wintersun Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 Greetings everyone, I'm in a LDR since February, and everything is going fine. But I'm net feeling well lately. I lost 13 pounds in two weeks. I barely eat. I can't concentrate at all, be it at work or when I am at home. My heart rate is accelerated all day long, and I feel constantly depressed. I found myself crying for almost everything. Of course this state of mine sometimes messes things up with my girlfriend. She is alone, in another Country, working from 9am until 9pm. And when we talk (every single day), sometimes we get upset because I'm stressed, sometimes I talk cold to her, I tend to argue over insignificant things. I really don't know what to do, because this is affecting my personal life (I stopped hanging out with my friends, all I want to do is arrive home ang get in bed), and also affecting my work. I just called a Doctor, and today after work I will have an appointment. I am so afraid of a depression. Just wanted to vent a bit Take care
justwhoiam Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 Hi, should I take this as a joke, I'd say: how lucky you are! I wish I lost 13 pounds in two weeks... Anyway, seriously, what is the cause of your malaise? First thing you need to assess whether it is physical or psychological. And just a few reasons not to be depressed: - you're lucky you have a girlfriend, many guys are not as lucky as you are - you have people loving you, that's always great and a wonderful gift, often underrated - many people in LDR cry because they fight, argue, etc. you just cry because she's far away; everyone can have weak moments, but don't let that get the best of you - you have a job, cherish it Now, that said, I guess the main problem when you fall for someone so bad is trying to find a balance. Take some time for yourself, to keep in shape for instance. Maybe draw up a list or a schedule to fit in a few things that are important: some culture, some entertainment, some fitness, friends, family time. The rest will be eating, sleeping and your girlfriend. Devote some time to planning when to meet her. By the way, were you with your girlfriend before February? Or is it a brand new love? Have you met this girl? 1
Bazukaz Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 Hi, You are not alone. Similar situation has just happened to me. She has left about three weeks ago. Did not even say good bye or said anything about that. Just left a text on the table "I am tired of routine. Don't try to find me. I love you". After a few days she wrote back. It turned out she is in a different country(france) searching for a job. I was very angry about that. After a long discussion over gmail talks she said it was too difficult for her to tell. That I don't understand but who can understand women? We do write by e-mail daily or so, but the distance seems to be increasing, and I feel worse day after day. Bad mood, anxiety and so on. I do not know if she is willing to return at all, but if does, what's next? What I found helps a bit: 1) taking a fast walk for an hour or so 2) bring myself to do something 3) meeting my friends 4) thinking about positive things of being alone Good luck. Lukas. 1
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