krazikat Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 It is about 2 months since dday and I have been doing ok. Then last night I had a horrible nightmare of walking in on my husband and ap having sex, and he saw me, smiled, said sorry and kept going. I woke up feeling completely sick and would not let myself cry. I mean, it wasnt real. But man alive, this stuff sucks. I hate feeling all emotional in the first place, I dont want to start dreaming about it now!
TigerCub Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 I'm so sorry Krazikat That sounds awful. With all the stress and emotions you are feeling daily, you'd think you can at least get some rest when you sleep. You're still processing everything so I guess it is "normal" to dream of it, but doesn't make it suck any less. Sorry, I don't know how to make it better for you. **HUGS** 2
NotCamelot Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 It's been 11 months for us, and my W had a dream Monday night that her AP showed up at an event we were at and I shot and killed him. I couldn't help smiling when she told me.........shouldn't have - but I did. 3
Author krazikat Posted April 4, 2013 Author Posted April 4, 2013 Tc, thank you...i needed the hug! I cant wait until some of these affair side effects die down...sheesh. Nc...ok, that made me lol. how is your r coming along? Mine is going good so far...my h and I have decided to stop talking about details of the a because it makes things worse...i started having worse flashes and triggers after talking about more details...yikes!
Betrayed&Stayed Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 Tc, thank you...i needed the hug! I cant wait until some of these affair side effects die down...sheesh. You're experiencing PTSD, and it's common for BS's to go through this. I know I did.
NotCamelot Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 Nc...ok, that made me lol. how is your r coming along? Mine is going good so far...my h and I have decided to stop talking about details of the a because it makes things worse...i started having worse flashes and triggers after talking about more details...yikes! It is going extremely well. We stopped talking about it a few weeks ago.....and that helped tremendously. Of course the TPO is still in effect...her AP can't contact either of us....so there is some reassurance in that. But it really is nice.....we are more like the new lovers we were 22 years ago. And she actually says "I'm sorry" a lot........about random things if she thinks she did or said something wrong.....she never used to do that. I find myself thinking less and less about it .....and am really glad about that. We are in a really good place. We've both hurt each other.....and we both know and admit that we were wrong. New vows...... And, just last night, while watching tv, she turned my face to hers and kissed me.....said, "I love you so very much. No one but you, ever." I teared up a little bit. She smiled and hugged me. We went back to the tv show for a bit. Yeah, it is nice. After a while, you don't really need any more details, if there are any. At some point, what good does it do? 1
Author krazikat Posted April 4, 2013 Author Posted April 4, 2013 It is going extremely well. We stopped talking about it a few weeks ago.....and that helped tremendously. Of course the TPO is still in effect...her AP can't contact either of us....so there is some reassurance in that. But it really is nice.....we are more like the new lovers we were 22 years ago. And she actually says "I'm sorry" a lot........about random things if she thinks she did or said something wrong.....she never used to do that. I find myself thinking less and less about it .....and am really glad about that. We are in a really good place. We've both hurt each other.....and we both know and admit that we were wrong. New vows...... And, just last night, while watching tv, she turned my face to hers and kissed me.....said, "I love you so very much. No one but you, ever." I teared up a little bit. She smiled and hugged me. We went back to the tv show for a bit. Yeah, it is nice. After a while, you don't really need any more details, if there are any. At some point, what good does it do? That is awesome to hear. I am so happy for you! Ya, I completely found that the details hurt rather than helped...and really, they changed nothing. And the fact I caught ap in so many lies to me and confirmed what wh said...so getting worked up about what ap said was pointless...
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