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Oh God I hate getting crushes. In the end I'm always left really hurting.

 

I've never had a crush go right. I wish I would never get them. There is nothing more stupid than getting feelings for somebody before you've even kissed them. My life would have been so much happier if I could have decided to fall for certain girls, or not.

 

100% yes.

 

I also think a crush needs to be defined. There's many women I'm attracted to whom I've spoken to and never spoken to, but I wouldn't call that a crush always.

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When I was younger I used to get intense, debilitating crushes. In high school I'd pine after one guy for years. Now I rarely get crushes anymore and when I do they're very light. They often run their course after a matter of days. I think after getting a lot of relationship experience it becomes harder to put people on a pedestal because you realize everyone has flaws and no one is how they appear to the outside world.

 

Lately I have had a good streak of dating people who I crushed on first. The guy I'm seeing now started as a crush.

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Any guys ever end up dating a girl that you had a crush on?

 

And no I'm not talking about getting a crush on a girl you were already dating. That's pretty much expected.

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The principle of a crush is that you're not making much sense when interacting with them... I got to date one only after I was over him :o. Teenagers...

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I've always had crushes throughout my life and never ended up dating any of them. I think mostly because I never got a chance to interact with them in a friendly manner. Oh except when I was 12 and found out my crush (13) also had a crush on me, we still never "dated". lol I don't like having crushes but at times it can be fun.

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I've always had crushes throughout my life and never ended up dating any of them. I think mostly because I never got a chance to interact with them in a friendly manner.

You should probably stop trying to meet men in boxing rings.

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I've always had crushes throughout my life and never ended up dating any of them. I think mostly because I never got a chance to interact with them in a friendly manner. Oh except when I was 12 and found out my crush (13) also had a crush on me, we still never "dated". lol I don't like having crushes but at times it can be fun.

 

 

Yeah, I never end up dating my crushes either :(

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Yeah, I never end up dating my crushes either :(

 

You and me ES, something is wrong with us. :laugh: Maybe excessive awesomeness?:p

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sweetkiwi Established Member

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Any guys ever end up dating a girl that you had a crush on?

 

And no I'm not talking about getting a crush on a girl you were already dating. That's pretty much expected.

 

Well I am not a guy but yeah.

 

There was this super cute guy I was crushing on. He would walk past my salon and I would run to the window to look at him. The other stylists would even tell me when he was at the coffee shop nextdoor. I never talked to him. But one day I was cranky and having a smoke out back and he walked by me and finally noticed me. I was oblivious I didn't even see him.

 

The next day he came into the salon for a haircut and I was so nervous washing his hair. Later he told me He was nervous because my boobs were in his face and he was trying to be a gentleman and not look. I honestly thought he was gay till he ripped my pants off after we went to a concert and had a lot of whiskey.

 

We dated for seven or eight months.

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I've never dated a crush.

 

The biggest one I had was in high school on a Mormon guy (I am not Mormon) and he was mega devout lol. But soo cute. I do think he secretly liked me too cause I'd hear him talking about me. Anyway I wasted 2 years pining after him and staring at him in math class. I think we spoke 6 times or something, I remember I'd go home on those few occasions and document it all in great detail in my diary. Of course they were like 3 sentence exchanges so there wasn't much detail TO document but still...:o

 

Anyway I kinda swore off crushes from afar after that! I can't remember the last one I had. I don't typically like most people so if I do like someone nowadays, I'd just make convo/interactions happen.

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You and me ES, something is wrong with us. :laugh: Maybe excessive awesomeness?:p

 

:lmao: I like the way you think.

 

For some reason, the only guys that were truly interested in committing to a relationship with me were the guys I was lukewarm about.

 

The others, that I was highly passionate about, never got off the ground :(

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I also had a crush on my first boyfriend for three years before we were ever together. I remember the exact moment I saw him and all of our early encounters. He is my cousin's best friend so it was easy hanging out with him under the guise of friendship.

 

Finally the summer I turned 16 we had our first kiss. He had a girlfriend so I told him to break up with her or I wouldn't go to the movies with him. He called me back 5 minutes later, single and with movie times. We dated for nearly 3 years.

 

Also with the ex after him. I would go into his piercing shop for stupid reasons and he never noticed me. Then one day I walked to my car to get a cigarette and put a flower in my hair and asked for his number. We were engaged/together for nearly three years.

 

Ooo and it happened with the abusive ex. We met one night and I refused to give him my number saying, "You know everyone in town. If you want it you'll get it."

 

Six months later we bumped into eachother. He took me to his work after hours and made me sit on his lap and watch kitty videos on YouTube. We dated for 8 months.

