misswillow Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 33 days since breakup and 16 days NC. I'm a little better in that I'm not still shell-shocked, and I can see some of the problems in our relationship and how those problems may have caused future difficulties. So I'm not viewing the relationship with complete rose-colored glasses at this point. However, I still miss him so much. It's literally a constant physical ache. I can go to work and act like a fairly normal person, but all the while I am just have this ache inside. I think of all the fun times, or just the regular times, with him and it's just killing me. He was so much a part of me, so it's like part of me is gone. What are your experiences on when that feeling of just missing a person so much starts to diminish? I feel like right now, the feeling is actually increasing every day. 2
Castled Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 Missing someone does not necessarily go away. If it does, it was not true love in my opinion. That healing sensation you get after a while comes from learning to live without that person. Like in every learning process, we get better at it with time and practice. 1
Echo000 Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 it takes time..you gotta realize that every day is a battle..and when you feel so much pain and continue forward inspite of that..you are a boss. If you check my story you will see that my ex emailed me recently (its weird..too hard to explain unless you read that separate thread), and I emailed back saying thanks and hope she is well. But that was the first time I had contact with her in 70 days. and lemme tell you--every day has been a huge challenge. And its been a battle. Every day. Keep strong. Find the beauty in the struggle. 3
KatZee Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 You'll only start missing him less if you start doing new things in your life. You need to get out of the routine you have. If all you do is wake up, go to work, come home, chill out, go to bed... and then repeat for the entire week... of course your thoughts will always be with him. It's still early in the breakup so it's normal to be down and not want to do much but you have to push yourself. Once you're out there doing new things, doing things you didn't have the time to do, or couldn't do because you were with him... are now all opportunities for you. Get out there. Meet new people. Do new things. Be adventurous. Once the life you once shared with him, becomes just YOUR life... your focus will shift. 5
KatZee Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 Missing someone does not necessarily go away. If it does, it was not true love in my opinion. That healing sensation you get after a while comes from learning to live without that person. Like in every learning process, we get better at it with time and practice. Not true at all. Missing someone absolutely does go away. It means you've moved on. I loved my ex more than I've ever loved anyone. Do I miss him? No. Not at all. 2
blindhope Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 It will come and go first, first every moment, then everyday, then more days than not and so on. But the better you treat yourself by eating right and excersise. Try new things, meet new people. Hangout with friends and family. Fill your time and attention and it will help. The bad news is you know it's not going away anytime soon. The good news is that it will. 2
thefooloftheyear Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 Not true at all. Missing someone absolutely does go away. It means you've moved on. I loved my ex more than I've ever loved anyone. Do I miss him? No. Not at all. I guess it depends on the breakup and also the person in general.. Some are just more "invested" so they are going to have a harder time moving forward..There is no "one size fits all" in this process. Also, i think the harder/nastier the breakup, the easier it will be for the person to move on. There is less second guessing, hope, etc.. Its really over and thats that. TFOY 1
richard9 Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 Depends on how long you were with them, how much time you spent with them, if you had other friends / interests (without them) when you were with them imo I devoted myself to my ex, let friends, family, even my own life go for her, I became totally dependant. Which is why now 5 months later I am still in pain. My advice is to see this as an opportunity to develop yourself which means going out creatine new routines, work out, take up a hobby or go back to school. These things will help fill the void and lessen the pain. It unfortunately takes time, and all the days will seem to blend into one without them. Days will turn into weeks, into months, this is so disheartening and makes life seem pointless without them, no one day can be as good as when u were with them. BUT its all part of the healing process imo You are the only one that matters, time to focus on YOU and the pain will diminidh with time, memories will fade and you will get used to life without them. 3
Amy4452 Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 It has been a week since we stopped talk to each other. He had sex with girls. He txt me on easter and I txted him back and that's it. Today is his birthday and I didn't say happy birthday. I feel worse everyday, I can't believe he did this to me. He was a nice man and now he changed, I don't know how will I deal with it. I'm really tired and depressed, it's so hard
Rebecca1134 Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 It has been a week since we stopped talk to each other. He had sex with girls. He txt me on easter and I txted him back and that's it. Today is his birthday and I didn't say happy birthday. I feel worse everyday, I can't believe he did this to me. He was a nice man and now he changed, I don't know how will I deal with it. I'm really tired and depressed, it's so hard Its really hard to ever believe that they'd just move on to other girls so fast. I still cant even imagine my ex and his new girl together without getting a stabbing pain in my gut. 1
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