tpham18nm Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 (edited) So my girlfriend decided to moveout of my apartment after living with me for about 5 months. She’s been tellingme that she’s unhappy because of how I am. I suppose that it is my fault for not giving her enough, however the “issues” that she’s mad about seems so immature and… so to say… crazy? For instance, the last fight we got intobecause I was not as passionate in bed with her as I sometimes am. She always tells me “there is a difference between making love to me, and just banging me.” As a man, sometimes I just don’t want to make love to you, I rather justbang you. But there are insecurities that go with that from what I experience from previous relationships. It seems like all girls are the same? I heard this 3 times already, do I just attract these types of people?? Anyways I decided not to continue talking about the problem and I fell asleep at 2:00a.m. This morning she woke up, went to school, and came back and said “I’m moving out, I told you multiple times you are being different, and I’m tired of being at your convenience”(I hate that saying). So she left, but still insists to stay together! Of course it was difficult for me to see her go, but I accepted it like any person should, patted her leg andsaid I wish you the best. And she left. My question is, is it me? Or is it them? I mean! Yesterday she made dinner, got dressed up and picked me up from work. She said we should communicate more, so Isaid “Hey, my friend wants me to go to a bar” She said, “Do you want to go?” Isaid, “Yes, seems fun!” Than she went off and said “ YOUR SO UNGRATEFUL, IDRESSED UP, MADE DINNER, AND YOU WANT TO GO GET HELLA STUPID AT A BAR SURROUNDED BY GIRLS!!” Like really?? Really? Is that soo wrong? I stayed at the apartment. Shes not my mother, i do as i please. Its not like im cheating Edited April 4, 2013 by Gotpepsi
Noproblem Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 I guess, most girls want attention and love, give them that or just try to. If you can't do that, try to find others who can adjust with your personality and habits.
Author tpham18nm Posted April 4, 2013 Author Posted April 4, 2013 I dont believe that it is a bad habit, i just think that people like this is a sign of someone trying to be controlling?
Lani Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 Hold on... You girlfriend moved out, and you patted her leg and said I wish you the best? GAK! That's awful. Did you at least ask her to stay? If sounds like she's checking out of the relationship anyway, and if that's the case, probably nothing you do will satisfy her. Maybe just back off for a little bit so both of you can think about things a little more clearly.
Noproblem Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 I dont believe that it is a bad habit, i just think that people like this is a sign of someone trying to be controlling? I hate people who try to control my life I hate such behaviors too, like why would she tell you not to go out with your friends! Hey, I want my freedom and at the same time I'll give space to the other person....If he wanna cheat, he'll do it anywhere any time...It's selfish to deprive some people from their friends and social life, just because I want him for me and only me! This controlling habit is found in girls and guys, and is very annoying... But, at the same time, she cooked you a dinner and made an effort and you just ignored that and wanted to party all night! Not cool!
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