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I had the hugest crush on a guy at my old work.

He was an incredibly sexy dolphin researcher, with this incredible accent. He was so fit, and tanned, and used to wear tight white t-shirts and bring me coffee. Schoolgirl giggling ensued every time, especially when he sat a little too close.

 

We sent eachother flirty emails, until his girlfriend got pregnant :(

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:lmao: I like the way you think.

 

For some reason, the only guys that were truly interested in committing to a relationship with me were the guys I was lukewarm about.

 

The others, that I was highly passionate about, never got off the ground :(

 

yeah same here. Most guys I was highly passionate about really had no clue about it though. When I really like a guy I usually shy away and try to hide it as much as I can which is just horrible. :laugh: Only one crush knew that I liked him. Apparently he had a girlfriend (that I didn't know about) and the other one I still talk to sometimes and I think "hes just not that into me". Funny thing is, the friends of the dude who had a gf all would date me in a heartbeat and I actually ended up dating one of them who I wasn't too crazy about. :(

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I've always had crushes throughout my life and never ended up dating any of them. I think mostly because I never got a chance to interact with them in a friendly manner. Oh except when I was 12 and found out my crush (13) also had a crush on me, we still never "dated". lol I don't like having crushes but at times it can be fun.

Gotta be proactive. Thats what Im gonna try and do. The gal I mentioned in my OP has a tough outer shell. But Im sure there is a rich, creamy, gooey center. Gotta figure out how to break through to the middle. I do enjoy a challenge though.

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LOL, crushes from afar.

 

It's kind of hard to end up in a relationship with somebody you never talk to. The last crush I had of that type was back when I was 16.

 

From 18 to 30, all my crushes were on girls that I was actual friends with, or at least spoke to on a regular basis. Looking back I had crushes on eight girls that were my friends. They all turned me down. The rest were acquaintances.

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yeah same here. Most guys I was highly passionate about really had no clue about it though. When I really like a guy I usually shy away and try to hide it as much as I can which is just horrible. :laugh: Only one crush knew that I liked him. Apparently he had a girlfriend (that I didn't know about) and the other one I still talk to sometimes and I think "hes just not that into me". Funny thing is, the friends of the dude who had a gf all would date me in a heartbeat and I actually ended up dating one of them who I wasn't too crazy about. :(

 

I am the same! I find it easy to flirt with guys but if I am truly into them, forget it. I get shy and try to hide it.

 

I still crush on my boss, but he doesn't really know. I am actually being really mean and cold to him :laugh:

 

The other semi-crush knows and talks to me every now and then but he is not that into me. I think he just enjoys the ego boost :(

 

I don't think I can have another relationship with a guy I am not that passionate about though, hence my long dry spell :/

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Why dont you girls make your feelings more obvious if you genuinely like a dude?

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Lani Established Member

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Why dont you girls make your feelings more obvious if you genuinely like a dude?

 

Giggling and red faces aren't obvious to you guys?

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mesmerized Established Member

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I am the same! I find it easy to flirt with guys but if I am truly into them, forget it. I get shy and try to hide it.

 

I still crush on my boss, but he doesn't really know. I am actually being really mean and cold to him :laugh:

 

The other semi-crush knows and talks to me every now and then but he is not that into me. I think he just enjoys the ego boost :(

 

I don't think I can have another relationship with a guy I am not that passionate about though, hence my long dry spell :/

 

let's be each other's backup. :D In ten years if we're single, we get together, ok??:o

 

Why dont you girls make your feelings more obvious if you genuinely like a dude?

 

Shyness, fear of rejection. When we like someone we feel too vulnerable.

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sweetkiwi Established Member

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Why dont you girls make your feelings more obvious if you genuinely like a dude?

 

*raises hand* I do. I have no fear. I figure it's a gamble I am willing to take. And it's turned out very well for me.

 

I like sweet guys. They're shy. I intimidate them. So they'd NEVER try to get with me. I have had to do all the work initially which is fine with me because I get to pick um.

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Giggling and red faces aren't obvious to you guys?

Girls giggle when talking to other girls so that means nothing to guys.

 

Red faces...allergies?

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let's be each other's backup. :D In ten years if we're single, we get together, ok??:o

 

 

Hehe deal. I like what I see :love::laugh:

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I actually have a theory that women deal with rejection worse than men. Men kind of have to be used to it.

 

I tend to fall apart and lose all my confidence when rejected so I don't like putting myself in that position. Sometimes, it's better to just not know.

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I have crushes all the time. Women find me hard to resist, I guess. It's something I've gotten used to, and it really is one of the nice parts of life as long as they can control themselves.

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