Aijou Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 Hello all. I am a long time reader, first time poster. I was originally brought here because of the GIGS article and have been reading other articles here and there. I am the dumpee in a near 4 year relationship (same sex) and I have been in NC for exactly 2 months today. The breakup was most likely due to GIGS, as he displayed every single bullet point in the article. I am registered on the dating website POF and just recently, every time I log in I am matched up with a bunch of people including my ex. I was doing pretty ok emotionally until I saw his picture, which brought me back to a world of tears. It also doesn't help that today would be our anniversary. I don't believe there is a way to block people's profiles on POF, only prohibit them from emailing you. Every time I go on the website it says we are a good match, but I feel really sad when I see his picture. I want to avoid visiting the website in order to ignore his picture, but at the same time I also want to meet new people (which I have been doing). I also suspect that since it says he is a good match for me, he is probably also able to see my picture on his side too. Is there a way to block people's profiles on POF? What should I do? I think if I had to avoid going to the website until I was fully over him, I would have to wait a very very long time (1+ year or longer).
Gottabestrong Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 Hi Aijou, unfortunately I have no helpful advice for you, but I want you to know that I can relate. After I got dumped I went back on the site we met on, and guess who kept popping up as my match EVERY SINGLE TIME! It totally sucked. The first time I saw his pic it felt like I got stabbed in the heart. To know that he was back out there, looking for someone new only a few days after he dumped me, felt like he added insult to injury. At first I would always hold my hand over the screen in order not to see his pic, but that did not really help as it made me think of him every time I went online and I was always worried about his pic popping up. So I finally decided to cancel my profile and try out another dating site. All the best, I hope you can find a better solution!
Author Aijou Posted April 5, 2013 Author Posted April 5, 2013 I am on other dating websites as well but POF has the most people. I don't want to but I think I will take a break from POF. Thanks.
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