush in several years. I think as people become older they are less likely to happen. I wouldnt mind one to make my life more interesting. If it's any help, I think I've got an internet crush on your general bluntness and honesty. 1
Author kaylan Posted April 5, 2013 Author Posted April 5, 2013 I have a crush on one of my ex-gf's friends. As I've already been blasted as a terrible human being on here for. Um...youre not bad for having the crush. Its just terribly poor form to expect your ex to help you bang a friend of hers. 1
truth_seeker Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 I still crush on my boss, but he doesn't really know. I am actually being really mean and cold to him Guys need to pick up on this. There are times when a women goes OUT OF HER WAY to be mean to a guy. This is their way of showing interest. 2
mesmerized Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 When it comes to girl crushes, I am afraid I am taken. I am kind of with mez Good girl. Mez knows how to pick the gorgeous loyal girls.
Archgirl Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 Guys need to pick up on this. There are times when a women goes OUT OF HER WAY to be mean to a guy. This is their way of showing interest. Hahaha! Guilty! *puts hand up* Less interested/meaner I act the more I am am. 1
Anela Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 I have crushes all the time. Women find me hard to resist, I guess. It's something I've gotten used to, and it really is one of the nice parts of life as long as they can control themselves. Shouldn't there be a bigger smile on your avatar then?? And we also kind of know that if a guy liked us that much, he would ask us out. So if he is not doing that.... That's what I've always thought. I see them go gooey over someone else, and they take a chance on rejection where the other girl is concerned, so I've never believed that they were too intimidated by me. I do know of one young woman who is very happily married to a man that she had to ask out. He admitted that he liked her very much, but wouldn't have asked her out so soon, out of shyness/insecurity. They are the cutest couple.
Anela Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 Baby girl. I've had a crush on you since my first night in the OTT:love::love: I used to have a huge crush on an old poster here, Hawaii50. Oh man his posts made me so giggly. I took a chance and PM'd him. He's a great guy. Crush is gone though. When you mentioned that you were in a long-distance relationship, I thought it was with him.
Anela Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 Guys need to pick up on this. There are times when a women goes OUT OF HER WAY to be mean to a guy. This is their way of showing interest. This isn't true for me.
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