skyecko Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 For the sake of keeping things brief. Girlfriend broke up with me 2 months ago asking for no contact. After 2 months I contacted her and we spoke on the phone for 2.5 hours. She said she wanted to close this chapter of her life because she was going to stay with her husband for the sake of the kids happiness. She said she doesn't love him. She said that I should go out and have fun and give other people a chance; but she also said that she would be open to being together again if the time was right in the future and she was "free" -- What I'm trying to figure out based on what she has told me is whether her feelings for me are strong enough to last until we can maybe be together. - Girlfriend felt I didn't trust her. Broke up asking for no contact. - Girlfriend is married (seperated) but husband will move back into house for kids happiness. - Girlfriend is getting citizenship through her husband and this is important to her. - Girlfriend says she doesn't know the future or if we will be together again. She doesn't want to be selfish by asking me to wait on the unknown. Says she wants to close this "chapter" of her life and move on for now. - Girlfriend says she enjoyed what we had and would like to have it again in the future if she could. - Girlfriend says noone ever treated her the way I did and it is impossible for her to forget me. That what we had was "magical" - Girlfriend says she enjoys talking with me and I am really the only person she can talk with this way. - Girlfriend says she doesn't want to look at me like a "friend" but she does enjoy talking with me. - Girlfriend says we met at the "wrong" time. - Girlfriend says she believes that people are brought into other peoples lives for a reason. - Girlfriend says I should meet other people; but just because I do doesn't mean she wants me to sleep with them. Only that she doesn't want to hold me back from being happy. --------------------------------------… However, even though she says these things she is not texting or calling me. What's going on? --------------------------------------…
Jono85 Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 i'll tell you what's going on. she doesn't want to be with you. it really is that simple. everything she's telling you is pretty cliche among dumpers. even the part about i would welcome the opportunity in the future if the timing is right. in reality no one let's go of someone they actually see as the person they want to spend their lives with. no one. leave her alone, and take the steps you need to get yourself back to where you need to be. don't contact her again or accept any kind of friendship, keep your self-respect.
Castled Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 It seems to me she doesn't have the courage to decide what she really wants. At this point I don't think there's nothing you can do. If I were you, I'd go NC. That will sure push her to decide what she wants to do with her life.
Jono85 Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 It seems to me she doesn't have the courage to decide what she really wants. where do you get that from his post? she broke up with him, asked for no contact, didn't contact him in those 2 months of NC, even said she wanted to close that chapter of her life when he called and broke NC, and says he should see other people. this as cut and dry as it gets.
Castled Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 where do you get that from his post? she broke up with him, asked for no contact, didn't contact him in those 2 months of NC, even said she wanted to close that chapter of her life when he called and broke NC, and says he should see other people. this as cut and dry as it gets. Not everyone reacts the same way. It depends on too many factors. I've seen people who really love their partner go away for a long time, do everything in their hands to make the other think they feel what they don't or viceversa. No man will ever be able to reach deep enough into a woman's heart to be 100% sure of the strength of her feelings. As I said, we can only control our part of it. NC is a good starting point.
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